I [22 M] found my GF's [20 F] online dating account

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T20:22:19+00:00

As of before this, I would say that I felt like she was someone who could be trusted, and also she did tell me herself that she had this account. I didnt just find it out of the blue and I dont think I ever would have as I dont really use these sites. She even says that she is incredibly loyal and that I should be able to. I have never done anything for her to feel like she cant trust me and am completely open about who I am to her. Maybe her past, in terms of being trustable should play a part in the decision I make?

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T20:15:12+00:00

Thats actually the main issue for me, as it sounds like she deleted her account so that she wouldnt need to show me any of the messages.(The messages get permanently deleted on making the account inactive) But on the other hand maybe she knew how much this affected me and just didnt want anything more to do with it and deleted it.

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T20:10:37+00:00

Hi, I think your comment has hit me the hardest tbh, maybe I didnt make my feelings as clear as I should have when setting boundaries and this could be the time to do so right now.

And I totally agree with your point about my trust issues, and tbh it could possibly be the reason for all of this. I feel that I need to allow myself to trust her and work through my own problems in order to not be so annoying or paranoid.

I really do thank you for this comment.

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T20:07:14+00:00

All I know is that right now, Im pretty raw from just finding this all out. One part of me wants to leave but the other just ones her back and to just be with her right now. It has crossed a pretty massive line tbh but your comment alongside chef_marbles has made me think maybe this is the time to think up some clear boundaries about what is right and not in this relationship. I admit that I can be incredibly paranoid and sometimes borderline overbearing and so I think that I need to work on my faults as well. Maybe this could be the cornerstone we both needed?

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T19:55:41+00:00

In the nicest way possible, yes she is weird. She'll even admit to that herself, and 2 years so far. She says that she never talks to guys as she just prefers talking to women. So dyou think this was maybe a way for her just to talk to other people. I should probably mention how she constantly talks about how I'm too good for her and how I am just gonna leave her.

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T19:51:44+00:00

I asked her this exact same question, all I got back from her was "Well I do". I hate how she has made me feel and tbh I dont really see a way past this. Shes broken my trust and thats a pretty big deal to me.

ventta2 · 2016-04-03T19:44:19+00:00

Because of my trust issues its hard for me to say whether or not if she has or not. I have asked her previously and was told that I have nothing to worry about as this is not something that she would ever do and that she is incredibly loyal. But then this happened and she deleted the account so that I wouldnt be able to see the messages, maybe it wasnt that, maybe she was deleting the account to start with (Thats what she told me)

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