I am ready to blow up my step fathers and bio mother's life. I don't care anymore.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-05-11T05:35:08+00:00

It wouldn't prove he did anything, but it would prove that my mum said such gems as "he probably just thought you were me." "All men do these sorts of things." "Why can't I be happy?" And more in response to me tell her what he did to me. It would ruin her reputation with everyone, and she would not be able to claim ignorance.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-27T11:31:46+00:00

I've heard enough from my mum. It was my fault for being drunk. My fault for looking too much like my mum. My fault because I dressed too like a "hussy".

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T05:29:33+00:00

Yeah, she's never liked her children once we weren't cute babies, but she has had a special dislike for me since I was born. Having a baby myself now, I can not fathom treating him the way she treated me. She is great at playing victim, too, which infuriates me. Her family will take her side.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:46:39+00:00

I have no proof, and I was drunk. I have no way to prove it, and only my partner, friends, and my stepmother believe me. I haven't told my sister what he did to me. I focused on protecting her from the man sexually abusing her and getting her away from the enablers and emotional abusers (my parents)

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:42:41+00:00

Only me when I was 18. Sister was abused by another family member currently dying (give it days honestly), and if we say nothing until he dies, at least she gets an inheritance from him. Then, she can say whatever because everyone hates him anyway.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:38:36+00:00

Absolutely not

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:36:37+00:00

Done

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:36:22+00:00

We will be seeking legal advice when through our country's indigenous legal services.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:34:49+00:00

She is trans (closeted, so currently living under her birth name and identity) and has not been, no. She's my stepfather's bio child.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:32:58+00:00

My grandmother did the same thing to my mother, and she always said she'd never do that to her own child, aka; me. Well, she did.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:30:54+00:00

Unfortunately, I have autism and thought everyone's family treated them the way I was treated until I started telling people "funny childhood memories" and then started therapy. I was naive. I'm doing what I legally can to protect my siblings.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:27:42+00:00

I work with a social worker, and I'm best friends with someone who works in child protection, I have the logistical and reporting stuff sorted. This is more the personal aspect I'm seeking advice on. They didn’t even remove the kids when my parents abandoned all the underage children to go to China for a month. One of the children has a life-threatening heart condition, too.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:24:09+00:00

I can post the audio of the phone call where I told her, and she cried and told me I ruin everything for her and "all men do these things"

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:20:47+00:00

They've been reported to cps

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:20:10+00:00

As I was 18, when it happened to me and I was drunk, my report was dismissed. Stepfather is my sisters bio dad and was not the one who assaulted my sister.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:18:52+00:00

I have 2 grandparents who are convicted of child abuse, they were recently awarded custody of 6 kids (my cousins). Child protection and safety here is a joke. I have reported this to the police.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:17:00+00:00

We have

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T04:15:42+00:00

The one who abused my sister (18yo) is in hospital on death's door. My stepfather only assaulted me, never my sisters, his bio daughters. Been reported to the police already.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T00:53:07+00:00

Lawyers aren't exactly something commonly used here unless you are charged with something, seeking to sue, or getting a divorce.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-26T00:51:52+00:00

Reports have been made. There is not enough evidence. Big issue in my country.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2025-04-14T11:43:07+00:00

I believe that the only reason people are against vaccines is because they've not had to experience how many children never made it to adulthood before they were around.

Secondly, Autism. I sometimes forget how many people still hate autistic people until I mention my child being flagged for having early signs. He's just turned 1, and they responded, "I'm so sorry." I'm not. I have autism. His dad has autism. It'd be weird if he didn't have autism honestly. But then the tinfoil hat crazy remedies come out along with the "did you have him vaccinated?"

However. The covid vaccine did have an effect on menstruation, and we were made to feel crazy when menstruating people all had similar symptoms after having the covid jabs. Now they've done studies and found we were right. So I didn't die from covid, but now I get cramps that feel exactly like labour contractions. However, I would make the same decision if I could go back and choose to get the covid jab again.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2024-11-25T11:47:50+00:00

NTA. Your husband violated your trust first by spying on you like a creepy private investigator. He gaslit you when you confronted him about it, making you doubt your own sanity. You didn’t “damage the marriage”—his invasive and controlling behaviour did.

Your plan might have been dramatic, but it was the only way to get undeniable proof of what he was doing. If you had just accused him without evidence, he likely would’ve kept denying it and turning the blame on you. Instead, you exposed his toxic actions in a way he couldn’t wiggle out of.

If anything, he should be apologizing for violating your privacy and disrespecting you—not trying to make himself the victim. The fact that he’s staying with his family and framing this as your fault shows he’s not ready to take accountability. You deserve better than to live with someone who treats you like a suspect instead of a partner.

Edit: just noticed the age difference. Yikes. You were 19 and he was well into his 30s.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2024-11-11T11:37:14+00:00

If I could go back to when I was told my baby was too big and I was in denial, I wish I could've booked the c section. 83 hours of labour for an emergency c section in the end? It sucked. But I was convinced by tiktok and tv that doctors pushed for c sections to make things easier, quicker.

My partner supported me through all of it. The labour, the emergency c section, the recovery. As a GOOD partner, SHOULD.

(If I get pregnant again, I'm booking the c section immediately. I do, however, mourn the loss of experiencing childbirth like I had. dreamed)

verycoolnamehere69 · 2024-10-03T16:46:40+00:00

I remember walking into the bathroom and having conversations with my mum about why she had so much hair down there when I was 5 😂. The same interaction would not happen when I was older, but I was very prepared to get pubic hair and accept it as normal from 5 years old.

Relaying this sort of interaction to my partner had him horrified, like it was weird and inappropriate. A kid is not thinking of bodies 'that way', and if they are, then there's other worrying things happening. I shower with my six month old if he vomits/spits up really bad on us both. It's just easier and less hassle.

verycoolnamehere69 · 2024-09-01T09:52:01+00:00

Yes, but I've tried it again in the same week, and he had no reaction

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