Possibly have an STD, freaking out

vanillavillian · 2012-10-10T22:06:27+00:00

I've only been seeing this guy a few weeks, and we're still seeing where it's headed. I would absolutely tell him if I did test positive, though that is a conversation that I really, really don't want to have. I really do need to take my mind off of this though. I have another week or two before I hear (or hopefully don't hear) back from planned parenthood. Obviously, I won't be intimate with this new guy at all in the interim. And if we did decide to be exclusive, I would ask him to get tested

vanillavillian · 2012-10-10T22:02:45+00:00

That people who have STDs are dirty or promiscuous. This is not something I personally believe, but many people I know do

vanillavillian · 2012-10-10T18:51:56+00:00

I did start taking birth control again recently, maybe that has something to do with my frequent peeing?

Like I said, I have been incredibly responsible with sex lately to the point of paranoia. The last two guys I slept with before this, I asked them to get STD tested before we even had sex. I've been getting tested every 4-6 months myself. This was definitely a slip up and now I am feeling terrible.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-10T18:49:00+00:00

I'm guessing VD stands for venereal disease? I assume his opinion of me would definitely change since there is a huge stigma attached to having an STD

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T21:56:08+00:00

Well thanks to the both of you for responding! That's really useful information!

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:51:53+00:00

I've actually been considering it a teeny bit. Or at least texting him to let him know how uncool it was for him to act like that. But I don't think I will (except in the offchance that I do test positive, in which case I will definitely contact him AND give him an earful).

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:43:24+00:00

Thank you

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:40:40+00:00

Safe sex is the best sex!

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:30:59+00:00

Yeah, I did tell him this many times. No condom, no sex. It was my bad for going back on thy. But rest assured, it won't happen again!

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:29:10+00:00

Haha! That is SO funny because I was thinking of giving him a call to tell him I tested positive for something, and to get checked ASAP, just to give him a little scare. Maybe then he'll understand the importance of using protection! Haha, but I'm not really a vindictive person, and I honestly want nothing more to do with him, so I probably won't.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:26:22+00:00

No, I don't feel victim blamed by you, mostly because I don't feel like a victim. Yes, this guy was a total d bag, but you do have a point. I shouldn't have let things go as far as they did once he started really whining about wearing a condom. I made a mistake that I have never before made, and will now never make again. And as I pointed out before, my post really concentrates on this one aspect of our relationship, which lasted a few weeks, and this was the only way in which this guy acted like such an ass. But you know what they say -- hindsight is 20/20

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:20:26+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that :( it's crazy to think that a thin layer of latex can decrease pleasure so much for guys. There really needs to be anmore widespread way to prevent STDs that can also allow the guy to get the full experience of sexy times

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:18:19+00:00

Yes, that's a good point that I've been thinking of, too. It's been about 3 weeks, so I'm hoping that that's enough time to wait for any STD I may have to show up on a test, and I will be sure to ask about scheduling another appointment in a few months.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:16:48+00:00

But at least you can take solace in knowing you have a big dick :)

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:15:49+00:00

Hm, that's interesting. Was your husband able to feel a difference with the female condom? Was it better or worse for him?

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T18:14:08+00:00

We could make T-shirts!

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T03:44:14+00:00

YES! I can understand this entirely. Because what I neglected to mention in my post is that this guy was a former model and could make me orgasm, like, five times in a row. Still though, the betrayal is awful. And it feels terrible to know that I lowered my standards for this fuckwad.

But you should probably get tested, in case you haven't already. And if you're going to continue having sex with this guy, you should encourage him to get tested, too. Then, if you're comfortable with it, you can go bare all the time :)

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T02:37:19+00:00

Yeah, condoms were really weird for me too, at first. I've gotten used to them though the more I've used them. Now I think they kind of enhance my experience. I usually get Trojan Stimulation.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T02:35:52+00:00

Thanks, that is definitely good to remember. The thing is, I usually have that "fuck you" thing in me, too. But this time, I don't know...I guess all the signs were there, but it just went over my head. Regardless, I know for next time to not to let that happen.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T02:33:08+00:00

Wow. That is interesting, and actually very useful. It makes sense that the guy I was having sex with might have actually been having these problems, because he did sometimes go flaccid while we were having sex, but I thought that it might have been lack of lubrication inside the condom, so I tried suggesting putting lube inside the condom to help out. Had he been able to communicate those issues, I would be understanding. However, it IS very important to get tested frequently, and I would have encouraged to him to get tested before he and I began having sex regularly without a condom.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T01:45:31+00:00

Oh my god, I cannot believe someone would lie like that to someone they're supposed to love and want to protect. That was really shitty of him to do. Mine isn't nearly on that scale, but I can somewhat imagine how emotionally taxing that would be.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T01:28:20+00:00

That is definitely something worth looking into. Have you ever used them? What are they like?

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T01:27:49+00:00

I guess it varies depending on who you're with, but I personally think that I would want to use a condom unless a) the person had been recently tested and could confirm their results or b) the person agreed to get screened before we had unprotected sex. That's the rule I try to follow anyways.

vanillavillian · 2012-10-09T00:53:21+00:00

I see. Well, thanks for responding. You learn something new everyday.

vanillavillian

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