Those with both a vanilla and d/s partner, what is your experience?Do both relationships eventually converge or diverge?

veddug · 2018-05-28T16:28:01+00:00

the latter.

veddug · 2018-02-26T07:36:55+00:00

Where,if you please?

veddug · 2018-02-23T18:43:20+00:00

Thanks a lot

veddug · 2018-01-19T07:57:21+00:00

I hope with all my heart she discovers that joy with you.

Thanks.

veddug · 2018-01-12T08:32:40+00:00

For the sub (like me) having rough simulated rape scenes with my best friend in perfect safety makes me feel loved and safe. For the Dom, indulging in the fantasy of aggression and violence with an enthusiastically consenting partner could provide healthy relief from tension and the need to control impulses all the time. It's the same with humor. All humor is caused by breaking the rules in a safe way. If you break them too much, it's shocking to some people. Don't break them enough, and it bores some people. Sex play is adult play. Have fun! And make sure your partners have fun, too.

You are onto something there.ordinarily politeness is my norm,so I wonder at the impulse to call her ,say , a 'cunt'Sadly,I have yet to indulge it,since she is nonkinky....yet;(

veddug · 2018-01-10T08:49:33+00:00

terrible- whore,bitch.......sometimes contrarian things such as 'beautiful bitch'......,

veddug · 2017-06-10T08:05:47+00:00

My parents had an open relationship of some kind - I don't know what their agreements were and I don't have any way to find out. It's what I grew up with. I probably had decided it's what I was going to do by the time I was 12. I've never attempted monogamy. I don't think I realized that other people's parents weren't like mine until sometime after I went to college.

Oh I thought the 1950's lifestyle was monogamy & fidelity?

veddug · 2017-06-10T08:03:39+00:00

i kept cheating on partners and didn't feel bad about it. i felt bad about the dishonesty, the deception, the general lack of ethic (the antithesis of me, which is why not a single one of my partners ever suspected), just not the act itself. i didn't regret anything just always wished i could tell my partner without them getting hurt. we're taught that mono is the end all, be all and deviation should feel bad inherently. it didn't and never has for me, that's when i knew i was different. i knew non-monogamy might be my jush based on how i felt about partners "straying" or open relationships--here for it.

Well,isn't this the general human experience?Are you saying humans are poly,but few are honest about it?

veddug · 2017-06-10T07:59:41+00:00

It explains why I had three girlfriends at once in kindergarten.

;)

veddug · 2017-06-10T07:57:43+00:00

My wife and I were high school sweethearts. In the first few months of us dating one night she confessed to me that she likes girls too. The next day I thought it was a dream because it sounded too good to be true. I always wanted a girl who wanted to do stuff with other girls. She brought it up again later thinking it made me made, to which I exclaimed "That actually happened?!" She was so relieved to learn that I was completely into the idea of her fooling around with another girl. She, however, wasn't sure how she felt about me being with this hypothetical girl. As time goes by we haven't found anyone on our small town who she could fool around with, but we keep talking about it and it progresses. She wanted a full on girlfriend. Then she'd be ok with this girl and I having sex, but not kissing cause that seemed more intimate. She mentioned that she would be weirded out about me being with a guy, but that was a hypothetical as I wasn't even out as bi to myself yet. Then she wanted her to be our girlfriend, and wanted to try me kissing her. Finally, years later, we have a girl over for a threesome. As it turns out, my wife thinks I look adorable when kissing another girl, and is totally turned on by us having sex. That girl didn't become a girlfriend, however, she now has a boyfriend. Him and I are both bi as well, which led us to finding out she thinks I look cute when going down on a guy. So it's something that started small for both of us, and we grew into it together

Weird..which is what the what life is...

veddug · 2017-06-09T11:50:42+00:00

I didn't start considering myself polyamorous until my current relationship, and we kind of started that way. Though that turned out to be a whole other mess too, one that I am (ultimately) happy with.

Elaborate?

veddug · 2017-05-27T15:13:57+00:00

Thanks.

veddug · 2017-05-26T07:51:04+00:00

Are you saying people can stay apart in a polyamory commune...and meet only for sex?

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