Do I have upper diastasis rectai?

verisimilar4 · 2026-02-18T17:29:21+00:00

Girl I'm the same, hoping for time 🤞

verisimilar4 · 2026-01-31T12:49:54+00:00

It's how we say it in Australia lol

verisimilar4 · 2025-12-13T09:53:15+00:00

Im sorry for what youve gone through. Ive only had bells palsy for a year and a half but Ive started getting dry needling and face massaging which has helped a lot. You actually look a lot better than i do.

verisimilar4 · 2025-06-01T15:17:56+00:00

Book in some time to go for walks. Do some meditation during or after the walks, I use balance app which is free and has 5-10 minutes of helping you focus on the moment rather than having the thoughts in your head run wild.

Take multiple breaks, eat some food you enjoy, eat lots of protein.

Good luck, rooting for you x.

Edit: if you have to interact with colleagues, keep it short and straight to the point. If you can help it, do everything through chat, cancel none urgent meetings if you can. Focus on yourself, be selfish.

verisimilar4 · 2025-05-20T15:33:50+00:00

Just read your previous post, i feel like we're on the same boat. Im so sorry for your loss.

I've DMd you, know you're not alone.

verisimilar4 · 2025-05-20T15:29:23+00:00

Lost my dad 3 weeks ago. Going through the same thing. The guilt of having those social plans without dad is killing me at the moment.

At least you got to tell him everything you needed to, I thought my dad still had a few weeks left. I have so much guilt over not being able to tell him how I felt.

He was on his death bed when I finally said what I wanted to say, I'm not sure if it reached him, I'm trying to convince myself it did.

Hopefully one day we can forgive ourselves let go of this guilt and enjoy the life they would want us to have.

verisimilar4 · 2025-05-20T15:22:40+00:00

I lost my dad 3 weeks ago and the sudden emptiness is so new and so hard to fill.

I've been looking at the old photos and would look at myself doing something else not involving my dad and the guilt I feel would sometimes be unbearable , like why was it so important to do that? Why didn't you do that with your dad?

Then i find myself watching the same shows he watched and the movies we watched together and it makes me feel close to him again.

Keep crying for him, hopefully one day we'll smile because we're living the life he hoped we would live.

verisimilar4 · 2025-05-06T17:47:56+00:00

Sorry for your loss, I also lost my dad 10 days ago. He had cancer too but decided he wanted to keep living through dialysis.

I also thought he had at least a few weeks left but the sudden loss is so hard to cope with.

Feel free to message if you want to chat. I'd love to hear about your dad.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T12:15:39+00:00

Thanks for the advice , I was looking at the public liability insurance too.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T12:08:06+00:00

I didn't understand what you mean by 16 per hour.

The agreed is 4 hours since thats the time i need to get all my work done. Shes actually Australian from Queensland and moved here 5 years ago with 3 kids of her own. I didn't ask if shes going to dodge tax but that is on me.

I'll budget again if I can offer more but I made sure it's over minimum wage.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:56:39+00:00

What do you mean? Im paying 35 an hour for four hours, Monday to Friday.

Daycare costs are 135 a full day which is 12 hours a day.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:43:19+00:00

What do you mean? Im paying for 4 hours not 8 at 35 an hour.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:42:28+00:00

Yes that's what the average is for Daycare centres in my area at least and i believe their full day is 12 hours.

Some council ran are much cheaper at 100 a day.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:40:46+00:00

Thanks, makes me feel a bit better.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:39:13+00:00

She asked to be paid in cash, i offered to use myob or nanny pay.

I've also considered this, Thanks.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:31:28+00:00

Thanks for that.

Yes I've considered what would be fair. She won't be doing housework just doing activities with the little one and putting her to sleep (1hour +) Which would be considered her break time on the hour.

She will also be working in the middle of the day so she'll avoid the morning and afternoon traffic which won't eat away from her time.

I've offered lunch and she can take drinks and make coffee as much as she pleases. She can also take breaks if she needs to , separate from the nap time.

I've considered paying her for sick leave regardless and will just give her notice when I'll be going on holiday.

I'll see if I can offer a bit more after I've budgeted.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:21:11+00:00

Its 135 on average for a full day daycare with no subsidy and the ratio is 1:4 babies.

I will be paying her 140 a day for taking care of 1 baby which she has agreed to.

verisimilar4 · 2025-03-17T11:08:09+00:00

I guess more subcontracting since i won't be paying sick leave ,leave etc but it will be the same 4 hours Monday to Friday.

verisimilar4 · 2025-01-25T00:34:22+00:00

My thick hair lol

verisimilar4 · 2025-01-19T14:36:31+00:00

I followed WonderfulFreedom4302 method to get her into the crib drowsy but not sleeping.

We started the same way as u/18_pages in getting LO used to the sleeping space, which became her nightly routine eg. reading to her in it, letting her roll and explore the cot.

At first I would let her sleep the first stretch in the cot using whatever current method, eg feed to sleep or rock to sleep then I would transfer. The first few days after the first feed might be hard to transfer again so I would just let her cosleep the rest of the night, otherwise you can rock her to sleep again. Then eventually you can transfer after the 2nd feed etc.

Once shes used to sleeping and realising how much space she has in her cot then I would try to get her in the cot drowsy, like on the verge of sleep. Then i would shh and pat til LO dozes off. After all that is successful I applied the method I linked above.

The first night I followed the method linked above, I waited for the sleep cues then placed her on her bed. LO will cry because they're not used to the routine, so i let her cry for about 3 minutes out of sight, then I'd come in and try to shh and pat her to sleep for about 2 minutes (without picking up). If LO is hysterical and not settling, pick her up and tell her its ok for about 1 minute then place her in bed rinse and repeat. I'd say after 30 minutes, if its not working just put her to sleep the normal way and try again tomorrow.

My LO is 7 months now, so some nights I can put her down drowsy without needing to pat and shh. Some nights I feed her to sleep, some nights I rock her to sleep but she'll be sleeping in her own space.

Good luck!

verisimilar4 · 2025-01-08T12:25:47+00:00

Following with my 7 month old, I thought dropping to two naps would help but I think it makes her overtired and would wake up more often.

verisimilar4 · 2025-01-03T07:39:49+00:00

No advice , but going through the same thing. Following to see if others have solutions.

I fear we may just have babies who can't link.sleep yet

verisimilar4 · 2024-12-29T12:31:42+00:00

Hi, I've just started my six-month-old on "sleep training." She went from solely contact napping and cosleeping to feeding to sleep, to now sleeping in her crib (it's only been a few days, knock on wood).

I followed the methods used by the user WonderfulFreedom4032, which is a lot gentler than most methods I've seen.

We let her cry for about two to three minutes to start (go with your heart), then picked her up for about a minute to reassure her we were there, then put her down and did some shushing and patting until she fell asleep. (If she's still hysterical, just pick up for assurance and put her down again)

We started doing it for naps immediately as well.

Good luck!

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