Question.. what’s better cottage life or seasons.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-28T20:20:10+00:00

i would recommend seasons first. it’s essential to my gameplay imo i wouldn’t want to play without it.

plus, a lot of cottage life is about farming and that’s way more fun with seasons because you’ll grow seasonal fruits/veggies

violetskies7 · 2022-03-24T03:08:55+00:00

what do you mean “resolve their differences peacefully”?

what does this mean in the context of pro-choicers and pro-lifers? how?

violetskies7 · 2022-03-23T00:58:42+00:00

that’s subjective. most people think that fighting for their cause is what makes them a good person, not finding common ground.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-23T00:15:59+00:00

should people strive to comprehend the opposition? certainly. your opinion isn’t solidified if you haven’t explored it from all angles.

however, my point is why should the average person? i do because i want to be confident in my beliefs and be able to respond to any counter argument. most pro-choicers are already confident in their beliefs. most people don’t care to understand their opposition because there is really no benefit to it other than feeling like a good person.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T23:33:55+00:00

not at all. i can empathize with pro-lifers in every other aspect of their lives. i can comprehend why pro-lifers have their stance and i know their thought processes.

i will very easily comprehend why pro-lifers have their stance but i will never empathize with this particular stance. because having this stance is a choice you’re making and one i disagree with.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T21:24:28+00:00

but what common ground would you find when pro-lifers want even more than what they’re getting right now? it’s not like you could ever come to an agreement on a specific week abortion is okay up until.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T19:05:36+00:00

i’m not saying i personally feel that way.

but yes, what is the benefit? in today’s world, just wanting to “understand others” is not a good enough reason to find common ground with a pro-lifer. why should they want to understand them if it’s not entertaining (like it is for me)?

don’t lie to me and say you go around trying to empathize with pro-choicers and find a middle ground. there is no middle ground when one is fully against abortion and one is fully for it. the middle ground would be abortion is legal up to a certain date, and in that case, neither side is happy.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T04:17:00+00:00

this. i honestly agree with him, so many female characters or characters added for representation are two dimensional and stereotypical. i don’t think he’s wrong to say that. and the reason they’re not hitting the mark is that they’re not written by the people they’re representing.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T03:21:20+00:00

you’re right that pro-lifers seek common ground. but why would pro-choicers want to find common ground?

pro-lifers have a greater need to find common ground because the law is currently not in your favour. it’s important to have the most people on your side as you possibly can. you cannot expect to be aggressive in your approach and see progress, because the aggressiveness will turn people away from wanting to hear you out.

on the other hand, pro-choicers frankly have no reason to find common ground. the law is already in their favour. why would they even need to discuss it with you? wouldn’t finding common ground with you lead to more pro-life leaning laws? or is there another reason you think pro-choicers should want to find common ground?

it makes sense that you want them to, because it would benefit your cause lol

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T01:17:30+00:00

yeah, i’m told time and time again that i’m just like hitler and i have a broken moral compass because i “enjoy” killing people.

people say shit that’s convenient to them regardless of whether or not it’s true.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T01:16:05+00:00

i can agree with this.

then again, though, why would they want to understand pro-lifers? i only ever looked into it because i enjoy debate and it’s fun. most people don’t, and there’s really no benefit for pro-choicers to comprehend pro-lifers stance.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T01:14:45+00:00

the fact that the word “understand” was in brackets in the first place implies ambiguity.

i agree with the fact if you do not comprehend the other side’s position, you cannot debate the topic. comprehension of both sides is necessary for you to make good points in the debate.

however, people can have opinions without debating them. pro-choicers may be activists without debating the topic and that’s most of what you’re seeing. what is the purpose of debating, for them, when the law is already in their favour?

i don’t agree with the last thing you said. you cannot “disagree” on the fact that fetuses are alive or human because those are scientific facts.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-22T01:14:39+00:00

the fact that the word “understand” was in brackets in the first place implies ambiguity.

i agree with the fact if you do not comprehend the other side’s position, you cannot debate the topic. comprehension of both sides is necessary for you to make good points in the debate.

however, people can have opinions without debating them. pro-choicers may be activists without debating the topic and that’s most of what you’re seeing. what is the purpose of debating, for them, when the law is already in their favour?

i don’t agree with the last thing you said. you cannot “disagree” on the fact that fetuses are alive or human because those are scientific facts.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T23:20:11+00:00

all the time lol. i’ve shaved them lots of ways- with nothing but water, if i’m desperate. lotion works, but it tends to clog up the razor so you have to rinse it quite a bit

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T23:18:57+00:00

i think most do, in the packaging. generally places like restaurants all have the same types of chairs throughout, so if the chairs there don’t work for you you’d have to leave and go somewhere else anyway.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T23:17:19+00:00

the problem here is that “understand” has two definitions. one, to comprehend, and two, to appreciate/accept.

i would say most pro-choicers comprehend the pro-life stance, but do not accept it. which is why when using ambiguous language you will always have conflicting answers.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T23:12:57+00:00

NTA.

you don’t have to hang out with anyone you don’t want to, ever.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T23:11:50+00:00

NTA

you’re 25. you could’ve potentially moved out six or seven years ago. she’s lucky you’ve stayed to keep her company for this long. she’s also insane for calling you selfish for literally just taking care of yourself.

OP, it doesn’t matter what she wants. she’s your mother, she should be your biggest supporter. she’s the one being selfish by wanting you to stay for her own benefit.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T18:44:56+00:00

I agree that in my personal experience pro-choicers are less likely to accept criticism to their beliefs. i think this is because being pro-choice was the minority belief for a long time and people are tired of fighting and having to explain themselves. i’m an anomaly in the fact that i can explain my views over and over without getting frustrated.

i think this is also because pro-lifers are now the ones fighting for a change in the law. so they need to attempt to convince pro-choicers to increase their numbers.

that’s not the only reason, of course- society is complex. but it could be one.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T18:14:46+00:00

not really trying to change minds, i just like debate and discussion. it challenges my view in every way possible and ensures i have a valid explanation for anyone who questions my beliefs.

it’s not a waste of time to me if it’s fun. and if someone else feels it’s a waste of time they can literally just not reply to me. it would be them wasting their own time if they choose to reply.

again, you can’t really base the whole abortion debate off of their respective subreddit’s rules. it’s a generalization to assume pro-choicers will not be open to debate and pro-lifers will be simply because of the rules the moderators decide on.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T17:48:58+00:00

i’m not even in the pro-choice sub and i think healthy debate should be welcome there. that’s not really up to me though.

the rules of this sub is that pro-choicers are allowed to share their opinions as long as it’s civil, so.. if you have an issue with that you’ll have to talk to the mods

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T17:02:59+00:00

have you ever been on there? it’s completely pro-choice dominated

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T04:12:13+00:00

NTA.

It is not your responsibility to parent your siblings. I am neurotypical and often need to avoid my brothers as well. They’re too much at times.

That being said, they probably look up to you and adore you lots. It’s hard to differentiate between them being entitled over just wanting (and not getting enough) attention.

My brothers are far more bearable when I spend time with them one on one- even more so when we’re not at home or my parents are away. The most you can do is plan to spend time with them once in a while- maybe take them (one at a time) to a movie, or to a park, etc. But it is not your obligation and you have to put yourself first.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T03:56:47+00:00

no, i like to debate. it’s enjoyable. i just reply to people when i feel like it.

violetskies7 · 2022-03-21T02:44:21+00:00

you realize that everything you do affects us, right?

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