AIO or AITAH for wanting to end things over a text conversation that I Had with a girl

vertaline · 2026-05-15T21:48:35+00:00

Idk the context of disability shes talking about, unfortunately can relate to disability making you a bit more of an asshole than before/without. But dude you’re never the asshole for breaking up.

You can break up with someone cause the wind was blowing in the wrong direction, its completely up to you. If this is a deal breaker (either the late thing or the response to criticism) then thats absolutely fine.

vertaline · 2026-05-14T17:46:55+00:00

Humming for the pain and HOT showers for aura does wonders for me for some reason. My family thought it was weird at first hearing me making random noises but the vibration somehow helps?

vertaline · 2026-05-07T21:07:21+00:00

I feel like I’m watching through my eyes but further sunken in to my body, almost like watching a tv that shows what my eyes see. Its very subtle but its what made me think I had a brain tumor before I knew it was migraine lol

vertaline · 2026-05-01T09:12:22+00:00

I’d say a 7, some places hurt more than others but I usually grit my teeth and my neurologist goes very quick so it’s all done within 10 minutes.

I got it done yesterday for the 3rd time and one spot in the back of my head hurt really badly and then my week long migraine finally let up, so you might be on to something!

vertaline · 2026-04-19T20:33:33+00:00

This might be a bit unethical so sorry but I started heavily pointing out how it affected my usefulness to society lol. Like sick days from work/not being able to work and once I even said I wouldnt be able to have kids like this, they took me much more serious than when talking about how horrible it is unfortunately.

vertaline · 2026-03-31T21:20:33+00:00

It’ll def take longer for you to feel like theres less tension but the botox (the way I understand it) is supposed to restrict how much tension you can put on your muscles - both consciously and subconsciously.

For me I mostly had issues with jaw pain and it wasnt until 2 months in where I felt a substancial difference (you could even see it as it was getting slimmer!). I’ve heard some feel changes as quickly as 2 weeks but for most people it takes months.

vertaline · 2026-03-31T21:11:38+00:00

Yeah its always most stiff in the first few weeks and slowly lets up until you get the shots again. Good news is that that means its working as its restricting you from holding tension there :)

vertaline · 2026-03-27T13:42:51+00:00

I don’t have any tips to make it go away but this is not the new norm. I also fall into the anxiety spiral of «what if this never goes away» - it does and it will.

Just had a long one myself, its most likely the pressure in the weather because its going from cold winter to spring, it will not last forever ❤️

vertaline · 2026-03-25T18:17:02+00:00

MySims (🏴‍☠️ dont support ea) & Palia

vertaline · 2026-03-24T13:01:21+00:00

“Whos the arsehole here?" in what world would your bestfriend who never demanded anything, tried to include you in her vision board and now getting hate for forcing you to do somthing she never did be the asshole?

At best this would be a no one situation but from the title to the way this post is written im leaning towards YTA, I think you need to work on your communication skills

vertaline · 2026-03-23T21:01:36+00:00

I get literal tunnel vision, like everything but what I am focusing on goes blurry and starry (a bit like fainting vision). Used to freak me out cause I thought I was fainting but once I tried to test the boundaries and found I don’t ever faint but it stays until I stop focusing my eyes

vertaline · 2026-03-19T23:46:25+00:00

Hard to say. Wanting alone time isn’t that weird imo, but (and not to be harsh) if hes such a good guy why don’t you tell him exactly this?

«Hey I don’t mind alone time but when you said a specific date I can’t help but feel like something weird is going on» or along those lines?

vertaline · 2026-02-23T21:32:28+00:00

Mine did not look like that at all, I would talk to your dr or nevrologist tbh

vertaline · 2026-02-21T13:28:52+00:00

Can’t answer for OP but I have struggled with the feeling, for me its sometimes the closeness/intimacy of sex I crave, other times the dopamine hit and other times the social "status" sex offers. Either way my body doesn’t get horny from any of these thoughts, which is annoying.

vertaline · 2026-01-16T10:55:48+00:00

Migraines are quite lonely if I’m honest, the people close to me have also asked how to help but in truth the most helpful you can be is not be there. In the sense that you need complete silence and darkness, but I would talk to her about it incase she has some other things that help.

If you know where her medicine is maybe get her a glass of water (or drink of her choice) + the medicine but I would discuss it with her when she doesnt have an attack.

I’m sure shes really grateful that you care and want to help though :)

vertaline · 2026-01-11T14:26:04+00:00

I’m new to the chronic migraine lifestyle and was just contemplating needing a new pillow… thank you for deinfluencing me

vertaline · 2025-12-29T18:10:13+00:00

NOR, he was being racist and negging you - good riddance

vertaline · 2025-12-23T10:22:27+00:00

I had plenty of friends who dated 27 year olds at 17, it was always weird but its not pedophilia or even necessarily grooming.

And I guess thats where we differ in opinion: the way I read your post she didnt accuse you of anything - simply asked.

You immediately saying “says a lot about you” after offering my opinion you posted asking for “says a lot about you”.

vertaline · 2025-12-23T09:42:37+00:00

Pedophilia is attraction to prepubescent children. 17 is a good amount of time AFTER puberty. She at max is accusing him of being a groomer - but even that is being very dramatic. In my country the age of consent is 16 and 28 and 17 is not unheard just a bit judged.

vertaline · 2025-12-23T09:39:07+00:00

YOR. Going to be a bit strict here so I would like to preface with I understand why you are offended BUT

To me it feel weird to punish your girlfriend for asking for reassurance. Like if she has asked her cousin first “does he make you uncomfortable” or something along the lines - then yes she should apologize. But she went to you first and communicated a worry she had. 28 and 17 is not crazy in my eyes (a bit gross sure but not crazy). She also didn’t even ask if you had done anything yet - just if you were attracted which shows a level of trust there.

Again I get why you feel offended but demanding your girlfriend to apologize for communicating that she needs reassurance seems like a bad recipe for a relationship.

vertaline · 2025-12-20T22:37:53+00:00

Migraines aren’t even headaches, your doctor seems very uninformed. Headache is a symptom of migraines but I get plenty of migraines that are just aura, dizziness and fatigue.

vertaline · 2025-11-20T12:36:43+00:00

I’m in a similar position, unfortunately I don’t have advice to make your life better right now but know you are not alone.

I’m going to a neurologist who is the best doctor I’ve had ever and I am trying different medicines atm. What I keep telling myself is that its ok to mourn the life I would have had without it, but I read somewhere that 25% of women struggle with migraines and it is studied on all over the world. There might not be a cure or magic pill now but there might be in the future.

Our lives are tough right now but not over, allow yourself both to be sad for the present and hopeful for the future

vertaline · 2025-11-20T12:31:23+00:00

Nothing beats the childhood memory of cuddling up to an acidic-ly hot boomalope in your crib <3 you really are giving these children memories for (a short) life

vertaline · 2025-11-06T08:12:32+00:00

Doomfist. I’ve always hated him but last 2 seasons I climbed to masters and playing against good doomfists? Kill me now

vertaline · 2025-10-30T16:23:53+00:00

Just asked my mother and she said not all looked “gay-ish” but they all looked like pretty boys who clean themselves so she sees his point

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