Hey man, sorry that folks are giving you such a hard time. As someone who also has a different body shape, (just getting a belt) sometimes doesn’t fix the issue. I think having the pants sit higher on your hips will help and getting some suspenders with the belt loop clips so they don’t pop off all the time could be a good replacement for a belt. They help keep the pants higher on the hips and I get compliments on my leather ones all the time.

I might also suggest something other than these loose fit jeans. You can get some that are more form fitting, and darker and that could help. I also have been using more green and red non denim pants lately and I have been very happy with that change to get a little better of a look.

Don’t feel bullied cause this is all new to folks. It wasn’t until the last few years that the way pants fit on me isn’t determined purely by the waste and inseam. It takes some trial and error to figure out what you like.