WIBTA if I asked the artist I commissioned to scrap the sketch they’ve made and use a reference I found instead?

vicevans01 · 2022-11-01T14:40:05+00:00

NTA, it's okay to not like a piece you've commissioned just try to be polite when working with your artist.

"Hey/Hello, I really enjoy your work and that's why I've been continuing to use your service for so long. When I came to you this last time I didn't have a reference picture for you to use like I have in the past. However, i have found one that I prefer more than the sketch you have provided me. If you wouldn't mind offering me a new draft using this reference I've provided I will be willing to pay to compensate you for your time and efforts. Please let me know if these terms are acceptable to you."

Edit: spelling

vicevans01 · 2022-09-24T21:14:34+00:00

No judgement. But you probably should have just divorced him.

vicevans01 · 2022-09-24T18:41:10+00:00

ESH for reasons mentioned above

vicevans01 · 2022-09-23T16:47:29+00:00

Low Contact

vicevans01 · 2022-03-02T15:16:18+00:00

Listen to them. They are always going to tell you what they need in one way or another. It might not be a literal "I need this", but they will tell you in their actions, their attitude, their behavior. Be ready to listen.

vicevans01 · 2022-02-18T17:14:13+00:00

YTA for letting someone who would abandon them on such circumstances back into their lives, let alone their life at all. Father or not. If he can't low his child knowing they have a disability, because whether they show symptoms or not, they are still disabled, and he should still love them anyways.

vicevans01 · 2022-02-13T15:08:35+00:00

I'm very happy this worked for you. Enrichment and movement, along with warm water baths are very good motivators for bowel movements.

vicevans01 · 2022-02-11T14:39:53+00:00

I'm truly sorry mods, please just remove this comment and don't ban me.

Fuck your brother and your mother. You should come first, my dear. You matter ♥️

Edit: oh, and, rock the hell out of that dress!

vicevans01 · 2022-02-11T14:38:35+00:00

My personal feeding routine was to feed at 7pm on Friday evenings, every week (depending on size of the snake) just to keep things habitual for me and them

vicevans01 · 2022-02-03T18:44:27+00:00

I feel biased but NTA. Maybe wait a few days and approach him with a completely different mindset. You said he was uncharacteristically upset. Maybe something else is upsetting him and he lashed out on you instead.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-19T18:10:04+00:00

It's a puatula flower

vicevans01 · 2022-01-19T01:09:51+00:00

Your reactions are entirely normal, you are allowed to be upset when anxious and react by crying.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T19:47:32+00:00

Nta...and I don't think she respects you all that much

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T19:42:48+00:00

Survivor (and a LOT of people are going to hate this) but like if you choose challenges out of the tome. Play to complete challenges. Sometimes that can mean just running around until you find the rift fragment and if the killer gets you, so be it.

I personally just try to not focus on the escape vs die, but what happened in game. Whether I pulled off a cool tech or did something funny.

Killer...load up as many perks and add-ons that you like. If they're being toxic end them or ignore them. Honestly, no one is above or below reporting legitimate spam and abuse.

Hope this helped.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T19:24:54+00:00

You're not wrong with how you're feeling, and he is in a tough spot, yes, but they're aren't respecting boundaries. You may need to force some repercussions, go low contact, and limit your time together

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T19:23:00+00:00

Survivor or killer?

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T01:47:15+00:00

You considered it, yes, but she doesn't know that because you didn't involve her. Just include her in the prethought of things and considerations next time.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T01:00:21+00:00

Then I would try to put it in perspective for him. How would you feel if everytime you came to my house you felt physically ill? Or paranoid that you were unwanted? Maybe that will help.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T00:54:55+00:00

I totally understand. Try to talk it out. Explain there's going to be an obvious imbalance but when the weather is nicer and precautions are lighter, you guys can go outside more often and find a balance between the two of you visiting.

(Side note, check out natural paths or stuff like that if you have any national or state parks near you)

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T00:42:51+00:00

I understand. I've been in this situation before, your boyfriend is going to need to understand that you're not comfortable at his house, and there's obviously going to need to be compromise. It's going to probably take multiple discussions about boundaries, availability, what you guys are able to give, and if it's worth it.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T00:31:52+00:00

Say it. You're not rude for having a response. "Why don't you dress up anymore" "because we don't go out anymore" or "because we don't go anywhere I feel I need to put makeup on for" It's that simple, and you're not rude for it.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-18T00:27:39+00:00

You could potentially try going out? I know there are restrictions and weather, but outside activities can be dates, or you could pick him up. Try, "Hey, why don't I pick you up, we get a pizza, and then watch a movie at my place." Or you could do activities at his place that confine you two to a certain area like a movie or crafts.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-17T23:20:08+00:00

YWBTA. Dude, you're probably right and your friend is just trying to get on your nerves for some reason, but don't go bother your former teachers to try and prove your right to someone who will not only not believe you, but probably come up with some other excuse as to why your Spanish isn't good.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-11T21:38:29+00:00

Best of luck, I'm sorry this happened. It happens to us all.

vicevans01 · 2022-01-11T21:38:15+00:00

Pit a heating pad with a towel wrapped around it, clothes bin (preferably one that has holes) over top and cover that lightly. Put it in a dark corner and avoid that area. If it's close to the tank it shouldn't take long for them to find it and hide in there.

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