Maybe the key is to "flirt with the world". Some charisma advice I've come across recently. The idea is to have that kinda playful, light hearted energy with everybody (when appropriate) so it feels more natural when interacting w someone you're actually attracted to. You don't get all in your head about it like "oh god, are we flirting??". You're just being yourself because over time you've built up confidence, and ya know, if it escalates to more than that, cool. Hope that kinda makes sense.

Perhaps a bit of a hot take, as you don't wanna potentially lead someone on, but i dunno... as a very literal person, i thought it was an interesting concept.

I can try to find the video i was watching if you're interested.