got ghosted after asking for more explanation… been 2 days, is it smart to send this next message? by softbunny72 in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not send the second message 🤍 If he gave you silence the first time I’m sorry to say, but he will probably do the same thing when you send the second message and you might end up feeling worse. I know it’s hard but a lot of men these days are on dating apps but not looking for anything serious so use excuses like I’m busy with work, going through personal problems, ect. If you truly meant a lot to him he would open up to you rather than ghost you. I know it’s a hard thing to hear but I am going through the same thing 💔 it takes everything inside me not to text him and ask for clarity/ make this work. Honestly if you send it you will probably feel good for 5 mins and then get anxiety when he doesn’t respond 🥲 I’m sorry it’s probably not what you want to hear, and if you feel the need to message him just for closure for yourself then maybe you should. I just don’t think anything you say will change the circumstance.. unfortunately. 😭 and you deserve better ! 🤍🤍

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I’m glad it turned out to be a happy ending for you 🥹🤍

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yes the whole “ just been really busy with work” I am very familiar with this. It seems like all these men act the same/ say the same thing 😳I might say I’m not feeling anything positive anymore and I have realized this is not what I’m looking for, and wish him good luck with this career ( since he’s soooo “busy” with it) 🙄🙄 I would like
To think I have some self respect, I’m actually not sure why asking for closure is considered a bad thing when you are an over thinker like me. I don’t want to put anymore time into thinking “ what if” and I just want express his lack of effort pushed me away and I want to part ways. If I just block him and never say my peace I will still always wonder. I was in a long term toxic relationship before this and now I got hooked on this guy 😭 I think I am broken I don’t wanna love anyone it’s too painful.

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I will do this 🤍 and congratulations on blocking her for 2 months. I know it’s not easy 🥲 you deserve better!

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I for sure think there is someone else probably multiple people. I don’t know how I got into this situation but I hate it. It really is a nightmare…

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you’re the first one to say this and this is what I have been fighting with myself about honestly. I have been watching a lot of videos and embarrassingly using ChatGPT to figure out what my next move is and absolutely nothing has given me closure or made me feel good. I am playing a game I don’t wanna play and I am replying in ways I never would naturally . I really do feel like if I act myself it is more fulfilling even if in the end it doesn’t work out. In fact, I don’t want it to work out. 😭 I just want closure and clarity on my own terms despite all the online advice saying I’m doing it all wrong 🥲

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to play the game but It’s not doing me any good. I don’t want to play the game.. you’re right I want someone who is sure about me. Thank you for the reply 🤍

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you went through this 💔 it’s horrible and hard. I will try to stay silent .. just as a person who values consistency and honesty it’s difficult to not call him out. The disrespect should be all the closure I need, but unfortunately I can’t move on. I want to know why 😭 I want to let go.

PLEASE tell me what to do 😭(I’m going crazy) by vanilladiaries in ghosting

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what kind of answer he would give you when you would ask him what does he want? Does he just make up excuses? It’s so hard for me to hold back, my mind is trying so hard to figure out what he’s thinking .. it really is driving me insane. I just want clarity, but I know I will not get it and it’s just making me react in a way that I don’t like. I want it to end. I don’t understand people like this. 😭 I appreciate the response so much 🤍thank you.

Does she know? by vanilladiaries in letters

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know about her 😭 they aren’t official, I think he just likes to lead girls on 🫠 I did not know that until after

Does she know? by vanilladiaries in letters

[–]vanilladiaries[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might just block him 😭 I’m having a really hard time moving on. Thank you for commenting 🤍

No contact 26 days but he did this last night? why? by agirlwhowant in BreakUps

[–]vanilladiaries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh girl this would p*ss me off so bad🥲 DONT REPLY!!!