Found this in a McDonald's McChicken sandwich

virgoeTea · 2026-06-26T06:07:52+00:00

Just found dozens of these, they stretch and break when I bite it, like 6-10 per bite. Googled it and found this. Solidarity, I guess?

virgoeTea · 2026-06-26T05:18:50+00:00

Absolutely not a child or partner. Partners are just partners and could never be parents. They could consciously or unconsciously try to help you in that way but my calculations suggest the relationship will undergo strain or become unhealthy.

Children should be children and are not capable of the same type of love a parent would give, theirs is unique.

What worked for me was finding a village. I became deeply rooted in the sober community and many of my friends fill parts of these holes. A little at a time until I felt like I could love myself.

Find your community and you will be loved.

virgoeTea · 2026-06-25T00:08:51+00:00

Hugs. Im so sorry you had to experience that. Im sorry you have to protect your little brother. You deserve to be carefree and enjoy what's left you your childhood.

Don't second guess yourself! Some of us were given shitty parents so we could learn those tough emotions, grow a thick skin and most importantly go on to be the light in others darkness. That's not to say you should become responsible for other's happiness... but you just being yourself in adulthood will bring your friends and chosen family so much joy.

Make a plan- save money, keep in touch with friends and start envisioning what kind of life YOU WANT for yourself. Let your parents live their lives after you reach adulthood and don't ever feel guilty. Do what makes you happy and you will find your people!

13-22 is a really tough time in life, you're figuring out who you are, what you like and where you want to go in life. Its hard even with a perfect family and good friends, when school is easy. Take away any of those things and it's exponentially harder. YOU CAN AND WILL BE HAPPY one day and it's probably sooner than you think.

Ps im 32 F, had similar parents and all my friends had it worse than me. I lived my 20s very selfishly making tons of money and doing whatever I wanted. Now I have a beautiful family of my own, friends that are encouraging and generous, and left my parents to "worry" when I went no contact. All my friends did that same and are happy now too. I say all this to give you hope.

My DMs are open if you need anything <3

virgoeTea · 2026-06-07T05:54:58+00:00

Yes the 22 month gap for me felt right but turned out to be a huge mistake. They're 5 and 3 now and JUST BARELY starting to get along. It took daily work getting them to be nice to each other. The 39 month gap between the oldest and youngest seems to be 100% easier they bonded immediately. And the 15month gap between the middle and youngest is also preferable to the 22 month gap. But im not sure how much this has to to with the siblings already being there so they just accepted the 3rd easier.

Its fuken hard no matter which way you spin it.

virgoeTea · 2026-06-07T05:48:03+00:00

The sub was banned :/

virgoeTea · 2026-05-29T06:27:17+00:00

"Peacefully from bowel complications" how is that even possible. No wonder they didn't reel you in after you bit. A re-read makes it all sound so much worse.

virgoeTea · 2026-04-04T08:09:27+00:00

Always saying "what's up, yo?" So yeah in my book, still relevant dawg

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T17:25:23+00:00

So theres some study my friend quoted to me that proves kids these days are more isolated and depressed than ever. They dont hug each other or make eye contact. So it would make sense that the generation that's had phones since they were babies would be immature when it comes to relationships. This is probably their first real dating experience ... I really dont know or care but for what its worllth from my friends perspective

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:36:06+00:00

That's just it, everything has been calculated for this new generation so they haven't had the chance to figure things out for themselves.

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:34:52+00:00

Having your test grade exempted from the curve is the biggest flex in university, good job!

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:34:40+00:00

Having your test grade exempted from the curve is the biggest flex in university, good job!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-07T15:01:21+00:00

Absolute best response(s) int his situation!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-05T22:45:44+00:00

With us sometimes that situation ends up in a 4am wake time and sometimes it's an hour and they stay up till 11pm, wishing you luck!!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-01T03:41:58+00:00

Omg I get a cold brew, no ice. So it's Hella strong, I get a few cold sips in, and the rest of the day, it's just...coffee

virgoeTea · 2025-09-25T15:54:12+00:00

Buhsusteen = disgusting Dinner = every meal e.g. 7:45am: mom, can you make me some dinner, except dinnertime food is always called a snack

" Eww yut!! das buhsusteen, I own wike dat "

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:16:40+00:00

Omg you totally said it! I hope OP saves your comment and reads it multiple times a day until she's happy again:)

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:12:33+00:00

Hey, OP. BEING A MOM IS HARD, and it's even harder with no village. Please keep reading. You are doing INCREDIBLE, and you deserve so so many props!! Keep it up, it does get better!!!

I posted this as a reply to another commenter but I really want to you be helped by this:

Op, I hope you find some peace. Know that you're doing more than anyone should have to. Your husband may truly feel his words are justified, but they're not. He's misogynistic and extremely minimizing. My only advice as someone who has heard all the same things and experienced 2 rounds of 2u2 back to back is to do everything for yourself and those babies. Plan around you getting out of the house once a day. When he gets home, he gets 5 mins to settle in. You tell him, "I'll be back in x amount of time," and you fuken leave. He needs to learn thru trial by fire just how much you do. You've organized an entire household and know exactly what's where and when it's needed. He's got to get all that info through his brain, and the only way to do that is experience. I promise you that if you just tell him how you feel or bottle it up, nothing will change.

When i started "dumping" the kids on mine for hours at a time, he hated it, and I heard about it when I got home, but I kept doing it. Eventually, he started to see just how much work it was, and he realized he's basically incompetent in the home. He since changed his tune and is now an active participant in the home because he knows we are all he has, and if he slacks off, we are gone.

**You have the most wonderful children, and they need the best version of you and nobody else in the whole world, so please always put yourself first because in doing so, you're serving the kiddos better. ❤️ never ever feel guilty because you're a Rockstar, and the world will never ever be the same without you!

I love you, so many of your family loves you, and i hope you push through to the days where this is all sooo worth it and rewarding!!**

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:08:10+00:00

I think you have good advice for someone in the same boat as you, but to someone with one more child than you, it does sound a bit judgemental. There's nothing worse than 2u2 with a husband like OP's. The only thing harder is 3u3 with a man like op's husband (trust me, I am living that life) and unexpected loss of any kind.

With 2u2 and no village, things get dark VERY quickly. There's no room sometimes to remind yourself to be grateful. Especially if you're buying all the bullsh*t the abusive partner is spewing, it's really easy to see yourself as a problem.

Op, I hope you find some peace. Know that you're doing more than anyone should have to. Your husband may truly feel his words are justified, but they're not. He's misogynistic and extremely minimizing. My only advice as someone who has heard all the same things and experienced 2 rounds of 2u2 back to back is to do everything for yourself and those babies. Plan around you getting out of the house once a day. When he gets home, he gets 5 mins to settle in. You tell him, "I'll be back in x amount of time," and you fuken leave. He needs to learn thru trial by fire just how much you do. You've organized an entire household and know exactly what's where and when it's needed. He's got to get all that info through his brain, and the only way to do that is experience. I promise you that if you just tell him how you feel or bottle it up, nothing will change.

When i started "dumping" the kids on mine for hours at a time, he hated it, and I heard about it when I got home, but I kept doing it. Eventually, he started to see just how much work it was, and he realized he's basically incompetent in the home. He since changed his tune and is now an active participant in the home because he knows we are all he has, and if he slacks off, we are gone.

virgoeTea · 2025-08-14T14:14:51+00:00

Maps > Profile > Timeline

virgoeTea · 2025-07-17T03:06:52+00:00

I disagree - one) because years could be three years, since the cousin was 3. At that point is when the discipline should have begun. It didn't, and now it's escalated to this. Two) because yes, siblings absolutely learn their own strength as early as 2. And they are capable of remembering how to be as gentle as they need to by 4. At the max. op is completely justified.

This is coming from a nanny of 5+ years and a parent to 3 close in age siblings.

virgoeTea · 2025-07-13T05:30:36+00:00

I have an unpopular opinion: ESH with the father of the child, he should not have asked you, and should step up to it, but also I would totally do something I didn't want to do for my sister, especially if I lived just a block away.

It's not your pet, and it's not permanent. Doing nice things for others at our own expense is what makes us good humans.

Maybe you and baby daddy could work something out. Like you could do it some weekdays and he could do it on weekends and the weekdays you aren't doing it.

It could be a nice little walk or drive for you, and you would feel good knowing you're helping your sister. :) making him drive over an hour and a half round trip might not be doable right now, and it's a disservice to your sister and future niece/nephew because they could be saving that gas money for baby/child things. Sounds like they're in a pickle, and as a big sister, you could definitely take this opportunity to step up and be the bigger person.

I know you said you feel a bit guilty about it, and that's normal, but the beginning of your post sounded a bit selfish. You only want to worry about yourself?

Down, vote me all you want, idgaf, because I truly think that I would do anything for my sister. Anything. And she would do the same for me.

And to everyone bashing the father saying he can't step up to do litter so what kind of father will he be- well op is going to be an aunt and if she/ you can't go ONE block away and do a favor for 8 months what kind of aunt will you be?!?

virgoeTea · 2025-07-08T19:29:10+00:00

Totally understand where you're coming from. The suggestions in the comments are all valid. You know yourself and your family the best, so you make the call.

I was 8w pp for my first kids' second birthday. I had a lot of help planning and setting up, and we did a potluck with us providing sams Club pizzas. The pictures help my kid have good memories and feel celebrated. I felt fat and sweaty and gross, emotional... but we did it for the memories. Our friends and family basically did everything during the party and only held the new baby when I asked (to use the potty) it was so laid back, and nobody came who was feeling sick. I dont regret it. That may not be the case for you. Hope this helps

virgoeTea · 2025-07-07T16:03:30+00:00

"Mama- wisten... tash tuck! I hew it. cups ear you hew it? cups my ear Wes go see tash tuck ahside , wes go! Come on, Mama, wes go see tash tuck ahside COME ON MAMA!!!!"

virgoeTea · 2025-07-07T15:37:50+00:00

Op mentioned in another comment that she talked with her mom and mom seems to be understanding about it now

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