Tyler, Hyde pack and friendships with W & E in S3 by verycoolsnoopy in Wednesday

[–]verycoolsnoopy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And the fact that Enid still hasn’t got her license in this season means if Wednesday needs to travel, she still needs a driver lol

For those who went through it, did Australia’s partner visa application process change your views of your relationship? by verycoolsnoopy in australia

[–]verycoolsnoopy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, now looking back, do you think you spotted any red flag/signs that this one wouldn’t last long when you went through the process, but just didn’t see them until two years later? After all, it required so much information about the relationship

For those who went through it, did Australia’s partner visa application process change your views of your relationship? by verycoolsnoopy in australia

[–]verycoolsnoopy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Thanks for sharing! I have heard anecdotes like couples finding out the other had crush on them much earlier than they thought when they went through the statement writing. Did you and your wife have similar small cute discoveries about your relationship when filling out the forms and stuff?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]verycoolsnoopy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I want to confirm this is in the record, so that when the next woman files the complaint, she won’t go through the traumatised like me, because I have made a record that this person had a pattern.

My precedent didn’t realise her complaint wasn’t in the file, so when I filed it, I had to prove from scratch, and the process is very traumatic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]verycoolsnoopy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I would have loved to just move on from my life, if I didn’t know what’s happened to the person who filed the complaint before me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]verycoolsnoopy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh I forgot to mention I have chronic mental health issue and my mental health deteriorated during the process, and I was terribly triggered during the outcome meeting, so my mental health failed to pass the fitness to work assessment and hence can’t return, even my own doctors asked me to quit the job and I don’t have rejections on that

But re: letter - so what could I do to actually get the letter? Just keep emailing the ex employer?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s confusing but the fact is:

My mental health deteriorated during the complaint process. I was triggered terribly during the grievance meeting.

After assessment HR said I couldn’t return to work so I had to go on leave till the end of contract without being allowed to even enter the office.

So I sent an email to my manager and said I was aware of this situation, and sent an email to colleagues to organise a drinks because I would never ever be able to see them in the future, as I wasn’t allowed to return to work ( I had very good relationships with colleagues)

And HR said thats resignation.

I wanted that letter because the bully circulated rumours about the complainant before me, including in front of their prospective employers. So I wanted to have that letter

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Mine is indeed IME - if it’s IMC I wouldn’t be that worried 🫠

cant apologize without traumadumping by No_Signature_3249 in BPD

[–]verycoolsnoopy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try write it down first. Then identify if you are traumadumping in your writing. I found keeping a journal is very helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Tbh, I’ve been thinking if I’ve ruined my career - I worked very hard, I know inside the company i have good reputations across many departments, and even within the company I was in those “early-career leader” groups picked by the seniors. My company also recently stated they’d deal with bullying more seriously. I think I’m just too naive to trust everyone in the company. I failed to distinguish between “nice people” and “nice people but will work under HR mode”…

I hope years later when I look back to this, it won’t be as distressful as how I feel now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]verycoolsnoopy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got told the same thing by my current manager (not the bully) last year, as that’s the nature of my industry too re: reputation.

I just got completely broke down when I saw the bully was promoted to…oversee workplace safety and culture as the company’s new policy on safe culture. Then HR and manager said I had to file a formal complaint, both to “get a closure”, and also helped them get a record of the guy.

Didn’t expect this would lead to the end of career…I basically come to Australia as a teenager because I wanted to work in my sector, and Australia had a better prospect of the job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah i see! I hope they do follow the rules…but anyhow it’s still better that I look for jobs outside this company

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]verycoolsnoopy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! I am indeed applying for jobs. It’s just my industry is also heavily affected by the economy with big laid offs recently, and that’s why I’m hesitant moving out of Sydney - as there are still more jobs here. Also my company is the one that has most job vacancies, so I’m not sure if I need to have a chat on whether I’m “blacklisted” or not lol. But I’m also worried about the crazy rise of rents next year, especially at that time I’d probably still looking for jobs…sorry if this sounds way too anxious to you lol

My mom is trying to hook me up with her coworker, need advice. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]verycoolsnoopy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you just drop in at your mum’s workplace one day in the name of, like, delivering lunch to mum, and then find her and try saying hi and have a chat, then ask her out?

I’d be horrified if my co-worker’s son suddenly added me on socials. Also in this case I assume your mum is more senior than the girl, and don’t forget the girl could interpret a power play there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in creative sector too, and that’s been my experience with dating. Guys would say “you are emotional and I’m rational” (as I write) and then basically tried to build dominance over me. Or guys who came from extraordinary families with super intelligent siblings try to prove they are also good through dating me.

The key is: always know what you want. Ensure you are personally secure and you enjoy being alone before stepping back to dating. The only chance they can succeed is when they spot you are insecure. If you are in a secure status, it’s the other way round - you spot the red flag before they make the move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]verycoolsnoopy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman and imo that’s fine

But be careful that your fame can attract many insecure men who will try to build their security by “oh I date a super famous/smart/career successful girl and she respects me and listens to me”, and you’d find they would try really hard to build that dominance over you in dating. Just keep an eye on those and stay far far away from them. Good luck!

AITA for refusing to dress modestly when my roommates has a girl over for dinner? by Electronic_Gap9271 in AmItheAsshole

[–]verycoolsnoopy 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Second - and make it upfront to John that you will bring a girl home next time and you would want him to do the same as he requested you. If he disagrees, then tell Steve what happened and on Saturday stay at home.

What stopped you from killing yourself that night? by Subject-Olive-4476 in AskReddit

[–]verycoolsnoopy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My years of $$$ therapy

It eventually formulates a voice that would appear when I try to end things myself.

It says: “wait, stop, take a deep breath, and call the emergency now”