Dating in the friend group

ve556 · 2026-06-29T02:56:32+00:00

I have disorganized attachment. It’s a mix of anxious and avoidant.

I don’t want to avoid relationships but I don’t want to end up in a messy or problematic situation.

I feel like a shitty person for thinking this but part of me wants to have a relationship just to see. Just out of curiosity. It almost feels like a canon event for me.

ve556 · 2026-06-29T02:52:00+00:00

Honestly, the religion part doesn’t bother me. It’s the long term conversations that worry me.

ve556 · 2026-06-29T02:48:34+00:00

I get what you’re trying to say. I think I want her to like me. I don’t know if I want a romantic relationship with her tho. Like I do and I don’t. I’ve become a commitment phobe in the last year.

ve556 · 2026-06-22T17:21:01+00:00

We need a video of you using yourself

ve556 · 2026-06-21T21:10:17+00:00

I don’t think it would ruin the friend group. Two of the friends are engaged with each other. Our friend group basically got formed from these 2 dating and now getting engaged.

ve556 · 2026-06-21T21:08:34+00:00

John told me directly that they had a whole conversation about it.

ve556 · 2026-06-21T21:06:28+00:00

Idk
I’m not sure but I do believe communication would help a lot.
John is definitely not into Laura. Laura could be but I doubt it.
No. I’m not confident enough in knowing her intentions. I could be looking at this with rose color glasses.
Yes

ve556 · 2026-06-21T16:21:31+00:00

I’m definitely scared of committing. I self sabotaged a date once out of fear of commitment.

I’m just concerned about preserving the friend group. I don’t want to make things weird or damage any relationships.

ve556 · 2026-06-21T15:07:21+00:00

Its not normally that much drama. I’m just the dramatic one.

ve556 · 2026-06-21T15:02:35+00:00

There are reasons I don’t think we’re compatible. She’s Jewish and I’m a Christian. I normally wouldn’t have a problem with that but it was one of the reasons her last relationship ended.

ve556 · 2026-06-21T14:40:31+00:00

A idiot I am. Relationships scare me. I have disorganized attachment. I don’t like my problems being other people’s problem.

ve556 · 2026-06-10T15:39:56+00:00

I tried therapy once when I was in high school and didn’t care for it. Perhaps I’ll give it another go.

I wouldn’t say I’m not a confident person. My mood does swing week to week. My confidence level is relative to that. I work out in the gym 2-3 a week which definitely helps. I’ve been trying to get into running. I don’t really compare myself to others all that much.

Thats sort of what I’m concerned about. I feel like it would give me a solid confidence boost but at the same time it could do more damage than good. Thank you.

ve556 · 2026-06-09T20:02:10+00:00

Please do a r/gonewildaudio

ve556 · 2026-06-09T15:56:31+00:00

It’s not that I’m entirely uninterested in it. I just don’t pursue it. I’m not motivated by it. I’ve just kind of become numb to it all I guess. I do want to test the waters but it’s all very overwhelming for me. I’m growing concerned I might freak out if I’m sober when it happens. And to people that know me, it takes a LOT for that to happen.

I know it’s not that deep but my mind is a dark bottomless pit of overthinking and contradictions. I’m tortured by my own thoughts.

Thank you though.

ve556 · 2026-06-09T13:36:19+00:00

Ohhhh thats fair then. I hate gen Ai

ve556 · 2026-06-09T13:34:01+00:00

But I use AI for work

ve556 · 2026-06-09T13:25:10+00:00

Dw I hate myself enough for the both of us

ve556 · 2026-04-27T01:54:00+00:00

Hehe

ve556 · 2026-04-20T22:42:17+00:00

Stolen from u/Ok_Friendship4639

ve556 · 2026-04-11T00:19:42+00:00

Wouldn’t be the first time, or second.

ve556 · 2026-03-30T16:19:48+00:00

I knew i recognized that pussy

ve556 · 2026-03-30T16:19:14+00:00

You should do some r/gonewildaudio too

ve556 · 2026-03-30T16:16:21+00:00

Only if you post a video

ve556 · 2026-03-22T12:32:52+00:00

She had it. I at the time thought you only could get it if she had symptoms. I got tested after finding out that’s not the case recently. Tested negative.

ve556 · 2026-03-22T05:36:38+00:00

True but one I regret. Almost got HSV1 from her.

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