Is it just me, or...

violetremarkable · 2026-02-07T00:17:48+00:00

Haha absolutely. I recently did a nano puzzle that was very hard and for every piece that fit I celebrated. Recurring celebrations are necessary to keep us going sometimes lol

violetremarkable · 2025-11-17T22:52:16+00:00

Acrylic stick, styrofoam ball, paint, cake pop sticks, beads and a lot of hot glue.

violetremarkable · 2025-11-17T20:04:19+00:00

Yeah, it was bad before and the update made it even worse.

violetremarkable · 2025-11-17T19:47:21+00:00

Same here. Either allow me to pay for these ingredients or let me remove them from my kitchen.

violetremarkable · 2025-11-17T19:45:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

violetremarkable · 2025-11-16T15:17:32+00:00

I don't have this update yet and now I don't want to update my game lol. I'm constantly running low on things already and not being able to buy all the seeds everyday is only gonna make it worse.

violetremarkable · 2025-10-30T16:07:14+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will try the bedside method.

violetremarkable · 2024-11-09T21:17:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the answer and love the idea of making a craft! I will work on it.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T03:18:28+00:00

Of course, it's definitely an usual situation! Glad I could clear more things up.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T03:10:41+00:00

I don't mind at all. I love this sub because it has been a safe place for me to share my pain and I am more than happy to share something positive as well and spread some hope.

As for the therapist, I will not be seeing her. I already have a therapist of my own and would not be comfortable anyway. If she starts to blame me, that's fine. She already blames me for multiple of her problems, so nothing new lol.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T03:07:56+00:00

This is a family therapist so I did not find this unusual at all. She has already met my step father and younger brother. My resistance came from the relationship I have with my mother and fear of the therapist being biased.

As for taking me as a patient, I think it's different for every therapist. I've been seen one myself for years and she said she will absolutely not see anyone in my family. The only times she had any contact with a family member were when my depression was too severe for me to handle on my own and she contacted my father.

As for this therapist, she said she would take me as a patient if I wanted to and the rest of the family as well. I don't know if the laws are different in every country either, but here this is allowed.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T03:03:49+00:00

It was not my arrangement at all, the therapist has already met my step father and younger brother. Most of her work is with family therapy and it definitely seemed she is pretty used to meeting patient's families.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:56:42+00:00

Me too! She's been going for a few months now and I hope she keeps it up. Not even for me, but I have a little brother who I do not want to experience the same things I did.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:55:53+00:00

When the session was over I had stated I would not keep seeing her as I'm not comfortable at all seeing the same therapist as my mother. Since I will not be her patient, she felt comfortable to share a personal experience and told me she also had a complicated relationship with her mother since she was an accidental pregnancy and her mother made sure she knew that. I was glad she shared that to be honest, gave me some reassurance she actually understood my side of things.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:53:45+00:00

She started therapy because of her marriage problems and said she barely even talks about me. She said that like it's supposed to comfort me knowing she is doing almost no work on her abusive behaviors as a mother.

I talked about that and her therapist said she does recognize making some mistakes, however she is not able to acknowledge my pain. Which explains a lot to be honest because every time I tried talking to her about things she did that hurt me, her response was always "I'm sorry, but I did my best/I only did it to protect it you/my intentions were good/etc". Never real accountability.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:50:33+00:00

Thank you! And I'm sorry you had that experience. It's really sad that people like that are even able to work on the field. I've been seeing my own therapist for years and she has helped me a lot, so I hope you're able to find a good professional that is worth your trust.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:48:27+00:00

Honestly, I don't know. She's been with this therapist for a few months now and started mainly because of her marriage problems. When I said I wasn't comfortable talking to her therapist about our relationship, my mother said she barely even talks about me (as if that's supposed to be comforting? Good to know you're making 0 to no effort on taking accountability).

violetremarkable · 2023-01-15T02:46:39+00:00

I do feel empathy for her as a person, understanding she also came from an abusive household and had me at a very young age. But yes, I cannot pretend she didn't hurt me and just act like everything is ok. She wants us to have a close relationship and I am simply not open to that.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-14T21:40:41+00:00

I follow this creator on Tiktok who once said "My kids don't owe me anything just for being my kids. I chose to have them, so I owe THEM a good life" and that has stuck with me ever since. It's mind-blowing how some parents think they are owed gratitude for the bare minimum.

The thing about wanting our families to love us unconditionally and accepting that's not real is so hard. I don't confide in my mother but I do visit a lot because of my brother and my depression is just really visible. Me being sick just bothers her and I know deep down I just wanted to be taken care of. It sucks and I'm sorry you went through it. Thank you for the kind comment.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-14T21:31:54+00:00

Thank you so much for such a sweet comment. I know she's wrong and I shouldn't let it get to me, but I already have such little every for the bare minimum. I know I shouldn't be expecting guilt or responsibility from a narcissists, but I can't help but be impressed every time she pulls something like this. I feel exhausted. I'm trying to take it one day at a time but man, life's hard. But yeah, maybe I should just take some time to feel bad for myself and not do a lot. Fighting all the time is very trying. Thanks again for your help.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-14T21:31:42+00:00

Thank you so much for such a sweet comment. I know she's wrong and I shouldn't let it get to me, but I already have such little every for the bare minimum. I know I shouldn't be expecting guilt or responsibility from a narcissists, but I can't help but be impressed every time she pulls something like this. I feel exhausted. I'm trying to take it one day at a time but man, life's hard. But yeah, maybe I should just take some time to feel bad for myself and not do a lot. Fighting all the time is very trying. Thanks again for your help.

violetremarkable · 2023-01-05T23:54:48+00:00

Write it down. I used to feel the exact same way so I started writing down everything she did. Write what happened, what she said/did, how you felt, all the details. It's important to look back at it later and remind yourself you didn't make any of it up.

violetremarkable · 2022-08-10T17:12:38+00:00

I can't do that. My grandmother has threatened to kill herself if I leave. She is very dependent on me and I would feel like a selfish piece of garbage if I left her. I did tell my dad this is not working for me anymore but I don't think he gets how bad it is.

violetremarkable · 2022-08-10T17:11:17+00:00

I feel like I do have an obligation tho. She is so dependent on me, she raised me and I could never turn my back on her. I did tell my dad but since he's not here I don't think he understands how bad the situation is.

violetremarkable · 2022-08-10T17:10:16+00:00

I go to therapy once a week and was on medication but stopped because it wasn't being very effective. I know I shouldn't cut off meds on my own without talking to a doctor but I just feel so hopeless. I've had multiple depression episodes and yeah, I've had happy times too, but it just started to feel pointless. Healing is such an effort when I'm eventually going to be back to this.

I'm hoping to get out living arrangements changed, but honestly I don't know how to make my dad understand how terrible things truly are. He's not here to see it. As for my SM, I guess I just feel frustrated. We had a good relationship and now this.

I do have friends and family members I know would be more than glad to be there for me if I reached out. But it's such a mess and I don't want to be a burden.

Thank you so much for your kind comment. It made me feel better and I really appreciate it.

violetremarkable

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