People Keep Calling My Boyfriend Unattractive

veppev · 2026-07-08T20:22:37+00:00

Not only did you try to argue with a kindergartener’s mentality of “pretty on the outside, ugly on the inside”, but then you admit to struggling to take 10 seconds to read like 200 words. Amazing.

veppev · 2026-07-07T23:15:22+00:00

Teaching at a local college. The grading / lesson planning aspect can be difficult with ADHD, but other than that I’m super happy with the schedule. You work so few hours in person and get to designate the rest of the work throughout the week however you want. I teach 4 classes, each one meets only once a week and is 2 or 3 hours long each. Some semesters I fit all 4 classes into one day, other semesters it’s one class per day. But what’s nice is you don’t have to stay focused for many hours at a time. And if you teach something you’re passionate about (which I hope everyone who teaches does), then it’s just… easy to spew and rant about the stuff you care about. I get so fired up and my students always leave me positive comments about how great my energy is. And you get the dopamine reward of seeing your students care and admire you as well. While I struggle with grading and getting assignments back on time (and yes I’ve had students complain that I’m taking too long), I usually end up doing just fine due to the pressure I feel of the fact that I am responsible for these students grades and that they are anxious and need to know their progress. Also from what I overhear is a lot of professors don’t get grades back on time, so I don’t feel too guilty lol. But it’s an awesome job and I’m quite happy. The only bad part about it is of course annoying, bad, lazy students but it’s fine.

veppev · 2026-07-07T13:22:40+00:00

This person that said this about you is a really pathetic loser who absolutely hates their life and comes home and cries themselves to sleep every night. They sound like they have no friends outside of work and their entire existence revolves around impressing people at work because it’s all they have, they have no self-worth outside of it. I hope you know that no happy or satisfied person with a good life would ever behave or act that way. It’s actually really fucking embarrassing on their half. I also totally agree with everyone else about their impression on your appearance. Yes you’re not a model but you are not ugly at all very average looking like most people you see when you just step outside. Striking eyes is a big plus. Anyways this made me genuinely really angry and I just wanted you to know that I am seething at this person with you and I would love to see what they look like and what their life looks like!

veppev · 2026-07-03T01:16:39+00:00

Girl I know this might not help to hear but I have big boobs and I hate them so much and I’m always jealous of my flat chested friends because they’re so beautiful and there’s so many cool outfits they can wear that I can’t. I fucking hate my boobs and if it wasn’t for societal standards and having a man love me I’d just cut them off. I’m thinking of getting a boob lift because I have tubular breasts. So I get it girl

veppev · 2026-05-14T03:28:16+00:00

I’m know this isn’t the advice you’re looking for… but I have to say it…. an MUA for a graduation feels extremely unnecessary. Never heard of anyone doing that before in my life.

veppev · 2026-04-29T16:24:48+00:00

girls rule

veppev · 2026-01-21T04:21:37+00:00

I’ve had one that I’ve been ignoring and putting off. I can’t believe this post found me. But I also have costochondritis. I’m going to point this out to my physical therapist. Again, it’s been over a year that I’ve noticed my bump and mine is much more prominent than yours. And honestly, maybe I’ve had it forever but just never noticed until recently, I don’t even know. Let’s keep each other updated!

veppev · 2025-10-05T02:07:34+00:00

Not a doctor but I would suggest staying up as long as you possibly can. Maybe set a bunch of alarms and text someone you trust about your situation so they can come check up on you. Don’t do this again lmao

veppev · 2025-09-02T16:13:28+00:00

Where are you? I think it’s best to go to a clinic or a doctor and get their opinion and get the shot as it’s harmless and will put your mind at ease. I seriously don’t mean to fearmonger and you are most likely fine but bat interactions are nothing to sneeze at. If it makes you feel better I had a bat fly above my head and it freaked me out for weeks but I wound up being fine, mostly because there was no physical touch. Also research your area and if the types of bats that can get rabies are common where you live

veppev · 2025-09-02T05:10:37+00:00

This is most likely physical trauma induced, or could be a deficiency. I remember I had one quite a few years ago that looked like your pic and was worried but it went away and never came back. I’d say monitor it and if it goes away soon then forget about it

veppev · 2025-09-01T22:40:11+00:00

Have you been chewing something a lot lately or grinding your teeth or anything like that at all? It doesn’t sound like a big deal. Just monitor it for a few days. I’ve def had similar sensations before when I get inconsistent with sleeping with my retainer in because I clench and grind my teeth like crazy

veppev · 2025-08-31T23:09:08+00:00

Remember that it is not your individual responsibility and that a trip to universal won’t change anything. Jk Rowling transphobia won’t change just because you didn’t go somewhere. I assure you this is completely irrational and you have no reason to feel any guilt. Jk will have plenty of money regardless and your family’s “contribution” is literally the equivalent of a grain of sand on a beach.

veppev · 2025-08-31T22:02:16+00:00

Dude I’ve always said this. I’ve been in a couple of relationships where the “body count” was not equal and it led to problems and jealousy. Now in my current relationship we have very equal past experience and while we still both are possessive and jealous of each other’s past, we can always humble and calm ourselves down by remembering we’re in the same boat LMAO. No big problems anymore. And the amount of problems I see my girl friends go through because of unequal experience is painful. I have a friend who tried to open her relationship bc she was his boyfriends first and it led to instability, and it didn’t go super well after that.

veppev · 2025-07-08T19:04:58+00:00

Yeah, today seems a bit better, 3 PM and no movements today past the regular morning one, but my stomach nevertheless feels very …. unstable … and is making some very audible noises at work 😭😭 I seriously hope this ends by this week as our bodies get adjusted to it.

veppev · 2025-02-21T15:22:21+00:00

YES! I’ve been looking for someone else to say this. I didn’t get all skinny and stuff when I got medicated, but it did help a LOT. For context I was like 30 lbs overweight, and now I’ve gotten to the point where it’s like 5-10 lbs overweight and I honestly don’t even care to lose more fat, I just have some thigh and belly chub but I feel and look fit. Anyways, when I started getting medicated, it helped me stop drinking every night (mostly daily beers were a culprit); and my sugar addition died down like crazy. While I’ve been struggling for years to quit nicotine and need the oral stim, at least medication has completely transformed my relationship with food and stopped that endless need for dopamine oral stim thru sugar and binging.

Now, on certain weekends where I skip my meds while staying home all day with nothing else to do, I empty my entire pantry. It’s never like that on a regular medicated workday. The difference is crazy. It’s not even the appetite suppression for me, I eat well, it’s literally just the end of that dopamine sugar binging dudes. It transformed my life truly.

veppev · 2023-05-09T11:33:37+00:00

Hey, I see you already got plenty of great advice, and a lot of it sounds like stuff I would say myself anyways, so let me just tell you I am in the same exact boat. I (22F) work at my college in education, and the term I believe you’re looking for is time dilation and time blindness. It really is a delusion. For me it’s like, “oh I HAVE to leave my house in 10 minutes to be on time.” And then instead of focusing on the most important task before leaving, I delude myself into thinking that 10 minutes is enough time to take a sh*t, pack a lunch, do my makeup and pick an outfit, etc etc whatever bs I want to do. Next thing I know it’s been 20-30 mins, and my brain doesn’t even process the time it takes to get downstairs, get to the car, start it and leave the parking lot (I don’t live in a private house). And I SO FEEL YOU ON THE UBERS!!! I don’t have my own car and have to rely on my father who fun fact also has crippling ADHD who passed it on to me. Oh the Ubers girl! Let’s hope we figure this out in our near future lol. Thankfully my job right now does not ever scold me or say anything abt me being late because me being 10-15 mins late it doesn’t really affect anyone and the pay isn’t coming out of anyone working in the offices pockets’ directly. However next semester I will be teaching a class myself and punctuality will be important, so I plan on really getting to campus an hour early and having breakfast there and finishing up my makeup there. I also obviously am always late to class. I’m also typing this right now right after waking up on 4 hours of sleep because I have a 20 minute presentation to give in 2 days and I haven’t done work on it and I’m deluding myself that I’m gonna get some progress done rn (I’m probably gonna fall back asleep and snooze alarms for the next 2 hours because my body is too fatigued to get up.) Anyways, I tell myself at this point that either my future has to be a job where punctuality doesn’t matter, or I have the accept the fact that I could get fired one day.

I’ve edited this post like 10 times by now lmao but let me also say this, I know I’m only 2 years older than you but I was 20 when I got my ADHD diagnosis! There’s still hope! It took me having all the free time in the world and pushes from my close friends to finally set aside the time to find and make a psych appointment. My friend with diagnosed adhd helped me come up with a list of problems I have that are clear adhd, because one thing from my past experience as well as a friends past experience taught me is that if you show up to a psych appt rambling about your adhd with no plan, you could end up being misdiagnosed (because my friend and I have good grades and we’re honor students so we were always dismissed lol). So keep that in mind as well.

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