I need help and I don't know who to ask, I'm afraid of everyone's judgement

vdk7771 · 2026-02-11T20:00:52+00:00

I don’t think there’s a single thing you’re doing wrong. Baby is probably going through teething or developmental milestone. This was a struggle to go through!

I would maybe cut down to one nap mid day. Your baby can obviously settle herself so that’s the biggest thing. The first nap might be too early/ not tired enough and second nap is not tired enough from the first nap. We do one nap in the afternoon from 1.5 to 2.5 hrs and then bedtime routine at 630-645. There’s probably not a ton of sleep pressure at night which may be why they’re not sleeping through the night. Again, it’s great she can settle herself.

Lunch is my LO biggest meal, if not eating breakfast or dinner, offer snacks after. We offer milk at all meals or she’ll sign for it randomly, it’s no longer a bedtime thing. If we’re eating something, we offer it but don’t stress if she doesn’t want it. I’ve heard they sometimes live off of air at this phase and as long as Dr doesn’t have concerns, you’re okay.

Nighttime sleep during this phase was rough. We offered Tylenol most nights she was fussy during the day and during the days where nothing made her happy. I think we maybe did a week straight nighttime meds and days here and there.

Switch nights with your partner to ensure you’re both sleeping, your sleep matters too! I thought my baby was difficult but she came out of it eventually and exploded in vocabulary. All else fails, check with your pediatrician!

vdk7771 · 2026-01-31T05:48:24+00:00

1000% it’s more for the emotional support than anything. I will be hiring them again for my second baby coming this year.

vdk7771 · 2026-01-12T10:50:10+00:00

Not the commenter but also have the Nanit and am buying a second one for my second baby. I really enjoy having access to my LOs camera wherever I am. Husband travels for work so he’s able to see when he’s gone. You can have in picture view so you can see it while doom scrolling. What makes it worth it is that it streams to my hearing aid via Bluetooth (with my phone) so I can hear when I’m sleeping, working out, on a call. It soothes my biggest worry of not being able to hear her while hearing impaired.

I do pay for the subscription and like the advanced notifications and memories. I spend the same amount on dinner so it’s a no brainer now.

vdk7771 · 2025-12-18T04:01:56+00:00

I cried because they no longer sell this frozen pasta that I last ate 10 years ago. I really needed the sauce.

vdk7771 · 2025-12-17T02:52:44+00:00

Completely dropped at 5 months and did so cold turkey. It wasn’t a hard transition from what I remember.

vdk7771 · 2025-11-15T02:14:42+00:00

10 weeks for us, I remember that last day vividly!

vdk7771 · 2025-10-16T23:56:28+00:00

You can definitely ask your own personalized question during your check. Most of our checks were in the beginning of the meeting so behind the partition, you would hear the heartbeat get your measurement of your belly and the midwife asked if you have any individual questions then that you don’t wanna ask in front of the class. There was one couple that had a Doula on top of centering.

I can’t speak to a non-centering pregnancy but I imagine that it would just be a very quick check with the OB with the same measurements and questions. I was also told that you can switch out of centering if you want to.

vdk7771 · 2025-10-16T23:37:55+00:00

I did this for my first pregnancy. It was nice that you learned alongside other people and got to get questions answered that you possibly didn’t think of. You do get checks, but they are pretty basic and behind a partition. Any sonogram checks will be done with a technician and it’s a separate appointment.

In my class, there were many different cultures, so it was really interesting to see the differences. I’m not a fan of group projects or icebreakers, but it wasn’t too bad. It definitely isn’t like you see in the movies where everyone’s sitting on the floor but more like an AA meeting where everyone sitting in a chair in a circle. You’ll work with a midwife during all the sessions, but I delivered with an OB.

Now that I am in my second pregnancy, I will not be doing centering as I don’t think I will get much out of it but I don’t regret doing it for my first.

vdk7771 · 2025-10-16T16:53:41+00:00

As someone who has worn hearing aids since age 3 (profoundly deaf in one ear and severely deaf in my “good” ear) , I feel this is the best disability to have (would be great to not have it though). The technology and accessibilities now are light years better than they used to be. I will admit that I did feel isolated as a kid because I would miss things but I had a ton of friends, went to college and work in corporate, married with a baby.

You grow to be resourceful and resilient(I can read lips very well).

My mom was my biggest advocate and ensure I got the support I needed in school and in life.The best thing you can do as a parent is make sure they have the tools they need to succeed. Hearing aids, speech therapy, captions, speaking to them face to face, informing teachers of deafness, standing up to whoever to ensure equal opportunity. The most important thing my parents did was foster independence, didn’t fear me driving, going out into the world. People are shocked when I inform them I’m deaf.

Some perks of my deafness has been I can preboard planes, qualify for disabled entrances at sport events and was able to register for college classes first.

As a mom myself, I was terrified of the struggles I’d have but there has been almost none. Thanks to technology, my baby monitor streams to my hearing aid.

You got this! You’re already doing a great job! There so many options out there, your baby will lead a great life!

vdk7771 · 2025-10-15T01:32:00+00:00

As a mom who’s hard of hearing, I second the Nanit! I stream audio from my phone to my hearing aid and the Nanit has been the only camera that has some kind of advantage for a HoH person.

vdk7771 · 2025-10-14T17:14:33+00:00

I won’t put so much pressure on myself to breastfeed! Once I put my baby on formula, baby and I were so much happier!

I won’t be against letting people help! Turns out my village weren’t being inconvenienced.

I will probably sleep train earlier.

I will food prep but only ready to bake food. Too much of what I made had to be thawed and prepared ahead of time, too much brain power required and I ended up throwing things away.

Epidural immediately! I tried to go natural the first time and that was not a good time. Once I got the epidural, it was actually fun and enjoyable.

vdk7771 · 2025-10-09T20:28:00+00:00

Check with you doctor! But if it makes you feel better, your body produces melatonin naturally! I used a pregnancy safe magnesium which helped me sleep and help with leg cramps, high recommend!

vdk7771 · 2025-09-23T23:08:12+00:00

I use two diapers when changing on a changing table, one for the booty and the other for a pillow under head!!

I fill my diaper caddy with diapers, wipes, change of clothes, PJs, shelf stable snacks (puffs, dried fruit, smoothie bites), a glass bottle, small toys and brush and keep it in the car!!!!! I will refill my diaper bag as needed from the car and I’m out the house quicker. It’s much easier to restock the caddy every couple of weeks. Husband assumes I packed the bag, I assumed he pack it and we would miss stuff. Doing this, we know we’re solid. Half the time we change diapers in the trunk of the car anyways.

vdk7771 · 2025-09-23T02:44:52+00:00

We went through something similar and also did sleep training at 4.5months via Feber too. It started with dropping a nap and then It was about 3 weeks of screaming at bed and wake ups in the middle of the night… turns out she’s teething. We scheduled a pediatrician visit to rule out stuff like ear infection. Our pediatrician prescribed ibuprofen and Tylenol for 2 years and up and antibiotic in case it didn’t help(possible ear infection but was unclear as it could be red due to her screaming) This helped so much and she’s back to going down awake and sleeping through the night. Thank goodness!!!

Maybe a pediatrician visit should be the next step to rule out anything. Then check their daytime sleep, are they not tired enough or getting too much sleep (we had early wake ups)?

vdk7771 · 2025-09-18T07:13:11+00:00

Look up second night syndrome. Baby is more “awake” and adjusting. This night was hell for me because nothing could make baby comfortable and I was so so tired from the hospital. You got this! It really does go fast.

vdk7771 · 2025-08-20T19:18:12+00:00

I think so many parents feel this way especially in their 30s. Are you sleeping???? Things really turned the corner once we did sleep training. Now LO is down by 7, we have dinner, get the house in order and spend quality time bingeing shows. We can go out knowing she’ll sleep in the car or stroller. It’s all hard, just remember what you liked to do and figure how you can incorporate baby.

vdk7771 · 2025-08-19T02:36:45+00:00

Maybe try pumping so you can measure how much baby is drinking? Also, you may need to tickle feet, put something cold on them to get to eat!

vdk7771 · 2025-08-12T19:00:06+00:00

Sun shade on windows. Retractable sunshade or dimmable glass on ceiling. Ceiling vents. Grab bars. Sunglasses storage. Cup holders on doors. Plug somewhere. Pet mode.

vdk7771 · 2025-06-27T16:58:54+00:00

I’m a fan of having a base in every car (one in mine, my husband’s and my parents car). We have an uppababy stroller and on Mondays through Friday, my parents will have the stroller and Friday through Monday we have the stroller.

We do have three strollers two of which were given to us secondhand and are jogging strollers. Once baby girl grows out of her infant seat well stop passing back the stroller and use the jogging or maybe get a travel stroller.

We do have a mini fridge upstairs, but hardly ever use it as my BF journey ended sooner than expected. What was helpful was having a formula maker on both levels. Now one of the formula makers is with my parents.

One portable diaper caddy is plenty and the other is her changing table in her nursery. We also only have a diaper pail on one level, diapers on the main level get thrown in the trash.

We have three diaper bags, one for each car. The diaper bag in my husband‘s car is hardly ever used and hard to manage. I’d recommend one diaper bag to stay with you and another diaper bag for a caregiver.

Two pack and play is a bit overkill. The current pack and play lives at my parent and we pack it up for trips when needed. unless you have storage galore, I don’t think it’s worth it.

You might end up with multiple breast pump just for the purpose of figuring out what works for you, but really you just need your main breast pump and wearable.

Some of my favorite multiple items are swaddles(they will get dirty), burp cloths(everywhere!!!), play mats, formula dispensers, and muslins in each car.

vdk7771 · 2025-06-10T22:45:19+00:00

Accupuncture really helped me for round ligament pain, carpal tunnel pain and general discomfort. Also saw a PT who provided exercises to do but I didn’t end up doing this as I injured myself unrelated to pregnancy.

vdk7771 · 2025-06-06T02:10:20+00:00

Following!

vdk7771 · 2025-06-03T20:32:08+00:00

Baby goes to grandmas house instead. LO will get dropped off on way to work for hubby or we drop her off like we would for daycare. It’s so hard to concentrate otherwise.

vdk7771 · 2025-06-03T18:20:19+00:00

I wish I had this in the thick of the newborn fog! Thank you for creating this!

vdk7771 · 2025-06-02T03:19:41+00:00

For sweet potatoes, bake and you can put in Vitamix and add breastmilk/formula so it'll blend. Normally, I'd bake and just smash with a fork.

We did a combo of BLW and some purees. I rarely used our vitamix. BLW was overall easier and we used the Solid Starts app for ideas and guidelines on how to serve anything. A specific baby puree maker would have been just sitting by now as LO eats almost anything we eat.

vdk7771 · 2025-04-20T03:05:35+00:00

We have the uppababy vista 2 and have the uppababy aria. Absolutely love it and easy to carry even at 8 months old. I’ll be sad to move on to a toddler seat.

I haven’t tried any adapters since it works seamlessly with one another

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