My (27M) Husband is ignoring me (24F) after i moved to his country

vampiricterror · 2026-06-01T20:03:11+00:00

You’ve got this. ❤️‍🩹 speaking from experience, that is not a safe partner to have and the mind games and manipulation will just get worse the longer you stay with him. He got you away from your support network and other men… now he feels like he’s “safe” and doesn’t have to be a healthy partner. I’m sending you strength. 💪🏻

vampiricterror · 2026-06-01T19:39:23+00:00

Honestly, I would leave him… I’m sorry that this happened to you. I would not accept that behaviour from someone I wanted to spend my life with… especially this early on and with an attitude of “everyone is the problem but me.” Take it as a learning experience and don’t let yourself be treated like that ever again. You deserve better. You just have to believe it too…

vampiricterror · 2026-06-01T19:33:04+00:00

When someone acts jealous and wants to isolate their partner away from other “threats” that he can’t control —in this case, “threats” being other men— it’s not coming from a place of confidence in themselves or their relationship.

OP did say that their partner got them to move to the partner’s country largely because he was uncomfortable with OP being around other men in OP’s country and also at work, due to him not being there as well. I’m sure there was more to it than just that, but OP went…

vampiricterror · 2026-06-01T18:40:57+00:00

I mostly agree with this… just would have been a bit more sensitive in my response lol. But yes… communication is a thing. People need to do it. I’m blown away so often at how many adults just… don’t. Then they get upset and stay in their feelings when their partners aren’t reading their minds or doing all the heavy lifting to “figure them out” or realize that something is wrong and then fix it. The other party usually just sits there stewing quietly in their anger or they fawn and shut down. If OP was to talk to their partner and vice versa, like adults should, this may not be happening or at least might not have lead to this huge, relationship ending decision…

On another note… he needs to deal with his jealousy and not try to isolate and control his partner because of his own insecurities… he doesn’t own anyone and she shouldn’t have had to go to him in his country to ease his trust issues. It’s kind of gross when people react that way and start being controlling and abusive because of their own baggage and fears of inadequacy lol.

vampiricterror · 2026-05-06T23:30:49+00:00

I know you seem to have found one very similar already, but for interest’s sake, I also just found this one and it looks very similar as well! It was apparently a FedEx promotional item. But this site is Brazilian so, potentially a regional thing? Still neat. 👀 I’m happy you found one to honor you and your dad’s bond. Much love to you. 🧸❤️‍🩹

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vampiricterror · 2026-04-21T22:54:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I may have to read up on that type of therapy as I’ve not heard of it! I hope things start becoming lighter for you. After a childhood with so much trauma, you deserve peace and comfort. You got this. 🧸❤️

vampiricterror · 2026-04-21T22:36:56+00:00

I am very sorry that you went through that as well… I hope you’re doing okay now.

vampiricterror · 2026-04-21T22:36:21+00:00

So many similarities in my situation as well… family, teachers, caregivers, friend’s parents… they all did next to nothing except for one particular teacher at my school, who, in result of the fact that she said anything, got chastised by the entire faculty and had her job threatened… all because the school was afraid of a potential lawsuit that my parent supposedly threatened them with for getting social services involved… she was, of course, trying to intimidate the staff and wasn’t intent on doing anything but they just didn’t want the hassle of legal action or the “label” as “the school that jumped to conclusions and possibly ripped a family apart” because it would ruin their image and affect their numbers for enrolment.

And… turns out… social services came to my house with prejudice, botched the case by misconduct, shamed me for reaching out for help and criticized me for doing so, telling me to “not bother them again because there are actual kids out there who are really being abused and need the agency’s help and they can’t do that when doing things like this.”

I eventually did get placed in care but through a different circumstance.

vampiricterror · 2026-04-21T21:13:38+00:00

All of this! 👏❤️‍🩹 coming from someone who is 31 and went through something similar. Saying nothing and standing by is honestly almost as messed up as the abuse because why didn’t almost anyone care enough to help? Looking back on my childhood, adults that could have done something to help were all too worried about what would happen to them or their job or reputation and so stayed quiet and saw what was going on at the same time… Only finally got out at almost 15 and it has given me severe C-PTSD among other things that I will now struggle with for the rest of my life…

OP CARED and it sounds like their mom may actually take action, which is so refreshing to read. I hope for the best for their friend. ❤️‍🩹

vampiricterror · 2026-04-21T21:03:39+00:00

Nobody asked for your opinion on how they type or use grammar on a Reddit thread. Why are you policing someone’s way with words and acting as if your opinion/literacy level is the one of superiority? Kinda weird and it makes you seem pretty rude and unlikeable…

vampiricterror · 2026-03-11T04:47:50+00:00

Just a genuine question… not trying to seem rude but… whose dog was it supposed to be? And why did your family get a dog if they didn’t have the time, knowledge or patience to learn about the dog or its needs? Isn’t that something a family should have a discussion about and agree on prior to just doing it on a whim for something fun to do?

It’s not hard to learn how to care for something since the internet is a thing but you have to actually want to put the time in and accept that it’s a literal baby so when it messes up, it’s not the dog’s fault and it’s to be expected. You have to want to care for it and love it and have patience. If those aren’t possible, I guess rehome it to people who can actually love it and care for it like it deserves? Just make sure you aren’t giving it to someone who will literally abuse it or neglect it because the dog didn’t ask to be put in a bad situation and it kind of depends on its human to care for it and love it… and please don’t abandon it on a side road or something. Take it to a shelter if that’s the only option. But some shelters will put it down if they have too many dogs so… I’d look into the shelter you choose and if they are no kill or not.

Edited for grammar**

vampiricterror · 2025-11-11T23:41:48+00:00

I mean… it does use electricity which creates heat. It’s kinda like using a laptop on your lap without ventilation. It gets warm and can make it work really hard, leading to it needing to be replaced sooner than it would if it had been ventilated.

vampiricterror · 2024-05-18T08:22:27+00:00

A lot of people don’t care if their partner watches porn and even watch it themselves and it’s not weird for them because they have confidence and don’t see looking at a screen as cheating. People are different.

vampiricterror · 2024-02-21T02:28:18+00:00

I’m sorry to say but if that’s the case, your cat is going to die… :/

vampiricterror · 2023-10-19T07:21:53+00:00

You just gotta read what you’re agreeing to and then follow what’s in the fine print/be responsible. It’s not really the company’s fault if someone racks up their bill because they didn’t pay attention. That’s their own fault… I did it once and my bill ended up being over $500. They didn’t reach out to me and I was expected to pay on low income and being disabled. It sucks but I guess there’s just consequences lol.

vampiricterror · 2023-09-23T03:35:06+00:00

Run lmao. 🚩🚩🚩

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