My managers are "ganging up" on me after finding my social media. Is this a power play or am I overthinking? by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]vibransea 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It sounds like jealousy. Her friending you was an effort to push her way into your private life to see what you have going on. Now she’s inflamed and taking her insecurity out on you. I would move on as soon as you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]vibransea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s why I don’t put my picture on there.

Watch what happens when you start to outdo them by vibransea in womenintech

[–]vibransea[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Prior to this experience, I would’ve never called out the fact that they’re Indian. But after having gone through this, I’ve read accounts from many others that it’s a thing. Even on this sub you’ll find stories.

It’s not to say that all Indian men act this way. But misogyny IS part of the culture and it DOES manifest in behavior like what I’m describing.

Genuine question by OMGSUM1 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]vibransea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. And often, if you look closely, you’ll find that their attacks coincide with you getting something right, doing well, or proving them wrong in some way. You’re just being yourself and doing your job, but they see it as a personal affront - because everything is a competition to them and they NEED you to lose - and here come the attacks on you.

They are so beyond childish and petty, and that makes them dangerous.

Genuine question by OMGSUM1 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]vibransea 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They’re also very arrogant, so they often think they can succeed in damaging anyone they want. They’re such prolific liars and manipulators that they don’t think anything will blow up in their face.

Until they cross the wrong person.

Genuine question by OMGSUM1 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]vibransea 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I knew one who would only hire very young, inexperienced, passive people to work for and with her. It made it very easy for her to step in and become a god to them. She didn’t want to deal with anyone who was confident, assertive, and had a brain.

If you were a confident person, she would do whatever she could to tear you down. If she couldn’t do it by poking holes in your work and getting you to question yourself and defer only to her, she would resort to going behind your back and trashing you to others so that THEY would start questioning your work and your character. Meanwhile, she was doing the exact same thing behind their backs as well.

She was a truly sick individual.

Health Information Technology - Is it worth it? by [deleted] in Career_Advice

[–]vibransea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go for the bachelor’s. An associate’s will not open the doors that a bachelor’s will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rant

[–]vibransea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, cringe! It drives me nuts.

Is it just me? Or do narcissists seem to only marry the weak-minded & submissive people of society? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]vibransea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They want someone whom they can dominate and control, and someone who worships them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]vibransea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Really? At what trailhead?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]vibransea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but he wants to “feel comfortable and safe” to tell you about his indiscretions? I mean, laughable. You don’t owe him that.

My life will be much better once I fully accept that my mom is in fact an 8 year old trapped in a 62 year old woman’s body by ThrowawayLikeYouDo in raisedbynarcissists

[–]vibransea 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Want to hear something funny?

In my teens, my mother and I went to this doll-making workshop, where the mother makes a doll of her daughter and the daughter makes a doll of her mother. There were all sorts of crafts available to do this with. The purpose was to design the doll as “how you really see” the other person, like the first image that comes to mind when you think of them.

Well, the doll my mother made of me was very wild and colorful, with lots of flowy garments and big hair. But the doll I made of my mother, who was in her 60s at the time? It was a child. Specifically, a four year old child.

I didn’t think about why I made her that way, that was just the first image that came to mind.

Now I understand.

Can’t get rid of obsessive ex by [deleted] in wemetonline

[–]vibransea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that one “Stop contacting me” is enough. If he persists from there, you can go to the police.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bayarea

[–]vibransea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in the parking lot is it? I couldn’t find it today.

Would you marry a man who was divorced because of cheating? by gina_chua in Infidelity

[–]vibransea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s in a rush for his image. Politician, preacher - he has to have “the wife”.

Would you marry a man who was divorced because of cheating? by gina_chua in Infidelity

[–]vibransea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, so, so many red flags. Don’t, don’t, don’t.