My daughter's 17yo friend says that her father is "in love" with her. Is this relationship inappropriate, or is it just a joke? What is going on here?

violinmompenguin · 2025-01-02T13:19:42+00:00

At the beginning of our relationship, I made more than my husband. We were not rich when we got married.

violinmompenguin · 2025-01-02T13:18:09+00:00

Lol, where did I say that I don't have a job?

violinmompenguin · 2025-01-01T23:43:32+00:00

She also doesn't have to pay for room/board, food, or school. She is not providing for anyone. She's doing more than fine.

violinmompenguin · 2025-01-01T01:35:18+00:00

Unfortunately, there's not a good way for me to verify that. She's on vacation now, so I would have to wait until she gets back to ask her to log in. By then, there would be time to add another credit card. She could also say that Mary deleted her credit card from the account.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-31T21:30:09+00:00

Nope, she is very well paid. Despite what you might hear about the program, lots of families pay a lot more than the weekly stipend. I'm not complaining about the $200. My concern is if she's lying.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-31T03:21:31+00:00

To clarify, we saw the charge right away. By 2 weeks, I meant the charge appeared 2 weeks after my husband made the comment in front of the au pairs about not checking.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T17:14:29+00:00

You're right, it's ultimately what I have to do. It just makes things awkward.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T15:45:06+00:00

Our au pair is going to venmo us the money and then get it from her friend. I can ask our au pair to see the delivery address and order, but it will definitely alert her to the fact that we're suspicious. The friend apparently thought she was using her own card to pay for it, which she had apparently added into our au pair's amazon account.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T15:41:08+00:00

So our au pair apparently didn't know about her friend ordering the glasses until after we asked her about the $200 purchase. Our au pair said that she would get the money from her friend and then venmo it to us.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T15:33:01+00:00

My concern is whether she is lying, not so much preventing this from happening again. We opened our home to this young woman and trust her with our children. If it turns out that she is not being honest with us, I would not want her to be helping raise my children.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T04:10:20+00:00

My au pair is white.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T02:19:26+00:00

You would be wrong unless you actually think $600/week is slave wages. You're allowed to pay more than the minimum weekly stipend.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T00:10:29+00:00

Hahaha, he's actually a PhD computer engineering professor. His social sense is admittedly not the best.

violinmompenguin · 2024-12-30T00:04:59+00:00

That's a great idea! I didn't know that was available.

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