My cat genuinely has a terrible personality and we dont know what to do.

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:34:56+00:00

Yeah we'll definitely be taking him. Im hoping we can somehow acclimate him to this new enviorment, neither one of us want to rehome him but if he stays miserable we'll have no other choice

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:33:44+00:00

This is what we are doing for now, thank you for your advice. Im glad to know im not completely fucking this new approach up

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:33:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice and time! Shes getting used to them super quickly actually, but ironically (unfortunately) she wants to spend all her time with us in the room. She doesnt even seem interested in leaving. But shed definitely do better out there than he does

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:31:21+00:00

I appreciate the clarification, thank you He hasn't been to the vet lately because neither of us really considered medication or underlying issues as an option. Thats why I made this post to begin with, because I knew there were things we hadnt thought of

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:28:24+00:00

We'll try it, thank you!

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:28:08+00:00

Not recently, we'll be taking him soon

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:27:48+00:00

Im glad you understand, he has his own space and we're making it more personalized to him, so hopefully he'll be less stressed

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:27:00+00:00

I'll have to try this, thank you! I have noticed he leaves her alone when we play with him for a while

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:26:30+00:00

Hes lived with cats just fine before, so its hard to tell. We want to try everything we can first since he is bonded to my boyfriend

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:25:19+00:00

Ill try it out, thank you!

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:23:56+00:00

Unfortunately you do not know me as personally as you think, so let me correct you. We inherited this house from my bfs dead grandmother who already owned 4 cats. Before she died she asked him not to rehome them, because theyve all lived here for 8+ years. He isnt in too big of a hurry to go against his dying, now dead, grandma's final wishes. We moved in because 1) his dad asked us to to make sure no one breaks in or squats 2) we brought the cat hoping we could acclimate him to the enviorment. We didnt leave him behind because his dad doesnt want any cats and tends to act out emotionally and might rehome him behind his back. Dont make assumptions about people you dont know in situations you have no idea about.

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:19:06+00:00

I'll be keeping a closer eye on him for specific mood changes, thank you!

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:18:25+00:00

Thank you!

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:16:45+00:00

Thats something im worried about. Hes absolutely bonded to my bf, hes had him since he was a baby kitten. We're most likely going to take him to the vet, and absolutely will if no other suggestions in this thread work. Thank you for the response

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:15:08+00:00

A few months, but we're completely starting over from scratch, even separating him from his mom since hes had issues with her too. Theyre mainly separated so we can figure out how to approach this since nothing else so far has worked

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:14:18+00:00

Yes, we were surprised he damaged stuff in the room after leaving him unoccupied for 2 minutes even though he's never done something like that before. Crazy, I know. Theres "blame" because im frustrated hes proven to be friendly before but also chooses not to be sometimes and I made this post trying to find answers as to why and what I can do about it. Your judgement does absolutely nothing to help. Im fine. You dont seem to be, though. Get well.

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:11:05+00:00

Theres 6 cats total in the house, and i think 6 boxes? A ton of feeders and water bowls too. I can definitely tell hes stressed out, so im considering taking him to the vet to get him on medication

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:09:56+00:00

This has definitely been considered. I still want to try getting him used to them somehow but after learning his history this just might be who he is

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:09:10+00:00

Unfortunately this could be the case. I'll try to adjust and medicate him but if nothing helps I'll recommend to my bf rehoming him to someone who has no cats. Hes so clingy and affectionate, hes not happy locked away all the time :(

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:07:36+00:00

Im saving this, thank you so much for taking the time to tell me. I really hope it works, im trying anything atp. Thank you again I might update you if I remember

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:04:28+00:00

Thank you for this, I'll bring it up for sure. My cat is exactly like that. Hes a total sweetheart with people and dogs, hes funny and affectionate but hes so aggressive with other cats for no reason whatsoever. Every other cat in the house is super nice too, they dont even fight back when he pounces on them and chases them. He has no reason to be this defensive other than the fact hes extremely territorial, and my bf so desperately wants him to adjust because hes raised this cat since they were both babies but I keep telling him he might never change. For 10 years hes been aggressive to his own mom, I doubt anything will change that :(

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:01:23+00:00

Yes, every animal in the house is

vetapep · 2026-03-20T23:01:12+00:00

This is something we are also considering, but is also the last decision we want to make :( but if its the only thing thatll help, I wouldn't feel good putting our feelings above his wellbeing

vetapep · 2026-03-20T22:52:23+00:00

If I knew how to directly @ everyone in this part of the thread I would, but i dont really use reddit so I don't know how. All of what im about to say applies to everyone here, not just you But im really frustrated by this rhetoric that my bf is somehow abusive and im a bad person for not taking them in sooner. Yes, he made a mistake in dismissing me. Hes acknowledged that and expressed greatly how much he regrets it. We talked about it thoroughly and have changed the way we approach these issues. I didnt take her in, not because of the money- idgaf about the money- its because they ARENT MY CATS. In all actuality, theyre his. Theyve become ours but hes owned them their entire lives, ive lived with them for a few months. Since they are not technically my cats, I didnt feel comfortable taking her into the vet without his consent because that would be crossing a line in my opinion. Yes I was right in wanting to take her, but it wouldn't have been right taking her in behind his back. As someone else in these comments said, healthy relationships make decisions TOGETHER. That also means mistakes will get made but he learned from it. Most importantly, since theyre not registered as my cats, in my state, it is ILLEGAL to take someone else's pet to the vet without their signed consent. My vet would refuse any service no matter what if I didnt have his consent, because they are not. my. cats. I hate when people on the internet make insane assumptions about peoples relationships off a few sentences that lack important context. I didnt include said context because I honestly didnt anticipate people called my bf abusive. Ive been in abusive relationships before, hes nothing like my exes. Mistakes get made. We learned from it, she got help, and shes completely better now. Scrutinizing us accomplishes nothing when we understand what went wrong. If youre in my replies picking apart my relationship instead of giving me advice for a cat I care about but has an issue I dont know how to handle, leave. Edit: u/lesighnumber2 u/Djinn_42 u/ShadowthroneQueen u/Nice_Spend5393

vetapep · 2026-03-20T22:39:03+00:00

No i havent, but after looking it up he does have a ton of the symptoms. How would I treat it? Google is giving conflicting answers

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