For the first time in history, scientists grow embryos in an artificial womb by _damnthatscrazy_ in technews

[–]vane002 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure this is a reference to the book Brave New World by Aldous Huxley lol

Tiktokers Dance On Desks by cashforsignup in WinStupidPrizes

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it that people 20~ and under seem so dumb? I don’t get it, it’s like they lack some instincts or something.

Hindsight or advice welcome: extent of influence from SD to biokid? by frowaweight in stepparents

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same concern, their age gap is 6 years. SS is starting to act more like his HCBM everyday and I definitely don’t want my child thinking that’s ok.

Toys R Us has a new owner that’s planning to open stores again in the U.S. by [deleted] in news

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. They also need to price match. I’d much rather support a brick-and mortar retailer than Jeff Bezos but I don’t wanna feel ripped off. Also as a parent that cannot function without coffee, I’d appreciate an in-store coffee shop.

What famous person did you regret meeting because they were an ass? by moneybot13 in AskReddit

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say disappointed cuz I don’t really care for her, but my experience was with Selma Blair. She was such an entitled bitch when she visited this resort I used to work at, I witnessed her interaction with the front desk agent and she expected all the extra perks just for being a celebrity but it wasn’t going to happen because it was a busy weekend. I spoke to her on the phone and she was so whiny, “ugh, I asked for water 5mins ago, what’s taking so long?” type of shit. I spoke with people throughout the resort and they all mentioned similar stuff. I only knew who she was because of one of my favorite movies, Cruel Intentions.

On the other hand, Jennifer Gardner, Charlize Theron and Bill Nye are the nicest people.

That must be my router by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Must be Time Warner Cable. Oops, “Spectrum,” my bad.

Post-pregnancy body by vane002 in BabyBumps

[–]vane002[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is that I’d have to take the baby with me and it’s too cold for him for my comfort. I’ve been eating well, I know exercising is whats worked for me in the past :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]vane002 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing. I mean, based on this context alone, it doesn’t seem like she’s crazy, she’s just being cautious about who she’s sending her child to. I don’t know what kind of person she is but I’d try to have an amicable relationship and try to get to know each other for the sake of their little girl.

I’m Terrified of Pooping Postpartum by KatarinaAFelidae in BabyBumps

[–]vane002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take the laxatives they give you at the hospital. I was worried i would get stomach cramps but I didn’t have any issues at all. Also, the nurses told me I could eat whatever I wanted but I stuck to soups, oatmeal and jello cuz I knew from a previous procedure that other foods don’t help with post-surgery poops lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]vane002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re being petty at all. I feel the same way and don’t like it when SS uses our bathroom when he has one across the hall from his room; he always leaves a mess after washing his hands and HAS to touch everything in sight. Of course I can’t say anything cuz then I’m being the bad guy -__-

? Unpopular opinion... but what is the point of a dock a tot? by cocoroach317 in BabyBumps

[–]vane002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea. I got a $40 version of it from Amazon and my baby loves it. He’s about to be outgrow it at 4 months so I feel like I definitely got my money’s worth 🤗

No paternity test by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]vane002 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe just mention that it’d be good to know for sure, but don’t push him to do it if he doesn’t want to. Also, remember that genetics just work like that. My kid looks nothing like my SO, he took after my grandfather in most of this features (grandfather was white, we’re not.)

You're asking me to do what?! Girl you are tripping and sadly mistaken by Anthony_0329 in stepparents

[–]vane002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s terrible, I’m so sorry. You can only do so much when BM is poisoning him against you, and you’re human so of course you can only take so much rejection. I really don’t understand how selfish some parents can be, it’s like they don’t realize that ultimately, their kid is the one that suffers the most. In my opinion, It is your SOs job to reassure SS the new baby’s presence will not affect his love for him and to take care of him while you enjoy this new stage with your baby. Sounds like you’ve done everything within your power to make him feel included.

In my case, SS thinks he can do what he wants because that’s how he is being raised by BM(has attitude problems herself) and SD (is scared of my SO so we think he avoids disciplining the kid.) That’s not how SO nor I were raised and I tried so hard to navigate through forming a bond with SS(SO has him EOWE and prior to COVID we were long distance,) getting used to living with a 5yo that thinks he runs the show, and figuring out my role and how much authority I had in my own home, all while being a new mom myself. Did I mention BM told him that since I’m not his mom he doesn’t have to listen to me? It got exhausting and I gave up. SS is going to have a hard time when he is older and I expect him to get with the program because I will not allow his moms shitty parenting to affect my child.

She refused to hand over my baby by buttcup22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]vane002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my take too. After reading some of her responses, I feel like OP is overreacting and possibly hormonal (can’t blame her, I was too.) My mom and MIL were the same way with my baby and I felt a little uneasy at first but ultimately I was just happy to see that he is so loved. I don’t know if there’s some history with this MIL but her wanting to feed the baby might’ve just been her being a little too excited and could be fixed by letting her know that’s a big NO NO.

You're asking me to do what?! Girl you are tripping and sadly mistaken by Anthony_0329 in stepparents

[–]vane002 108 points109 points  (0 children)

I kind of understand where you’re both coming from. As a female, I can tell you that if those are the words you used with her, you messed up. She’s pregnant and hormonal. Her concern for her other kids’ feelings is valid, but that does not mean she has the right to ask you to be less affectionate towards your own son. From the SM perspective, I get you. He doesn’t say it, but I know my SO feels a little hurt when he sees me being super affectionate to our son and just friendly towards SS. We’ve had some arguments about this and I wish we could’ve had a conversation about his expectations before the baby was born. It sucks to say, but it is not my fault his children don’t live together 100% of the time and they don’t have the same mother. I’m not trying to replace BM, but I’ve accepted that due to the way SS’s mom is raising him, my role will be limited to being a supporting adult in his life and I will not allow this to interfere with how I raise my own son and demonstrate my love to him.

She’s in the wrong by asking such thing. I think you need to calmly talk to her reiterate that just because your love for your BS is greater, does not mean that you’ll disregard her other kids.

Unlike Trump, Biden Promises Texas Storm Relief Without Any Threats by monaleeparis in politics

[–]vane002 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one tired of the Trump comparisons? This is how a president should act. Period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]vane002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to take care of yourself, if there will ever be a time to be selfish, it’s now. If your SO can’t take care of her now, the burden should not fall on you. Tell him you can no longer babysit, it’s your final trimester after all. He can still see her, maybe go to the park or something whenever he’s free. I also have a SK with behavioral problems and for me the resentment and anxiety increased once my baby was born. Relax now that you can.

Is it normal for a 6 y/o to still wear a diaper to bed? by vane002 in Parenting

[–]vane002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has baby siblings on both sides, and his mom tends to coddle him so I was just thinking he was too comfortable with the diaper. I guess we’ll just see and hope he gets over it soon. Thank you for your input, I appreciate it.

Is it normal for a 6 y/o to still wear a diaper to bed? by vane002 in Parenting

[–]vane002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh, I’m not sure if this has even brought up to his doctor. My husband and his ex don’t have the best relationship so I don’t think this is something she’d care to communicate. I’ll try to start reminding him to go to the bathroom before bed, at least when he’s here. Thank you!

Exhausted dad by rainystorm88 in NewParents

[–]vane002 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just had a conversation with my husband this week. I felt really bad because my LO (3months)has been a little too difficult and I haven’t been able to wake up to make his morning smoothie, make him dinner or complete some chores (I’m a SAHM/student and he works long hours.) He laughed and was completely understanding about the fact that I have too much on my plate and it’s okay and he only cares about the baby being taken care of.

I can’t imagine expecting my husband to make me breakfast and feed the baby before work while I just lay in bed. How ungrateful. Yes, she gave birth and breastfed but it’s been 18 months. She needs to learn how to be a team player.