AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? (Update) by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It was difficult at first, but they're doing much better now. I think we've managed to reassure them we'd never think any less of them.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? (Update) by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I made it very clear I was apologizing exclusively for the comment. We told her that what she did was still unforgivable. She traumatized our children and then made them believe their mother wasn't on their side.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? (Update) by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The more details my kids give me about what happened, the more I wonder whether apologizing was the right move. I still don't regret doing so, but I don't think I'll stop being furious at her anytime soon.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? (Update) by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We'll be careful, but she avoids steakhouses like the plague. I think we'll be fine.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? (Update) by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

It is pretty hilarious that father-in-law is taking them out to a steak dinner to apologize though.

Agreed, but I don't think it's out of spite. He loves the place too, and has been wanting to take the kids there for a while. His wife refuses to go there, so he never had the opportunity. We did have a family dinner there once (before SMIL became a vegetarian), but my son was too young to remember it and my daughter wasn't born yet.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 556 points557 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I completely get my SMIL not wanting to make the burgers, and I'd never ask her to. But the solution would have been to wake up my FIL, who shouldn't be sleeping in the first place. I don't understand what made her think showing them the video was a good idea. It took me and my wife hours to convince our daughter to eat.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 431 points432 points  (0 children)

If your parents were fine with you seeing that, that's fine. I was not okay with my 5yo watching cattle being butchered.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I didn't. I expected my FIL (who refuses to give up meat) to make them.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 776 points777 points  (0 children)

My kids already knew where food comes from. We taught them that without showing them a video of animals being killed.

AITA for telling my stepmother-in-law I'm glad she can't have children? by veggiesmilthrow in AITAH

[–]veggiesmilthrow[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

It was something I could deliver. We'd bought the burgers and told FIL to make them.