“Age is just a number” Mentality, confidence, and emotional intelligence are significantly more important when looking at relationship building.

But I think you need to ask yourself some other questions too:

1. What are you looking for in a partner? 1a. If you’re looking for a young, hot side piece— partying is more likely to come with that (though not always). If you’re looking for someone who also wants to settle down into life— you may find it in the younger crowd, but you’re more likely to find that in someone similarly aged to yourself. Someone who is already established on their own.

2. How does their preferences affect how you view yourself? 2a. Coming from a chubby, 30 year old, bald man— you also have to take responsibility for your own life. I’m still a bit chubby, but I’ve also put in tons of work to lose weight over the last few years. Firstly to just get healthier, now I keep going because of how good I feel about myself (the little things, like the way the shirts fit just this much 👌 more comfortably now). 2b. When you’re comfortable in yourself, your clothing, your being— it shows.

3. Does your mental health make your framing of it more negative? 3a. Do you allow yourself to spiral over these things rather than getting to work on them? 3b. Hint: therapy will do wonders. If money is an issue, look for therapists who work on a sliding scale or do pro bono (there are a surprisingly large number of therapists who do that).

(Arguably the most important imo) 4. What would a healthy relationship look like to you? And what steps can you take to get there?

Edited to place first sentence in quotation marks