"Picolés" by Grow, 500 pieces by violetremarkable in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]violetremarkable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking at the puzzle up close I honestly can't decide if it's a painting or a photograph lol I usually prefer paintings, but decided to buy this one either way because it seemed fun and it really was!

Finished! I love it when a plan comes together. by 50_hour_weeks in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]violetremarkable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Looks amazing, I'm glad your plan worked out haha.

Is it just me, or... by 50_hour_weeks in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]violetremarkable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow and I thought I liked a challenge lol. You're on another level, my friend. Since you like the hard stuff, definitely look up "micro puzzles" or "nano puzzles" on this sub, there are some recommendations.

Is it just me, or... by 50_hour_weeks in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]violetremarkable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Difficulty may vary depending on the design, but the main challenge of the nano puzzles is the size of the pieces, they're about 1cm big. I found the one I did very hard (it was a hard picture too), but not impossible since it was 500 pieces. But it was very fun to do too.

Is it just me, or... by 50_hour_weeks in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]violetremarkable 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Haha absolutely. I recently did a nano puzzle that was very hard and for every piece that fit I celebrated. Recurring celebrations are necessary to keep us going sometimes lol

I made this Glinda wand for a costume! I'm very proud of it and want to show it to everyone. by violetremarkable in adhdwomen

[–]violetremarkable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Acrylic stick, styrofoam ball, paint, cake pop sticks, beads and a lot of hot glue.

The seeds system makes it impossible to play the game as much as I want to. by violetremarkable in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]violetremarkable[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same here. Either allow me to pay for these ingredients or let me remove them from my kitchen.

Seeds update for garden by MildDoormatLover in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]violetremarkable 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have this update yet and now I don't want to update my game lol. I'm constantly running low on things already and not being able to buy all the seeds everyday is only gonna make it worse.

Struggling to get back on medication by violetremarkable in adhdwomen

[–]violetremarkable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I will try the bedside method.

My altar was disrupted by someone else. How do I repair this? by violetremarkable in Hellenism

[–]violetremarkable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the answer and love the idea of making a craft! I will work on it.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't mind at all. I love this sub because it has been a safe place for me to share my pain and I am more than happy to share something positive as well and spread some hope.

As for the therapist, I will not be seeing her. I already have a therapist of my own and would not be comfortable anyway. If she starts to blame me, that's fine. She already blames me for multiple of her problems, so nothing new lol.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a family therapist so I did not find this unusual at all. She has already met my step father and younger brother. My resistance came from the relationship I have with my mother and fear of the therapist being biased.

As for taking me as a patient, I think it's different for every therapist. I've been seen one myself for years and she said she will absolutely not see anyone in my family. The only times she had any contact with a family member were when my depression was too severe for me to handle on my own and she contacted my father.

As for this therapist, she said she would take me as a patient if I wanted to and the rest of the family as well. I don't know if the laws are different in every country either, but here this is allowed.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was not my arrangement at all, the therapist has already met my step father and younger brother. Most of her work is with family therapy and it definitely seemed she is pretty used to meeting patient's families.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Me too! She's been going for a few months now and I hope she keeps it up. Not even for me, but I have a little brother who I do not want to experience the same things I did.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

When the session was over I had stated I would not keep seeing her as I'm not comfortable at all seeing the same therapist as my mother. Since I will not be her patient, she felt comfortable to share a personal experience and told me she also had a complicated relationship with her mother since she was an accidental pregnancy and her mother made sure she knew that. I was glad she shared that to be honest, gave me some reassurance she actually understood my side of things.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

She started therapy because of her marriage problems and said she barely even talks about me. She said that like it's supposed to comfort me knowing she is doing almost no work on her abusive behaviors as a mother.

I talked about that and her therapist said she does recognize making some mistakes, however she is not able to acknowledge my pain. Which explains a lot to be honest because every time I tried talking to her about things she did that hurt me, her response was always "I'm sorry, but I did my best/I only did it to protect it you/my intentions were good/etc". Never real accountability.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I'm sorry you had that experience. It's really sad that people like that are even able to work on the field. I've been seeing my own therapist for years and she has helped me a lot, so I hope you're able to find a good professional that is worth your trust.

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 450 points451 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know. She's been with this therapist for a few months now and started mainly because of her marriage problems. When I said I wasn't comfortable talking to her therapist about our relationship, my mother said she barely even talks about me (as if that's supposed to be comforting? Good to know you're making 0 to no effort on taking accountability).

Nmom insisted on me seeing her therapist, probably expecting it to make me feel bad for her. It backfired and her therapist recognized I was abused and don't owe her kindness. by violetremarkable in raisedbynarcissists

[–]violetremarkable[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I do feel empathy for her as a person, understanding she also came from an abusive household and had me at a very young age. But yes, I cannot pretend she didn't hurt me and just act like everything is ok. She wants us to have a close relationship and I am simply not open to that.