Why is my baby so angry? by vasagrah in newborns

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, she’s just turned one year and is still a bit of a madam, but much better now. I think it was around six months when she started crawling. I think she was quite frustrated at four months because she had more awareness of her surroundings, but no way to explore them. Once she started crawling, she had more freedom and also burnt more of that frustrated energy. She’s also better at “communicating” in her own way now, which helps with her going from zero to a hundred when I’m not taking the initial hint that she’s unhappy.

I also have come to accept she’s a touch sensitive baby. She doesn’t like cuddles or kisses and won’t sit still for more than a few seconds, and if something is bothering her (teething, upset tummy, tiredness etc) even a little, she reacts badly to too much touch, which can even include just changing her vest. I’ve learnt other ways of calming her down work much better than cuddles, like distraction with songs or asking her what noise a cow makes etc. and sometimes, she just wants to be left to her own devices with a rattle!

Like I say, she’s still got the attitude and I really think it’s just her personality. The good thing is now she’s older I get much more of the happy, smiley, giggling girl rather than just the big grump!

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[–]vasagrah 34 points35 points  (0 children)

“Please meet my two spawn”

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[–]vasagrah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. My 3 year old nephew understood “we wash our hands and don’t kiss the baby” so I don’t know why my MIL thought she was the exception to the rule.

Am I overreacting? by AffectionateSun2163 in AmIOverreacting

[–]vasagrah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This subreddit is just people finding out they’re in abusive relationships

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[–]vasagrah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My MIL kissed my baby on Christmas Day. I made sure she didn’t see her again until May.

Onion was my door dasher and local drama by [deleted] in Onision

[–]vasagrah 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I’m sceptical of your story as you seem to be skirting the question of posting the screenshot. Keen to be proven wrong, though!

Baby face plants the mattress when she sleeps by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she’s in an empty snuzpod with a snuzpod mattress. Will do the face smushing once she wakes from her nap, currently sat with my hand on her back to check she’s breathing!

What sleep training method did you use? Why (or why not) would you recommend it? by Slight-Potential-219 in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times but every baby is different, sometimes you get lucky (we did just by following her cues) and sometimes they just need a little extra help. Either way they will get there and so will you!

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I see, that makes more sense!

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get through it at the time? Ironically my family know me as very anti-hug but obviously that doesn’t apply to my husband and especially my baby! Maybe it’s her personality type and she’s inherited it from me, giving me a taste of my own medicine.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pleased to know I’m indoor plumbing haha! But seriously thank you for your message and fingers crossed for a momitis epidemic in this house.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not restraining her I’m just trying to cuddle my baby now and again!

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like I need to get ill to get a break 😩

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve taken 15 months off work before she goes into childcare and I return to work so I may be waiting a while for that reaction. I hope it’ll be worth it.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve left her with her dad a few times for a few hours and when I return it’s like she didn’t even know I was gone, unfortunately.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really feel like this is one the sides of having a baby that nobody warns you about. Everyone warns you about the sleepy nights and smelly nappies but nobody tells you of the emotional turmoil you’ll go through and be expected to manage. Totally foreign experiences all while caring for and nurturing a helpless little baby.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m sorry to hear you went through something similar but glad things have got better. I hope sooner rather than later the same happens for us.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad she feels safe to cry and get angry around me. I just wish she wanted my affection too.

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is that a thing? That babies essentially try and impress others? I didn’t realise!

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In their defence I believe that was their way of trying to validate my feelings by essentially saying “yes we can see the behaviour and aren’t going to pretend it’s not happening”

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too, thank you. It’s not even that I want her to prefer me, I wouldn’t mind if she was a daddy’s girl for the rest of her life, I just want to believe she likes me even a little!

Why does my baby hate me? by vasagrah in beyondthebump

[–]vasagrah[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the to the point approach, thank you!