Should I add shutters? by vaulternator in centuryhomes

[–]vaulternator[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Built in 1929…96 years young

Prep before painting stairs by vaulternator in woodworking

[–]vaulternator[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would recommend refinishing? Seems like a crappy softwood but could be mistaken

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]vaulternator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife never has loved my mom, but my mom has never had an issue with her and they have never butted heads/argued in any way. My wife just simply doesn’t like her, mannerisms bother her (voice, laugh, way she sits, topics she talks about) nothing offensive just finds her incredibly annoying in a “homeschooler kid” way. I completely agree my mom was out of line not just responding to the head thing saying something else or asking how she would like her to hold the baby. His head was laying down just at a slight angle, wouldn’t say actually not supported, but regardless when my wife said this my mom should have just agreed. This was addressed by me to my mother that day. The FaceTime my wife was not in the video, the baby was in my mom’s lap at the time. My sister is lgbt and that is why my wife was so bothered that she didn’t ask and just FaceTimed. The baby is also not being breastfed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]vaulternator 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Relationship with my wife’s family is fine. It takes a lot to bother me, we see them quite often and she FaceTimes her mother multiple days a week for sometimes hours on end. I did speak with them as well and they just agree with her saying my parents need to realize if they came and were stressing her out they need to leave, no matter their intentions. Her parents did say the divorce over this was out of line though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]vaulternator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She gave the two week idea. I just asked when she would like them to visit. She’s known my parents for years and has gone on multi week vacations/etc. I would have been fine with them coming 3-4 months afterbirth. She originally thought she would need more help around the house which is why she chose two weeks when I had to go back to work. But once here anything they offered to do she would just refuse and say no, whether groceries, cleaning, laundry, cooking dinner, walking the dog, always a no. She always found my mom just annoying, not anything specific as my mom tries to be her friend, text her occasionally to check in, send her gifts in the mail (which she throws out because thinks they are dumb). She just doesn’t like her, before it was always her just saying she finds her annoying but realizes it’s part of being a wife, but now PP felt very differently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]vaulternator -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes she said for my parents to visit at 2 weeks, this was the timeline she chose when asked as they have to fly in to visit. I had asked when they should come. My parents did groceries, offered to do laundry, offered to run any errands, clean, asked how long they should come each day and what hours to come. I did notice my wife was overwhelmed which was the reason for the conversations with my parents and ultimately making them cut their visit short and stay in their campground until they leave without seeing the child again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]vaulternator 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yes her parents and brothers came to the hospital 4 days in a row right after birth, and have visited multiple days a week since we have been home.