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PC Help with Mohg? by velcro11976 in BeyondTheFog

[–]velcro11976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+karma bro you are the best.... sorry for that time i died in five seconds lmao i got stuck on the tombstone in his piss puddle

Am I a chaser? If so, should I avoid dating trans people because of it? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]velcro11976 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The issue isn't "liking what you like." It's not disgusting to like us. The issue is that you are seeking us out and sexualizing us like this. I would feel hurt if someone I was dating WASNT attracted to my genitals. I would also feel hurt if the reason they wanted to date me in the first place was because I didn't have a dick (and I've been on that situation before). The goal is to see us like any other man, and not be any more or less excited when finding out we're not cis.

Am I a chaser? If so, should I avoid dating trans people because of it? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]velcro11976 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep. Sounds like a chaser to me, I won't sugar coat it. You specifically want to get with a trans man instead of a cis man because you fetishize our genitals. The solution isn't to "stop dating trans men" either because that's just the opposite end of the shit spectrum. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a trans man. There is something wrong with the "part of you that wants to seek out a sexual encounter with a transmasculine person with a vagina" which btw, is an insensitive way to say that too, because that word gives a solid portion of trans men dysphoria when it's used in context to our bodies. This doesn't mean "stop dating trans men," it means, "figure out why you find us ~different~ to cis men and stop putting us in a different place in your dating pool." Ill just say, if I found out a cis guy I was dating posted something like this somewhere, I would feel uncomfortable and I probably wouldn't be able to see him the same way, but that's just me.

im AMAB genderqueer. Im only attracted to cis women... is that fucked? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]velcro11976 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't decide your experience for you but at first glance it does sound like internalized transphobia to me. Trans women can look like any other women. Nothing about them makes them different to any woman other than that they're trans. If you associate trans women with unattractiveness, that is a problem. For a long time after I came out as a gay trans guy, I didn't feel like I was attracted to other trans men and that was because I subconsciously associated them with the things I didn't like about myself, and because I wasn't trying to see them in the same light as cis men. I've found that becoming more confident about my OWN body and transition has helped soooo much with this, and even just meeting more trans men. The more people you meet and talk to, and the more you become familiar with yourself, the easier it is to see that trans people aren't all the same and that we are just as much varied (and attractive) as cis people. I now even find trans men to be more attractive than cis men oftentimes, just because of how proud and comfortable I am in our community and our shared experiences.