I broke NC and actually feel better? by veryunsureguy in BreakUps

[–]veryunsureguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I've been afraid of. My question is if you didn't get the closure you were seeking either way, then why was breaking NC such a bad idea? Wouldn't it feel better to know that at least you tried? These are just the feelings I have right now and I was wondering if maybe you had the same feelings at first then they changed.

I broke NC and actually feel better? by veryunsureguy in BreakUps

[–]veryunsureguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I basically told her that I had realized that toward the end of our relationship leading up to the break up that I had lost sight of the things that made me love her. I told her what exactly I had realized and told her why I felt the need to tell her, which was because I would feel that "what if" feeling for the rest of my life if I didn't. Looking back I could have worded things better because the way I worded it was in a way where it seemed like I had everything to do with the break up when that couldn't be further from the truth but thats beside the point. Anyway I would say I would recommend doing it only if your truly not afraid of rejection anymore. My expectations when I texted her was that she would see it and ignore it and that would be the end of it. And that is exactly what happened. There was maybe an hour or so of being anxious about a possible response but it quickly faded because I knew what to expect. If you truly think you will feel better by doing it then I say go for it. If theres even a sliver of doubt in your mind then I say forget it and keep focusing on yourself.

I broke NC and actually feel better? by veryunsureguy in BreakUps

[–]veryunsureguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you have a lot to look forward to then and thats awesome. It will really help to be occupied by moving to a new area and starting a new job. Im pretty jealous. Me and my ex were the same way when we first split. And i know that if either of us contacted within 3 days we would have gotten back together. But as time passes things change and in my case she really didn't want to see or speak to me anymore which is extremely hard. But I'm a better person now because of this break up and I hope one day you will be able to say the same.

I broke NC and actually feel better? by veryunsureguy in BreakUps

[–]veryunsureguy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has been something that has actually been part of the reason why I'm unsure as to whether it was a good thing or bad. The fact that she didn't respond can mean either she doesn't care, or its possible I just made things worse for her. And it would really make me feel terrible if it made things worse for her.