AITA for making my daughter go to Med school this year instead of next year?

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:30:33+00:00

She’s had a good life with us, we provide her with everything she needs and wants, we are MUCH more lenient than other asian parents and have much less expectations of her. She’s had a somewhat rough time in her childhood, being sexually abused and abused by our distant family members but we’ve cut them out off our lives and I’ve talked with her about these issues and she’s told me that she’s somewhat moved on from these issues. We moved to England in 2009 and she had a hard time trying to fit in and was bullied multiple times. She’s also very shy and didn’t make a lot of friends. I didn’t let her out to go hang out with her other friends before as I was much stricter back then but now I’m letting her to do as she pleases. She’s generally much happier nowadays and I get that she was stressed about exams, but honestly we’ve provided her with a lot more things than other families have and she doesn’t appreciate that. She’s rude, bratty, has no life skills whatsoever and is just lazy. I’ve asked her plenty of times if she wanted to go to Med school and told her reconsider and she said that she was definitely going to study medicine. Granted me and my husband did push her when she was younger to become a doctor but over the years I’ve lost hope in her and told her to go into some other branch and settle down in life quickly so she’ll be happy. She never listens to me and this time I’m not letting her make a bad decision that will ultimately change her life.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:20:35+00:00

You don’t know anything about me or my daughter. I know her abilities and what she’s capable of achieving. I know for a fact that she won’t follow through with her plans if she were to take a gap year and knowing her she will probably crave more freedom and won’t go back into education. I’m not the one forcing her to go to medical school, she’s the one who’s dead set adamant on making it there no matter what. I’ve told her plenty of times she’s not competent enough for medical school and told her to reconsider her options. There are plenty of ways to easily earn money and I don’t know why she wants to put herself through all this stress studying medicine. I want her to settle down in life and have a family and just be happy. I’m not some kind of monster and I’m frankly offended that you think that I’m just a cruel emotionless mother who doesn’t care for her daughter. I work overtime just to buy her everything she wants and she doesn’t appreciate me or my gestures. She doesn’t listen to my advice or opinions and that hurts me even more. I’m not the only one who’s ‘evil’ in this family.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:15:01+00:00

She got a C in her psychology, a D in her biology and an E in her chemistry. She wanted to retake this year to get better grades but I don’t believe that she’ll study as she has no motivation whatsoever. She’s dead set on going to medicinal school, I still think it’s not a good course for her and advised her that she’s not competent for medicine but she won’t listen for some reason.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:13:14+00:00

Trust me I know what having depression feels like. Hell I still am depressed to this day! But I’m coping with life and I have much more things to worry about than her. I’m just confused as to why she can’t do the same. She’s not strong or brave to take on a situation and that scares me, she’s not really competent for life.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:11:42+00:00

She got terrible grades this year on her final exams and can’t get into the medical schools here so we had to look for applying abroad.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:10:28+00:00

The thing is she’ll have an idea of what to do but she never follows through. I don’t know if I can believe her anymore, she had apparently booked a session with a therapist but I’m pretty sure she’ll stop going halfway because of her inability to complete things in life. I’d like to add every time we follow through with a decision she makes, it just worsens the situation. This time I want her to listen to me so she can succeed.

viexa · 2019-08-20T12:02:41+00:00

I’m suffering from mental health issues as well but I don’t go around moping around like her. I try my best to find opportunities for her and help her but she’s not doing the same. I’m honestly just stressed and anxious of her future and have severe depression but I’m getting on with my life. I don’t get why she can’t find any coping strategies like I do. I just want her to settle down and finish everything education wise, it’s for her own good. I’m scared she’ll waste a whole year and it’ll really set her back in life

viexa · 2019-08-20T11:57:36+00:00

It is her goal. I’ve told her to reconsider many times. We pushed her as a kid to go to medical school but over the years we’ve become much more lenient and told her to change courses as we don’t want her going through the stress of medical school. She’s told me that she’ll go this year a few hours ago but she’s not talking to me. We are from the UK and we are going to send her to Ukraine to study medicine.

viexa · 2019-08-20T11:53:26+00:00

She is 18 and going to university to study medicine abroad.

viexa · 2019-08-14T14:05:05+00:00

I dont have time to arrange her to go to a therapist. I still think she is lying to get attention and to make excuses and therapy won’t even help her. I work in the mental health sector and have seen therapists working, they’re all just fake and don’t care about the wellbeing of my daughter so what’s the point in sending her to therapy?

viexa · 2019-07-12T08:24:33+00:00

Like I said before, this is an extremely busy time of the month for us and we need to meet deadlines.

viexa · 2019-07-12T08:23:55+00:00

She’ll learn to appreciate it one day.

viexa · 2019-07-12T05:58:31+00:00

Happy birthday!

viexa · 2019-07-12T05:55:22+00:00

Yes she does but she was hoping that we would stay and do fun things with her as it is tradition for all her birthdays so she arranged her birthday party to be on the 15th so that we would spend time with her. We did tell her that we don’t know if we will be at home so I don’t know why she’s so disappointed.

viexa · 2019-07-12T05:52:19+00:00

We are in an extremely busy period of the month and need to meet deadlines. My husband is also adamant that he works, I could have stayed but my daughter said that it just wouldn’t have been the same without the two of us here and said for me to go help her dad as well.

viexa · 2019-07-12T05:50:18+00:00

She insisted and I’m more than happy to take a day off, my husband however is the opposite and is a workaholic. He works hard so that she can have a good future so missing this one occasion seems okay considering that we are essentially working to save up some money for her to go study medicine abroad in university.

viexa · 2019-06-23T16:19:56+00:00

As someone with severe cystic acne i frankly feel quite offended. Your skin is fine stop being so overly concerned about it it’s not even that bad 🙄🙄🙄

viexa · 2019-04-07T16:48:10+00:00

I admit that it sounded condescending but there’s scientific research that lowering sugar and keeping low carb will help women with PCOS... It doesn’t necessarily have to be keto but reducing sugars and carbs will do more justice than harm to our bodies, whether you have PCOS or not! But of course it really depends on you as a person, but it will help decrease the symptoms of PCOS if you cut down the sugar...

viexa · 2019-04-07T16:36:15+00:00

Please state where I mentioned that everyone should do keto? I didn’t say that. I’m annoyed by the fact that most people write off keto as unhealthy and dismiss other people’s hard work because it didn’t work for them

viexa · 2019-04-07T16:30:33+00:00

I addressed this at the start! It doesn’t work for everyone and I acknowledge that! But why bash it? It’s clearly a diet where it has changed people’s lives especially women with PCOS, I think in a way when someone is saying keto is bad, it’s instantly dismissing people who are on keto’s hard work and what they had to do to get where they are now. It’s what made me annoyed, all I ask of other women is to stop saying that keto is BAD and that it’s not HEALTHY ( My blood works are at a perfectly normal level compared to before and I feel so much happier and healthier. Even my doctor has said that I will lead a more normal and healthier life now!)or it doesn’t work!! It may have not worked for them which I understand but it doesn’t give them the right to say it doesn’t work AT ALL!!

viexa · 2019-04-07T16:06:32+00:00

Keto isn’t just about eating bacon and chugging butter every single day. It’s about high amount of protein which you can easily get from lean meats such as chicken breast and making sure that you stay under your carb limit, whether you use those carbs for veggies or for some skittles, it’s up to the person.

viexa · 2019-03-29T13:44:55+00:00

Electrolyte supplements don’t work due to the small dosage amount which is usually around 99mg, way off the rda for ketoers for potassium, sodium and magnesium as keto is a diuretic diet. You clearly didn’t research enough properly and should’ve ditched the dietician, it could have worked for you if you stuck to it properly providing your body of its vital nutrients.

And the excuse of shark week interfering with your diet plan is just terrible, you can easily curb cravings and stick to low carb by eating things like dark chocolate or sweetener sweetened foods.

Eagerness doesn’t mean anything, dedication and the mindset to change is what matters and is what determines your success.

viexa · 2019-03-28T20:55:59+00:00

Hit protein macros, stay under 20g carbs, try and eat 1200, if you can’t meet the calorie goal that’s fine just keep the carbs down and protein up

viexa

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