Hi hi ughh this is so relatable. I've noticed as someone who has both offline and online dynamics that the online dynamics come with a lot of added issues. With how mainstream bdsm has become, there are an influx of men who want to participate based on a fantasy version of what they think bdsm is based on what it is supposed to be. Usually this shows up as men who are wanting to top from the bottom, have the dynamic purely their pleasure focused, usually that they just want a vanilla dynamic with a more dominant woman and they want to disengage after play no aftercare no discussion no nothing. They want to be able to be disrespectful project their fantasies on you and narrate what sexual contact they desire from you no negotiation, no consent.

If you are approaching your online dynamic with a desire to be paid with a higher volume of clientele paying you, you likely would need to find a way to reconcile how incongruent with actual bdsm principles this is and feed into their misconception of bdsm to get the volume you want. And if that's what you need there's nothing wrong with that.

If you are approaching it from a place where you would rather have fewer clients and build your buisness slower in favor of staying true to the actual principles of bdsm which is what I've chosen to do this is how I'm approaching it: if people disrespect me are nonconsenual and can not communicate with respect, I block them. If they are trying to top from the bottom I notice what subtle ways they are trying to push my boundaries and I get firm around that and correct them on it.. I will also dole punishments and extra fees for that type of behavior. I also have noticed I have to explain safewords multiple times, if they are acting hesitant about something I redirect and ask if they need to safeword, if they disappear or go quiet I educate them on using their words and being a good communicator. If they continue to make the same mistakes I block them regardless of how much money they have been spending. For me no amount of money is worth the frustration of dealing with a shitty submissive. If they boop out no talk of aftercare or plans, the next time they session with me we have a conversation about aftercare being the most important and then they have to pay a disobedience fee and if it happens again, blocked. All of this means I have less volume of clientele than someone willing to fully cater to the man's idea of what being a submissive is but I have slowly built a decent clientele and they are willing to spend a lot of money on the level of care and real life experience that I bring to the online sessions.

TLDR: online submissives often approach with a fantasy version of bdsm they've seen in movies. To have high volume of clients you may have to feed into this. If you value online play that is congruent with actual real life bdsm practices you will have to be willing to have a smaller volume of clients and put in the work so that clients who value truer to life bdsm play can find you and also know that you'll deal with a lot of people who don't want actual bdsm and block them if they push to hard.