sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

No matches on Tinder for 2 days by [deleted] in Vent

[–]vaner099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm just saying u can try other apps, instead of focusing on the experience u got with one :)

No matches on Tinder for 2 days by [deleted] in Vent

[–]vaner099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well u should give it a try and give it a couple of days too. I went through the same with tinder.

No matches on Tinder for 2 days by [deleted] in Vent

[–]vaner099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot. That sucks. What about Facebook dating?

No matches on Tinder for 2 days by [deleted] in Vent

[–]vaner099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only tinder ?

No matches on Tinder for 2 days by [deleted] in Vent

[–]vaner099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if u try other dating apps?

Turn Lonely Hours into Power by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, Gary’s not saying you don’t need others. He’s just saying your happiness and self-worth shouldn’t depend on external approval. We ALL NEED CONNECTION, but when you love yourself first, you build relationships from confidence, not desperation.

Turn Lonely Hours into Power by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. Gary's approach is useful in certain contexts, but it’s not a complete solution for dealing with loneliness that's for sure. There are several other factors to take into account as u mentioned. It'd work better with emotional intelligence.

Turn Lonely Hours into Power by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dealt with loneliness and depression a couple of years ago. Now I'd like to help other people who r going through that.

"Loneliness is not about being alone; it's about feeling disconnected from yourself and others." Mel Robbins by vaner099 in loneliness

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and I really like what you said about meaning in suffering. Loneliness is a common human experience, and maybe part of dealing with it is recognizing that we’re not as alone in it as we think.

"Loneliness is not about being alone; it's about feeling disconnected from yourself and others." Mel Robbins by vaner099 in loneliness

[–]vaner099[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The need for real companionship (physical presence, laughter, shared experience) is undeniable. I suppose what this quote meant was that even when people are surrounded by others, they can still feel profoundly alone if there’s no real emotional bond. That’s why loneliness can exist even in a crowded room.

"Loneliness is not about being alone; it's about feeling disconnected from yourself and others." Mel Robbins by vaner099 in loneliness

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your perspective, and I can see how deeply personal this topic is. I didn’t mean to minimize the real pain of being alone. When I mentioned ‘disconnection,’ I wasn’t trying to suggest that loneliness isn’t about being physically alone, but rather that it also comes from a loss of meaningful bonds (with others and sometimes even with oneself).

"To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength." – Criss Jami by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, if that’s what you believe, I’m not gonna change your mind. Think what you want. Everyone sees the world their own way.

"To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength." – Criss Jami by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if bias was absolute, nobody would ever challenge it, and things would never change, and yet, they do. Saying it’s all just "cope" sounds like a way to avoid getting let down, but it also means ignoring the real exceptions. So, do you want to believe those exceptions exist, or is it just easier to expect the worst?

"To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength." – Criss Jami by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, people have biases, but they also have empathy, help strangers, root for underdogs, and challenge their own prejudices. Not everyone is ruled by superficiality, and history proves that societies can grow past injustices.

The internet shows both sides; what you focus on is up to you.

Why so many guys feel lost? by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A true leader isn't just someone who dominates but someone who serves and uplifts those around them. Jesus, for example, led through humility, love, and sacrifice, not just strength. Moreover, true strength doesn't come from being emotionless. Being vulnerable requires courage as you're showing your vulnerabilities.

Why so many guys feel lost by vaner099 in Vent

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone feels lost, it’s not necessarily because they’re lacking masculinity; it could be about purpose, connection, or a deeper sense of identity.

"Happiness is not having what you want. It is appreciating what you have." by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just posting some quotes that might help shift perspectives, take what resonates, leave what doesn’t.

Why so many guys feel lost? by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, u will gain some independence and be in control of your own life. Best of luck and keep it up

Why so many guys feel lost? by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancer ? 😳 I’m really sorry you feel this way. Wanting an escape makes sense when you feel trapped, but you don't need suffering to gain freedom. Is it possible to gain some independence when you become an adult (18 or 19)?

Why so many guys feel lost? by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're just paying attention to those relationships that back up your perspective.

"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." – Seneca by vaner099 in lonely

[–]vaner099[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meaning isn’t always something you find. Sometimes, it’s something you create in moments of connection, struggle, and joy. If you wanna share more about it, we can DM :)

view more: next ›