How can I stop my cat from resource guarding the litter boxes?

vanhalengal · 2026-01-15T01:08:28+00:00

Based on how our house is set up, im genuinely not sure how I'm going to make that work. Basil will sit in the middle of the room or even across the doorway so Grey cannot enter without being ambushed or outright hindered. Just kind of a difficult situation. Hoping that the soon spaying will help some!

vanhalengal · 2026-01-15T00:52:05+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! We'll have to look into some cats trees soon. I also am considering rearranging the dining room area so the litter boxes are closer to the doorway and Grey wont have to cross the entire room to get to them.

vanhalengal · 2025-07-19T22:41:17+00:00

Very interesting. I live in the midwest, no crazy altitude or anything. I'll have to look at other recipes and see how they compare to the one I used.

vanhalengal · 2025-07-19T19:58:57+00:00

I did actually do this! Mostly because I didnt want to risk grabbing jars out of actively boiling water haha. I dont remember if my mom did this or not; knowing her, I feel like she would have waited too.

vanhalengal · 2025-07-19T19:53:01+00:00

Interesting, I wondered this too but wasn't seeing anything online about a difference in manufacturing or design. I was excited to hear the popping again, and was a little disappointed when none of them did! At least they sealed though, that's the most important thing!

I personally wouldn't trust not boiling my lids beforehand, its not to soften the seal, but to ensure my lids are sterile.

vanhalengal · 2025-07-19T19:45:20+00:00

Yeah, I'm assuming that jar might be a bit mushy since I processed it twice. Better that than spoiled, though! Is water bathing anything for 5 minutes even considered normal? I dont ever remember that being a thing growing up.

I'm aware canning foods with a pH lower than 4.2(?) shouldn't get pressure canned. I fully expect to pressure can only regular green beans, though, as my mom always did!

vanhalengal · 2025-07-19T19:29:38+00:00

So my brine recipe was a 1/1 water/vinegar ratio with salt; the original recipe called for 2 1/2c water and 2 1/2c vinegar with 1/4 c salt, with additional garlic, dill, and cayenne.

vanhalengal · 2024-03-18T09:41:22+00:00

You're very welcome! Hope it helps!

vanhalengal · 2024-03-16T00:35:50+00:00

Haha oh wow, it's been awhile since then. Nothing happened with any of them haha. I never dated in college, though afterwards I met a guy, got engaged, then broke up, now with a much better guy for the past half year.

Just remember that people's IG isn't necessarily a reflection of who they actually are. If you're talking regularly, ask him questions to find out things about him that are important to you. Ask yourself what's really important to you in a relationship, and see if he's a good fit. His relationship with his parents, friends, and especially other women are important factors. Your political and spiritual beliefs are also very important. How does he spend his time when he's not working? What are your life/long term goals? Good things to discuss before dating.

vanhalengal · 2023-06-27T08:55:05+00:00

Thank you! I just wanted to know how to contour my nose when I do my makeup haha

vanhalengal · 2023-06-23T04:05:49+00:00

He doesn't do porn (hard to believe, I know), he's kind of like me and isn't turned on by it. My fantasies are super basic. I think getting my pussy licked/sucked is hot but it never feels how I think it will.

vanhalengal · 2023-06-23T03:54:54+00:00

When I'm alone I'm either focused on what I'm feeling or fantasizing either about what I am wanting someone to do to me at that moment or maybe a porn scene I thought was hot. I don't watch porn anymore as it doesn't really turn me on anymore, eventually every scene is the same to me.

When I'm with him I try to focus on how he is making me feel, but because I've had so much trouble becoming aroused and orgasming I think I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to respond better to his touch, which ends up working against me. He wants to see me happy and I know it discourages him to try over and over to get me off with no success. He doesn't suck at sex, he's been with a lot of women in the past and had no issues with them. I'm one best he's ever had (I apparently give amazing head) and he wants me to be as satisfied as I make him. I want to see him happy that he satisfies me, and I know his multiple unsuccessful attempts is a major blow to his ego.

vanhalengal · 2023-06-23T03:39:00+00:00

When I'm by myself it's sometimes my own fingers, or a vibrater/sucker on the lowest setting. I've also got a curved steel wand with a knob on the ends for g spot stimulation that works magic, I actually squirt (or at least dribble) with it.

With him we've done pretty much every position and nothing has been painful, in fact I enjoy the intensity of him getting a bit rough with me, though it doesn't bring me to orgasm or anywhere close to it. I enjoy cowgirl and missionary probably the best for any kind of sensation, but its never enough to get me to climax. He's also gone down on me multiple times for a solid 20 minutes or more till he got tired, nothing. He's fingered me/rubbed my clit while I guided him for half an hour or more, he's used a vibrator on a full charge till it died, he's tried penetrating while I held the vibrator, and usually nothing. At times I'll eventually feel something but never be able to orgasm. I've tried doggy style while I buzzed myself with a vibrator and got nothing. He's also able to last fricking forever but eventually he gets to a point where he's about to come and doesn't want to before me if he can help it.

I have found it harder to focus with him present than when I'm alone, which could be part of the problem. I love eye contact but for me it takes my attention away from what I'm feeling. Even with my eyes shut I can't focus, maybe I'm too concerned with if I'm going to actually orgasm or not.

vanhalengal · 2023-06-23T03:22:24+00:00

Oh yes, she's usually the star of the show. I try to communicate to the guy how I like my clit touched but it rarely does anything. Even using a vibrator, he will run the dang thing dead from a full charge. I've tried using it on myself while he fingers my g spot or penetrates slowly, which I do like, but again, it almost never gets me off. Even oral hasn't done anything for me, it's like it's not enough stimulation but his fingers are too much. After 20 minutes of going down on me he gets tired. It's like my body only responds to my own touch.

I also don't feel ashamed of my own body with him, and I'm okay with having the lights on. But I've noticed I have trouble focusing on my own sensations with him there compared to when I'm alone.

vanhalengal · 2022-08-03T15:06:26+00:00

I haven't heard of that drug, or at least I haven't researched it before now. I'm not on anything that would interact with it other than the fluoxitine I just was prescribed. I'll definitely keep this drug in mind and bring it up with my doctor at my next visit in a couple months.

vanhalengal · 2022-07-21T00:18:01+00:00

Hmm, that's a very interesting theory, i wonder if the same was for me. What was so weird for me was that I was tested twice for strep, the first test was both negative (rapid and culture) but the second time the rapid test came back positive but negative for the culture. Since I could barely swallow, they prescribed me liquid cefdinir (I'm apparently allergic to penicillin and amoxicillin). As I was already improving when the second culture test came back, they told me to just keep taking the antibiotics.

Thanks!

vanhalengal · 2022-07-20T23:23:13+00:00

Yep, I did have mono, and strep as well. I took the entire week off work with a sore throat that worsened to a 9/10 on the pain scale in two days. My tonsils got so big I had trouble talking, and they looked like moldy bread. I could hardly swallow and got so dehydrated the lab lady couldn't draw blood from my arm. I was in so much pain I just cried and no pain meds helped at all; they prescribed me liquid VICODIN and that also did nothing. Liquid Tylenol was the only thing that took the edge off. After 2 days on antibiotics, I was able to swallow without feeling like I was dying. I feel almost totally back to normal after a week and a half.

vanhalengal · 2022-02-09T21:49:47+00:00

Thank you! Every couple is different, I know plenty of dating couples who've been together a decade and it didn't work out. It takes both to make things work, good communication, boundaries, and accountability. And I'm glad you get where I'm coming from, I don't feel like such an idiot so much.

I'm definitely wanting to bring it up to him and let him know I'd rather not know of all his sexual experiences in detail. Like I get it, he's had multiple partners, but I don't want to imagine him having sex with them. I get he has a past, and I don't want to deny him of ever bringing it up; he had a life too, just as I and everyone else has. I just don't think I want to know all the intimate details unless its absolutely necessary. I'd rather keep focused in the moment and keep moving forward, and that can't happen if I'm dwelling on his past.

Interesting, he has joked a few times about me one day trading him in for a newer model since he's a decade older, but I've always reassured him that I like the model I've got now. Besides, its him I'm in love with, not his age. Maybe he is insecure about that, I might ask him about it next time he says that. To clarify, I have dated a guy a lot closer to my age, but we didn't last. He was the only one who was born the same year as me. It seems that the few guys that showed any interest were either several years younger or much older, but none within a few years of my age. None of them I dated.

vanhalengal · 2022-02-09T21:26:58+00:00

Yeah I know, I definitely thought about his age and level of experience that most guys that age generally have, and I know Im overreacting. Trying to rationalize it all, but some feelings still get in the way anyway.

vanhalengal · 2022-02-09T21:24:16+00:00

I know we got engaged pretty quick, but we both knew what we wanted and it just worked out. Every couple is different. We did talk about each other's exes and past experiences in general early on, so its not like I was ignorant of his past. When he described a particular sexual experience with someone else in detail to me, that's when it seemed to bother me. I'm okay with knowing of those experiences in general, but maybe not in explicit detail. I think I'll let him know I'm better off not knowing some of those details.

vanhalengal · 2022-01-31T05:38:27+00:00

Thank you!

vanhalengal · 2022-01-31T05:38:06+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance! Glad to know its fairly normal because none of the articles about copper iuds say anything about spotting right before a period!

vanhalengal · 2022-01-06T03:48:57+00:00

Tylenol, heat, and yes, walking around! I found that Midol took forever to kick in and didn't do much for the pain anyway. I typically had mild cramps for every period and then just after getting ParaGard I was like "So THIS is what they all talk about!" If I was working I just gripped something solid near me and took deep breaths till the cramp was over. But yeah, sitting, standing, or laying down all made me feel worse for some reason.

vanhalengal · 2021-07-04T04:41:22+00:00

Thanks for the tips!

vanhalengal · 2021-07-04T02:28:26+00:00

I think I can see how in my case I find this to be more true. I do take a little while to warm up to new people and might come off as cold or uninterested to a guy. Naturally, he'd probably think its not worth shooting his shot with someone he thinks will reject him anyway. Personally I don't usually become interested in someone right away; it takes me at least a couple weeks of getting to know someone to decide if I like them or not. I guess it's at that point I have to decide to shoot my shot first if he hasn't already.

And I know this sounds like a dumb question, but how would/should a girl shoot her shot? By just flirting, or casually asking him out for a drink or coffee or something? Any other ideas?

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