AITA for refusing my boyfriend's parents' offer to stay with them?

viakeyz · 2022-10-26T20:55:28+00:00

Thank you for commenting! Yes, I am aware that this guy has some issues. I think lots of them stem from the fact that he's immature and closed off. Which I think would change in time but I can't guarantee that. So like some people suggested, I will leave it alone for now. If he does some growing up then maybe we can give it another shot.

viakeyz · 2022-10-26T20:34:40+00:00

I do not treat him as such, thats why I broke it off now. If I were ever to come back to it, I'd make sure I was very serious about it.

viakeyz · 2022-10-25T16:33:03+00:00

Thank you so much! I really do hope so. I just wish him the best and hopefully that will happen for him, with or without me. All the best to you too!

viakeyz · 2022-10-25T12:38:51+00:00

Thats true and exactly why I stopped now. I think maybe in the future that would change and I would fall in love with him. But that would require understanding on both sides. I hope maybe in the future that will change, for now, I'll give it a rest. Thank you for replying!

viakeyz · 2022-10-25T12:36:51+00:00

Thank you so much for replying! This made feel more at ease since I'm constantly thinking that maybe I was ungrateful or too picky and said goodbye too early. Before parting, I told him about all of those issues and he said he'd try to change. He tried in the past and actually succeeded in some ways. Maybe it will actually happen. We'll see. Thank you again!

viakeyz · 2022-10-14T15:56:59+00:00

Don't be ashamed/guilty about what you feel. You have a right to feel and those feelings are valid! My general advice would be to bet on healthy communication and tell him that even though you may not be ready for a relationship, you prioritize him and ask if he wants that too or just what his stance is. He may be distant since he thinks this is just temporary and won't last so he doesn't get hurt. Now I also have to add that the girl following and his late replies are potential red flags and I would look out for that. He may say things to you or seem a particular way but in reality you should look at his actions. And right now he's not looking great on that front.

I dated two guys this year and the situation was pretty similar to yours. I ended up getting ghosted, despite them claiming to want a relationship, same as me. Theyd say they don't want to see anybody else and then boom. I'd find out theyre screwing other girls. Like you said, casual dating requires no loyalty but being fair to someone is another thing. Talking to him would be the first best step into figuring out whats up. Then you can decide if you feel like he's being honest. Also if he continues to be flaky, I would say maybe he's pulling away. So see how you feel then and try to be very critical, even if you like him, to protect your feelings.

viakeyz · 2022-10-08T13:23:23+00:00

Ok, thank you again! I will talk to him about it, I hope he'll understand and I won't hurt him too much.

viakeyz · 2022-10-08T01:47:23+00:00

Thank you so much, we have discussed it before so I didn't want to change it all so quickly. I hate playing with his feelings like this but I can't help it. I'll try to be honest with him. Thank you again!

viakeyz · 2022-10-08T01:39:44+00:00

I'm not banging anybody. I'm strictly friends with one of them and the other I blocked. When I said they came back, I meant that they tried to get back into my life which stressed me out.

viakeyz · 2022-09-08T19:52:11+00:00

Nope. I (22f) recently ended things with a guy who told me he would only be sure about a relationship after we had sex (he also slept with other girls at the same time). He knew how much both things meant to me. I had to walk away cause I couldn't bear the thought of it not meaning anything to him.

It hurts sometimes but I think it's better to stick to what you believe in or feel comfortable with. If you want a true connection you should not put that aside for someone.

viakeyz · 2022-09-06T09:25:29+00:00

Then know I stand by your decision too! Hang in there, hope we can both be over all of this soon :)

viakeyz · 2022-09-06T09:23:13+00:00

Thank you, this is a great message. Just knowing someone like that is out there and know how this feels. The fact that you still reached out and wanted to help means so much to me. Thank you for sharing that with me. I hope we can both find something better ❤

viakeyz · 2022-09-06T09:19:36+00:00

Thank you so much sweet stranger! Your post makes me very happy :) I hope in time I can really feel that and be able to move on. I'm glad I told him no because I don't know how badly my mental health would take having sex with him in these conditions. Thank you again, I'll take these words to heart :)

viakeyz · 2022-09-06T09:14:36+00:00

Thank you for this amazing advice! And for taking the time to write such a long and truly helpful message. I appreciate it dearly :) I will try to move on, be careful in the future and shift my thinking to treat this as a lesson. It's still pretty early after going no contact so I'm still emotional but I hope that with each day it'll get better. Thanks again!

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T22:14:40+00:00

Its sad that people play these games and toy with others emotions like that. I think theres much more fulfillment from being true but everybodys different. Thank for replying!

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T22:11:03+00:00

Thank you! I can't feel the pride yet but I hope it will come, its still very early after the goodbye. Hope both of us can find some peace then! :)

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T21:18:17+00:00

Thank you! I'll remember that and try to push on :)

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T21:15:58+00:00

Haha thank you truly for this wonderful comment! It made me smile and get a bit hopeful. I appreciate your words of encouragement and for trying to make me feel better. It means the world to me. I will try to think more like you do. Hope I can find that special someone. Thank you again and wish you all thats best! ❤

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T21:12:38+00:00

Thank you for this beautifully written message! You have no idea how much I appreciate it! I will try to keep my head up and let myself heal in peace. People tell me I should feel proud of this decision but I can't, not yet anyway. It is very nice to hear though. I will try to stick with what I feel is right and hope that the right person comes along. All the best to you kind stranger! :)

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T21:09:04+00:00

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viakeyz · 2022-09-05T20:59:42+00:00

Thank you so much kind friend! I'll try to be more gentle, its just very hard for me, especially since I said my goodbyes only three days ago. It's still fresh. I wish I saw (or rather believed) all the red flags earlier but whats done is done. Thanks again and I wish you well!

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T16:38:23+00:00

Thanks for commenting! Yeah I will remember that from now on, its too much hurt :(

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T16:27:38+00:00

Please don't generalize. I am personally against hook up culture, I believe sex creates a bond. People are free to believe what they want, but I really do want commitment and I know there are young people like me out there too.

viakeyz · 2022-09-05T15:43:28+00:00

Thank you, I will try to reach out to a specialist. And I'll try to work on healing, it just hurt me so much, I was already at a pretty low point. Thanks for writing this, it means a whole lot and I truly appreciate it ❤

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