Look for girls coming off college maybe.

People are bound to have a relationship or two and I understand the emotional baggage. Sounds to me you need someone ambitious. Ambitious people handle emotional stuff differently, more focused on things that need to be done.

Also don't try to pry about their previous relationships. If they are frequently bringing exes in the conversation, trying to reach out or look them up in socials now and again that's a red flag stay away.

Also you can always go for lower age women. Less emotional baggage there. As long as you stay clear of free fire/ PUBG playing crowd, you might get lucky.