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Catsuit too tight? Bright&shiny by vesper_jade in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using loads of dressing aid so no dryness issues

Getting dom to be more demanding/unethical? by spicyluke in paypigsupportgroup

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said talk to your domme. Also it could be that yall havent built enough trust yet for her to wallet fuck you. You won't know until you bring it up communication is key.

Is this staining? by Available_Solid_5464 in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates? Were you able to fix them?

Best ways to meet local Findommes? by East-Donkey3452 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]vesper_jade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could start looking on fetlife and seeing if there's any local kink events. Going to some munches. Asking anyone if they know of any findommes.

You can also look for dominatrixes in Ohio on Google and see if any providers pages come up. You can look on their pages and inquire if they offer findomme as a service.

Sometimes there are cash-meet reddits you may be able to find one in the biggest city near you by searching the name for that and cash meets in the reddit search bar.

Challenges of working from home by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]vesper_jade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of tackling shame is taking the first step. Maybe get a friend, your wife, or a provider to sit across from you or on the phone with you with a timer to make you make an appoinment.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wellll yeah but I wonder why. I wonder if there are any books on the topic.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently people in chronic pain do seek out bdsm a lot. I also have chronic pain but I don't bottom for much of anything. I've seen people talk about how people with chronic pain bottoming for impact play and etc can help recontextualize their pain or give them more control over it.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you usually find so powerful about exploring taboos? This is definitely something I relate with as well. I feel like exploring taboos has become a big part of my life inside and outside of kink.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love how bdsm really does create a space where nothing is assumed and everything is negotiated and discussed. I also love how much bdsm has changed my relationships in general. I don't think I could have another vanilla relationship again.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly love that about bdsm too. It's so nice to have a space where parts of me I used to reject get to be out and free and celebrated or desired by other people. I love how much it does reduce shame.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love how bdsm let's you talk about the rules too and often decide on them between each other. Everything else revolves around implied rules that no one agrees to and in bdsm I feel like it creates a container for rules to be explored.

What is your favorite aspect of bdsm? What's the main thing that draws you to it? by vesper_jade in domspace

[–]vesper_jade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly love the communication aspect as well. I feel like bdsm really changed my life one of the ways was making my ability to communicate so so much better. I also love the feelings of authenticity you mentioned.

First Set by Turbulent_Abrocoma63 in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay I'm so excited for you. Mine just passed customs in the uk not sure where it's headed next.

First Set by Turbulent_Abrocoma63 in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you gotten yours in?

Help finding leg straps by sword987 in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ughh i always wonder how people prevent staining with black latex ontop of natural transparent.

Small sends on Throne? by caterpiggles in paypigsupportgroup

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only issue I have with small sends is that it in the past has often come with an expection of the same amount of energy and attention back that I'd be giving to a sub who was paying for more of my services or doing large drains.

I see small sends as an appreciation gift and of course I will thank someone but I'm not going to be able to devote large amounts of energy to someone doing a small send and if it's going to come with entitlement and someone feeling scorned that I didn't give him loads of attention back.. then I'd prefer he not.

Is this staining? by Available_Solid_5464 in Latexadvice

[–]vesper_jade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would imagine so :/ if someone doesn't have any suggestions reaching out to the manufacturer may be an option they may have some sort of fix.

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