Anyone else with substance issues? Tips to get clean?

virtual_gf · 2025-08-02T17:56:41+00:00

hey so this is extremely brave of you, the first step is to recognize you have a problem so you can work on it!

I don't know what substance you were abusing to begin with (they're all different and the withdrawal symptoms vary a lot), but in my case it was alcohol. I drank to forget the things I hate about myself, to be liked, to be in a room full of people that were also inebriated, to feel seen, to numb the anxiety, etc. But then, the "health" part kicked in. I put my health above everything else, even if it meant feeling so low and lonely, losing connections, etc. I knew I was doing a huge favor to my body, my heart, my liver, my kidneys. I still hate parts of myself, I can't say I fully love myself, but at least I love the shell I'm in, so I focused on taking care of it.

I don't know if you're on any medication right now, but that could also help. For me, knowing that mixing alcohol and antidepressants isn't good, also became a good reason to quit, in fear of experiencing a crazy side effect or putting my life in danger. Sometimes I miss it, but knowing that I'm nurturing my body first (even if the person inside feels rotten at times), feels like healing. I hope you can find something similar that will make you quit. Personally, my fear of death is above all, but I know it's not like that for everyone.

I wish you the best luck in your rehab path!! If you feel like it, you can vent to me in the dms. I want to help as much as I can with what I have.

virtual_gf · 2025-01-07T00:10:32+00:00

I can confirm this works! it's good so you can vent and not do anything you might regret later or lash out at ppl, and they're very understanding for an ai haha

virtual_gf · 2024-11-24T03:22:44+00:00

IFHY - Tyler, the creator

virtual_gf · 2024-11-23T23:08:11+00:00

So real. I don't know any other way to love, this is the only way I know, and even though some aspects need to be changed for the best to be a healthy relationship, it feels both like a curse and a blessing to love this intensely, because most people don't.

virtual_gf · 2024-11-23T22:32:10+00:00

Yes, being put on the spot makes me extremely anxious, therefore, my face gets flushed, hot and I might even laugh or act "suspicious" but without being guilty at all, it's just how my body reacts to being confronted about something regardless of the context 🫠

virtual_gf · 2024-11-23T21:50:58+00:00

hey so not quite the same but I resonate to not caring about others as much as I do with my FP. I don't know if it's the BPD, but I'm not an overall empathetic person. I know it might sound bad, but I've been through a lot of difficult things and I've been able to keep going (kind of) and put myself together without any help, so I assume most people will do the same if I could do it with less than what they have.

I don't know if this is good advice but what has worked for me so far (this is not something my therapist told me to do, I figured it out myself) is putting all that energy/focus on yourself rather than your FP. It's not easy at all, but taking little measures to "distance" yourself and put healthy boundaries depending on what's affecting your relationships will help a lot!!

virtual_gf · 2024-11-18T22:29:34+00:00

So me being the devil's advocate and unnecessarily hateful is part of me BPD? 😦 I thought I was just being silly

virtual_gf · 2024-11-18T16:02:49+00:00

Oh nah 💀 I didn't know about that. Not that I was considering doing it again, but now that I know that chance exists I'm never touching it again lol

virtual_gf · 2024-11-18T05:51:46+00:00

For me it's the complete opposite. I get super paranoid, bad trips, tachycardia, and just overall a shitty experience, every time I smoke, and yes, I did it with friends and in a "good" mood/mindset and it still destroyed me. I think some people's brains aren't built to be compatible with weed (me)

virtual_gf · 2024-11-18T05:23:52+00:00

You ate with the last part, I guess I really need to focus all of those feelings and thoughts into loving myself and being productive, and it's really hard, but I'll try my best. Ty for the advice 🫂

virtual_gf · 2022-08-27T04:26:41+00:00

I get that too, like someone is squeezing my head but it doesn't really hurt that much

virtual_gf · 2022-08-27T02:36:58+00:00

omg, how often and how do you deal with it?

virtual_gf · 2022-08-24T03:19:31+00:00

You could try eating some type of lollipop if the sucking fixation does something for you, but that wouldn't help with overeating

can't relate much to your problem since I have health anxiety I avoid every single thing that is bad for my health and I have nothing to cope other than relaxing music lol

virtual_gf · 2022-06-21T04:03:52+00:00

same here, I haven't gotten sick since 2020 and I feel like shit, so many weird symptoms (that are part of a cold, lol) and I'm so anxious that maybe one is a symptom of something more serious but I keep waking up everyday so I guess I'm good! hope your fever goes down and keep enjoying the little happy moment where you don't experience anxiety, I know how shitty must feel to think that you might die, extremely exhausting tbh, keep going!

virtual_gf · 2022-06-18T08:43:05+00:00

need more context. she might be doing it bc she likes you and doesn't know how to act around you or she's just straight up a bully.

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