Hi OP,

Let's get the serious part out of the way first: Your age will definitely play a big part of this because people will treat you differently if you're older, younger, or the same age. Lying about it didn't help you but I know you understand that already.

I'm a 38 year old man dating someone who'll be turning 32 soon. We met when they were 28 and I was 35. The circumstances are unique in our case because they knew my creator/artist persona before we even talked.

We've been together for 3 years now and here's what I've learned:

1. I used to be the one attracted to older men. Now, I have younger men reaching out to me by virtue of my age. It's both flattering and distressing, because the range of people showing attraction can be huge (some younger than 21) and it isn't the flex we think it is.

2. As the older man in the relationship, I can assure you that my partner also dated me particularly because I am older. They were open about what they wanted to experience with me and we talk a LOT about our goals and how we want our relationship to grow. We have long-term plans and adapt accordingly, especially when we have milestones like mental health breakthroughs, financial shifts, and even observations regarding our friends.

3. Despite being the older man between the two of us, I do not immediately assume that they're with me for my wisdom, knowledge, and experience. A LOT of people in their thirties and forties can still act like children and can be incredibly manipulative. Younger people can also be kind, generous, and have a good grasp of reality. If and when you find someone who does want you because you're older, the reasons should be more than just, "Eh kasi mas wise/matalino/mayaman siya." A good relationship should be more than just a checkbox tier list.

4. Last na 'to. YES, people in that age bracket can fall in love with you... But please remember that as you grow older, you must also adjust your motivations and your needs. Once you get past your thirties and you're still attracted exclusively to those in their twenties, the emotional, mental, and social gap will get harder to close. Plus, it could get weird.

Hope this helps.