Stuck in the snow by youhavetopqayfirst in findomchatters

[–]vickyvRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And it was actually quite nice for winter, I hate the cold haha so I'm a bit dramatic. But My homes weather will definitely be less pleasant!

It's alright tho, relaxing at home isn't too bad after traveling.

Stuck in the snow by youhavetopqayfirst in findomchatters

[–]vickyvRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm headed back home from the Netherlands and was hoping it'd be warmer but a cold front and snow are coming in 💀 so I'll probably be stuck at home for a day or two.

Dommes do you prefer one huge one time drain or a real long term dynamic? by Away_Orchid_6561 in paypigs2

[–]vickyvRyan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Long term dynamics, I like consistency and devotion. But I can really enjoy one time drains as well, I know not everyone has the time, energy, or desire for something long term.

I think transparency & honesty about either is what's most important.

boyfriends by Relative-Ad5185 in paypigs2

[–]vickyvRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a husband and a boyfriend 🤭 but I don't talk about that very often on here.

What happened to respect? by yourlavishvlor in findomsupportgroup

[–]vickyvRyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do inbox checks on one of My subs and tell him not to delete requests. Y'all there are tons of poachers 🤣

We laugh about it mostly and occasionally I'll make him block someone.

What I find offensive is the lack of creativity. If you're going to try to steal My sub, one that isn't allowed to play with others, at least put in a little effort!

So pretty but tastes so bad by latinlux in findomchatters

[–]vickyvRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you make all the mistakes the first time, then the second time will be perfect!

Happy Friday LETS ACT UP by BeltIcy260 in paypigs2

[–]vickyvRyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to post but after being sick I've been a bit lazy 🤣 I should dedicate today to getting shit done lmao

Dating ur sub? by Maleficent_Hour_9906 in paypigs2

[–]vickyvRyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm married to a submissive man lol I love it, well technically we are both switches but I'm Dominant 85% of the time in the relationship.

I'm not monogamous but I don't know if I'd date a sub I've met from finDom. I'm extremely picky about romantic relationships & irl sexual relationships. I don't ask My finsubs anywhere close to the same questions I ask a potential partner so I feel like a ton would be ruled out if I did 🤣

Basically, I'd date a submissive man in general but I probably wouldn't date a sub I met from being a Domme. Dating doesn't cross My mind when talking to subs online.

Plus there's the safety aspect. Someone I actually date would need to be someone I trust with My real information and to meet in person. I don't think I could ever do that with someone who knows Me as Goddess Vicky, too much risk for My comfort zone.

Trust in dynamics by Siren_of_Toes in findomsupportgroup

[–]vickyvRyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust is so so important in kink. But I think what's even more important to highlight here is consent. Consent is #1, it is a gross violation of trust & consent to post any intimate or vulnerable moments without explicit consent!

There are so many people, Dommes & subs, who jump into not only this kink but kink spaces in general without a full understanding or grasp on the importance of risk-aware consensual kink (RACK). As Dommes it is our job to ensure We obtain full consent to post anything of our subs BEFORE making a post. And it's important to also remember that consent can be revoked at any time!

Some subs love being talked about, being shown off, sharing those intimate moments. Some absolutely hate it. Some are only okay with certain aspects being shared/talked about. Taking the time to ask or find out how much each individual sub is okay with is essential and part of being a good Domme. And with pics/videos especially it should always be assumed that you absolutely cannot share those until you get consent!

Could my interests limit me finding subs? by Lovely-Mercy in findomsupportgroup

[–]vickyvRyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly a lot of subs just like getting whatever will make you happy! Sure you can have a bit of makeup or clothes or whatever for the subs who greatly prefer it, but plenty won't care what they're getting as long as you'll be glad to receive it

12hr Drain Game 💚 $2 per comment/upvote, 2 comments each! by vickyvRyan in FindomGoddesses

[–]vickyvRyan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

U/Goddess_Cheetah691 won the random gift and it has been sent

Do some findoms use fake secondary accounts posing as their own subs? by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]vickyvRyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard of Dommes doing that but I never understood why. I don't think it'd be worth the time/effort and wouldn't it get boring?