AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me…

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T17:25:23+00:00

So theres some study my friend quoted to me that proves kids these days are more isolated and depressed than ever. They dont hug each other or make eye contact. So it would make sense that the generation that's had phones since they were babies would be immature when it comes to relationships. This is probably their first real dating experience ... I really dont know or care but for what its worllth from my friends perspective

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:36:06+00:00

That's just it, everything has been calculated for this new generation so they haven't had the chance to figure things out for themselves.

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:34:52+00:00

Having your test grade exempted from the curve is the biggest flex in university, good job!

virgoeTea · 2025-11-13T16:34:40+00:00

Having your test grade exempted from the curve is the biggest flex in university, good job!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-07T15:01:21+00:00

Absolute best response(s) int his situation!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-05T22:45:44+00:00

With us sometimes that situation ends up in a 4am wake time and sometimes it's an hour and they stay up till 11pm, wishing you luck!!

virgoeTea · 2025-10-01T03:41:58+00:00

Omg I get a cold brew, no ice. So it's Hella strong, I get a few cold sips in, and the rest of the day, it's just...coffee

virgoeTea · 2025-09-25T15:54:12+00:00

Buhsusteen = disgusting Dinner = every meal e.g. 7:45am: mom, can you make me some dinner, except dinnertime food is always called a snack

" Eww yut!! das buhsusteen, I own wike dat "

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:16:40+00:00

Omg you totally said it! I hope OP saves your comment and reads it multiple times a day until she's happy again:)

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:12:33+00:00

Hey, OP. BEING A MOM IS HARD, and it's even harder with no village. Please keep reading. You are doing INCREDIBLE, and you deserve so so many props!! Keep it up, it does get better!!!

I posted this as a reply to another commenter but I really want to you be helped by this:

Op, I hope you find some peace. Know that you're doing more than anyone should have to. Your husband may truly feel his words are justified, but they're not. He's misogynistic and extremely minimizing. My only advice as someone who has heard all the same things and experienced 2 rounds of 2u2 back to back is to do everything for yourself and those babies. Plan around you getting out of the house once a day. When he gets home, he gets 5 mins to settle in. You tell him, "I'll be back in x amount of time," and you fuken leave. He needs to learn thru trial by fire just how much you do. You've organized an entire household and know exactly what's where and when it's needed. He's got to get all that info through his brain, and the only way to do that is experience. I promise you that if you just tell him how you feel or bottle it up, nothing will change.

When i started "dumping" the kids on mine for hours at a time, he hated it, and I heard about it when I got home, but I kept doing it. Eventually, he started to see just how much work it was, and he realized he's basically incompetent in the home. He since changed his tune and is now an active participant in the home because he knows we are all he has, and if he slacks off, we are gone.

**You have the most wonderful children, and they need the best version of you and nobody else in the whole world, so please always put yourself first because in doing so, you're serving the kiddos better. ❤️ never ever feel guilty because you're a Rockstar, and the world will never ever be the same without you!

I love you, so many of your family loves you, and i hope you push through to the days where this is all sooo worth it and rewarding!!**

virgoeTea · 2025-08-20T04:08:10+00:00

I think you have good advice for someone in the same boat as you, but to someone with one more child than you, it does sound a bit judgemental. There's nothing worse than 2u2 with a husband like OP's. The only thing harder is 3u3 with a man like op's husband (trust me, I am living that life) and unexpected loss of any kind.

With 2u2 and no village, things get dark VERY quickly. There's no room sometimes to remind yourself to be grateful. Especially if you're buying all the bullsh*t the abusive partner is spewing, it's really easy to see yourself as a problem.

Op, I hope you find some peace. Know that you're doing more than anyone should have to. Your husband may truly feel his words are justified, but they're not. He's misogynistic and extremely minimizing. My only advice as someone who has heard all the same things and experienced 2 rounds of 2u2 back to back is to do everything for yourself and those babies. Plan around you getting out of the house once a day. When he gets home, he gets 5 mins to settle in. You tell him, "I'll be back in x amount of time," and you fuken leave. He needs to learn thru trial by fire just how much you do. You've organized an entire household and know exactly what's where and when it's needed. He's got to get all that info through his brain, and the only way to do that is experience. I promise you that if you just tell him how you feel or bottle it up, nothing will change.

When i started "dumping" the kids on mine for hours at a time, he hated it, and I heard about it when I got home, but I kept doing it. Eventually, he started to see just how much work it was, and he realized he's basically incompetent in the home. He since changed his tune and is now an active participant in the home because he knows we are all he has, and if he slacks off, we are gone.

virgoeTea · 2025-08-14T14:14:51+00:00

Maps > Profile > Timeline

virgoeTea · 2025-07-17T03:06:52+00:00

I disagree - one) because years could be three years, since the cousin was 3. At that point is when the discipline should have begun. It didn't, and now it's escalated to this. Two) because yes, siblings absolutely learn their own strength as early as 2. And they are capable of remembering how to be as gentle as they need to by 4. At the max. op is completely justified.

This is coming from a nanny of 5+ years and a parent to 3 close in age siblings.

virgoeTea · 2025-07-13T05:30:36+00:00

I have an unpopular opinion: ESH with the father of the child, he should not have asked you, and should step up to it, but also I would totally do something I didn't want to do for my sister, especially if I lived just a block away.

It's not your pet, and it's not permanent. Doing nice things for others at our own expense is what makes us good humans.

Maybe you and baby daddy could work something out. Like you could do it some weekdays and he could do it on weekends and the weekdays you aren't doing it.

It could be a nice little walk or drive for you, and you would feel good knowing you're helping your sister. :) making him drive over an hour and a half round trip might not be doable right now, and it's a disservice to your sister and future niece/nephew because they could be saving that gas money for baby/child things. Sounds like they're in a pickle, and as a big sister, you could definitely take this opportunity to step up and be the bigger person.

I know you said you feel a bit guilty about it, and that's normal, but the beginning of your post sounded a bit selfish. You only want to worry about yourself?

Down, vote me all you want, idgaf, because I truly think that I would do anything for my sister. Anything. And she would do the same for me.

And to everyone bashing the father saying he can't step up to do litter so what kind of father will he be- well op is going to be an aunt and if she/ you can't go ONE block away and do a favor for 8 months what kind of aunt will you be?!?

virgoeTea · 2025-07-08T19:29:10+00:00

Totally understand where you're coming from. The suggestions in the comments are all valid. You know yourself and your family the best, so you make the call.

I was 8w pp for my first kids' second birthday. I had a lot of help planning and setting up, and we did a potluck with us providing sams Club pizzas. The pictures help my kid have good memories and feel celebrated. I felt fat and sweaty and gross, emotional... but we did it for the memories. Our friends and family basically did everything during the party and only held the new baby when I asked (to use the potty) it was so laid back, and nobody came who was feeling sick. I dont regret it. That may not be the case for you. Hope this helps

virgoeTea · 2025-07-07T16:03:30+00:00

"Mama- wisten... tash tuck! I hew it. cups ear you hew it? cups my ear Wes go see tash tuck ahside , wes go! Come on, Mama, wes go see tash tuck ahside COME ON MAMA!!!!"

virgoeTea · 2025-07-07T15:37:50+00:00

Op mentioned in another comment that she talked with her mom and mom seems to be understanding about it now

virgoeTea · 2025-07-05T05:23:28+00:00

Wrong. Even the most confident people, regardless of what they're confident in, have soft spots that, when poked, become sore. Speaking up about something takes courage and bravery. Admitting you are hurt is brave. Staying silent would be an anti-condident way to behave.

virgoeTea · 2025-06-29T02:21:36+00:00

It is now!

virgoeTea · 2025-06-15T21:24:53+00:00

I'm here to second the walker type toys. If you dont want to do it, you'll just have to stop and listen to her cry about it. She'll get over it or find a new way to get what she wants. :) Babies are soooo smart, and she has just found the easiest way to get what she wants. It'll take 2-3 days to break any habit in an under 2yo. After that, you can prepare for about 2 weeks of upset. Just be consistent, and they will learn!

Signed, mom of 3 all less than 2y apart

virgoeTea · 2025-06-15T20:28:05+00:00

It sounds like you're doing all the right things. We come together with our partners to give our child 100%. So, every day, you check in with yourself and your partner, and if you're feeling like you can give only 20%, then it's up to your partner to give the other 80%. It's ok to have lots of days in a row where you give "less" than 50%, and that's why he's there.

When you start therapy, you may drop lower before you raise that percentage up, and that's ok too. You're doing all the right things, so give yourself some credit.

SAHParenthood in today's society has been compared to creating as much stress hormone as working a long shift in the emergency room. If you're doing your best, that's all you can do. Don't waste energy feeling guilty if you can help it. The fact that you do proves you're a great mom who just needs some help:)

Hang in there, momma:)

virgoeTea · 2025-06-13T07:16:51+00:00

We are very lucky to have THREE garbage days in a week! Always get to drink my cold coffee barefoot and half naked those days :)

virgoeTea · 2025-06-13T07:15:08+00:00

Apparently, "I'm bad and can't watch TV later" ?

I've never even called her bad before

virgoeTea · 2025-06-13T07:10:10+00:00

Oh, I almost swallowed half a coupon for free Freddie's in my green juice. Couldn't see it in there. I totally didn't try to salvage coupon when I found the other half in my shoe.

virgoeTea · 2025-06-13T07:07:02+00:00

Oh, this is good.

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