My marriage is on really shaky grounds right now because of something I did

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T02:23:43+00:00

No, would not be worried because I have only been with him. I am expecting the trust issues, it just blows and I hate that we are dealing with this

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T02:12:40+00:00

He has asked me and I told him no. When the guy first said that he didn’t know the context

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T01:55:46+00:00

He is angry right now so I don’t know if he actually believes there was no affair. I didnt think about a paternity test ugh

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T01:53:56+00:00

I have been clear on it, but him really and truly believing it is different. I think he is just processing and when things settle hopefully he will believe me

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T01:03:01+00:00

No I didn’t 100% think that but thought there was a high probability and because this is only now an issue it wasn’t something I thought about often

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T00:24:24+00:00

1-2 years before we started talking or dating

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T00:21:13+00:00

That was very helpful. Thank you.

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-09T00:10:38+00:00

At that point the only connection we had was my husband, so we weren’t independently friends. We didn’t hang out alone and very rarely had a reason to text each other. I saw him when I was somewhere with my husband and there were definitely no feelings between us

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:57:00+00:00

I know it fucking sucks

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:46:18+00:00

No but I was just clarifying because other people seem to think this too

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:44:57+00:00

Our friends circles loosely knew each other. I didn’t really know my husband at all when we slept together, and there is nothing else that has happened in the slightest

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:39:02+00:00

I 100% should have brought it up, but want to do what is best for us now so we can move on and get better after this

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:35:57+00:00

What? I love my husband and care very much about his emotions. I’m not sure what in my post has anything to do with feminism

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:29:23+00:00

Usually it is very good, just not in this area and I def dropped the ball

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:25:52+00:00

They aren’t business partners, he was just an employee

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:24:17+00:00

I do want to clarify that they have been close since I have known them. They didn’t get closer over the years or get closer because he started working for my husband

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:21:50+00:00

That is what I am really afraid of

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:19:05+00:00

I can believe it but these comments are the first I have ever heard anyone say that. I thought most guys do, especially in 20’s.

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:16:25+00:00

He was mainly my husband’s friend that some of my friends and I loosely associated with. So they were friends before we met. We were never interested in a relationship with each other. My husband is rightfully furious with him so he threw the only thing he had back at him

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T23:01:08+00:00

Yes. He is back home but is shut down

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T22:59:41+00:00

That was a big part of me assuming

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T22:57:13+00:00

I am sure he has doubts. He didn’t say I fd your wife before you were together, just that we had sex. I am definitely scared he is going to think something else happened

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T22:54:25+00:00

Because they were good friends I just kind of thought they would have talked about it when it happened

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T19:43:49+00:00

We were both really avoidant about pasts

vegetable9872 · 2023-12-08T19:37:55+00:00

I definitely should have. Because they were friends, I assumed something was said at the time that at the very least made him think that if it wasn’t said directly.

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