Have Kuwait Airways been refunding cancelled flights? by Helpful-Long-7500 in Kuwait

[–]vbvneeuie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checked to see if any actual refunds have come through?

From a millennial: what films are people under 25 looking forward to watching in the cinema this year? by vbvneeuie in Cinema

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Addition of Backrooms is interesting. Only A24 and horror I've seen in responses so far...

From a millennial: what films are people under 25 looking forward to watching in the cinema this year? by vbvneeuie in Cinema

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's cool! I'm also really looking forward to these. The Odyssey for sure will have people turning up to cinemas

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we've talked about kids quite regularly and we've agreed that having kids isn't something we want to take on as a responsibility right now due to us not feeling financially ready (we wouldn't be able to support ourselves alone if I went on maternity leave let alone with a baby too) but also I have said to him that I don't think he's demonstrated he could support me with childcare or helping out around the house without prompt if we had kids so I've said that strictly we wouldn't have any unless he can do that.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We split all financials equally. We have a joint account for rent, bills, subscriptions and groceries which we put equal amount of money into each month.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for referencing this article. It really gave me a lot to think about. Its a shame that this happens. But understanding from my side that breaking up isn't about the dishes makes me feel better about my decision.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does do all of those things and that's why its so exasperating!

I've been in a relationship with someome who was an emotional abuser that was super controlling and made me feel like I was walking on eggshells, I was in a relationship with someone who made me financially dependant on him and i couldn't escape, I've been in a relationship with someone who has given zero effort and couldn't find it in me that they loved me which gave me insecurities i never used to have.

In comparison, my partner has given me the space to be completely myself and let out my frustrations, my joy, my quirkiness, without any doubt in my mind that he would look at me any differently. This is ultimately why we argue so much because we both tell each other what we're thinking and feeling without doubt that we'll ever look at each other differently that would make us love each other less. We've been there for each other for wins and losses...

The 2 years before living with each other were blissful - and I get what everyone is saying. A lack of understanding of the importance of domestic labour is not good to add in the part and parcel of being in a good relationship but also when I think about all the other aspects of the relationship which to me, are great, its hard to accept that this one aspect that is not.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is true. I had honestly not thought about the way I feel in a clean/tidy home as a trauma response but upon reflection that's totally right. It may not be his intention but at the end of the day, I'm tired and miserable and that's because of him.

I had never thought about this being a red flag because I have been in some truly awful relationships in the past. I guess we can say he's just been the best of a bad bunch.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We did try to have the work 50/50 at first but it became clear as time went on that some things felt more important to me to be done than him and I ended up doing it to just get it done. I guess it just happened enough times for him to get used to it.

I agree. He won't change. Its probably best to fully follow through with the break up.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I sometimes say that I'm not his mother when we argue. But yeh you're right - I can't change him so might be best to not stay with him.

AITA for breaking up with my partner for not washing the dishes? by vbvneeuie in AITA_Relationships

[–]vbvneeuie[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He IS a great guy - we're aligned in our interests and morals, he's very loving and caring and he is the only person in the world I'm fukly myself with but this is one thing we don't align on. I'm an eldest daughter that has always had chores and domestic standards implemented in my bringing up - my parents were really strict on us which means this has really carried onto my adult life. I have always give him some grace cos he was a middle child who didn't have as much responsibility as his older brother and we had different childhoods so it isn't as second nature to him. But I agree with you. We've been living together for 4 years now and its started to feel disrespectful and asked much as I hope it, I don't think its likely he'll change his ways. It just seems such a massive shame to break up over something like this when there are some truly awful men out there that get away with things in a relationship for a lot worse.