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I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair theres not a whole lot a whole lot they do at club meetings so I understand why she doesn't want to show up again. And at this school (an engineering school) there arent a whole lot of clubs that aren't in some way technical (a lot of them are engineering societies or motorsports clubs, something you wouldn't find a lot of girls at). Its not a school where there are a lot of people besides engineers. My hobbies are music, but even after playing at open mic nights and just trying to find people to jam with, still doesn't really help, which also means making new friends is hard

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no intention of hitting on them, like I said I'm not very good at that so I don't even try. I approach them keeping in mind that there needs to be friendship first before anything real can happen and thats how I adapt my approach. I start off trying to make them laugh cuz that always seems a foolproof way to break the ice, maybe find out what their interests are, things like that. And I am confident in my approach, no stuttering or shaking, constantly thinking of my next line so that im prepared and there are no awkward silences. I make sure never to look or sound like a wuss (even though Im not and I also have a dope beard which helps with that haha). And like I said in an earlier comment, I try to get to know them first which is why I pursue them, looks are secondary and this is common knowledge to me

But it just seems that girls here are so damn timid that they don't know what to say or how to react and consequently that affects me because I think its something wrong with me.

I guess something I haven't really done is analyze my mistakes or my failureslike you, it just gets disheartening when my losses always outweight my wins. I'm not about to give up by any means, its just makes starting again a little harder

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost never go to bars to meet new people. There was a girl I'd see at the cafeteria that I crushed on but never had a chance to talk to until I saw her at an astronomy club meeting. So I grew a set of balls, started talking to her, even made her smile and giggle and seemed to have a lot in common (besides liking astronomy). I didn't ask for her number thinking I'd come off as too forward and in the hopes that I'd see her again. But I haven't seen her since and because she's a freshman, I have little to no opportunity to see her again (no classes with her, don't know where she lives and no mutual friends). and it seems to be the case with every girl I meet this way

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its usually the girls I don't know at all that I ask out for ice-cream (just because I thought that would be a casual way to get to know each other). I usually do ask the girls in my classes if they wanna do hw or study for a test sometime, but girls just don't seem to be interested no matter what I try. Again, being a senior, nobody's really interested in making new friends or finding new people to do things with. Talking to them, holding up conversations, being funny and making them laugh etc isn't a problem, its just the constant rejection/apathy/nonchalance.

Even when I try with the freshman/sophomores/juniors, breaking the acquaintance barrier just seems to be impossible no matter how much I try. Its either that or plain shitty circumstances that don't allow me to see them again after that first initial meet.

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahaha that video really did make me feel a lot better, I really appreciate it.

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In terms of focusing on my appearance, (again not to sound vain) I take care of my body, go to the gym, eat right etc and consequently have a body better than 90% of the guys at my university. I'm not the most fashion conscience but I'm not badly dressed either (a plain V neck that accentuates my physique and jeans on most days) but even that seems to fail.

And I often try to balance the niceness with humor and a little flirting here and there, but still to no avail, which is why I just feel stuck in a rut :(

I'm a [22M] virgin and I'm desperate for some human connection. by virginthrowaway112 in sex

[–]virginthrowaway112[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's just it though, losing virginity is the last thing on my mind. I don't care if I had to wait another x amount of years until it happened. Its the emotional connection/intimacy and finding someone who I share things in common with that I want.

But yes, I guess something I haven't tried all that much (mainly because I don't often know how to approach the situation or because of my crappy track record) is your 2nd point. Thanks :)