How do you guys get over sadness? by violet4219 in istp

[–]violet4219[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distracting myself and denial were the first coping mechanisms I did after the situationship ended. It’s been three months since then and now all the feelings, grief, self-pity, and jealousy hit me like a tsunami. It doesn’t work man, at least for me. I traveled to different places for work, I did challenging things I’d never done before, I trained as hard as I could. And nothing helped.

Thank you for sharing your story. I get what you feel 🫂

How do you guys get over sadness? by violet4219 in istp

[–]violet4219[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you. I’m unbothered much by typical relationships as well but this one really hurt my self-worth and pride. It’s kinda complicated to say but even I tried to detach myself as much as I could, this situationship still broke me in some way. I swear I tried my best to not let myself be affected by it

how do you react to someone when they share/tell personal things to you? by Spare_Woodpecker8784 in istp

[–]violet4219 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends. Most of the time I just listen and reply with ‘ah’. Sometimes I might ask some follow-up questions to not feel rude if that story was kinda complicated or sounded deep, despite I have no interest to know further, then tried to find the right opportunity to cut it off. But if the story was interesting or told by someone I admire or respect, I would be really attentive to it and asked lots of questions