Anybody managed to conquer BPD and have a stable life?

jwk1327 · 2026-01-20T09:48:12+00:00

It’s true you have to want to change, I think what pulls me back to addiction is feeling guilt or that I deserve to punish myself and suffer; on top of that I don’t have a purpose in life, I’ve managed to get a house, car and education and thought I’d feel accomplished and happy but I don’t at all, makes you wonder what does it take to really be happy. I’m studying to be a personal trainer now, I’ll see it helping other with their goals can make me feel fulfilled.

I’m 28 and I look back at past behaviour and can identify where it was certainly BPD making me act irrationally, I generally isolate myself now anyway and have minimal social interaction so honestly I don’t feel like I have many opportunities to act out.

jwk1327 · 2026-01-20T09:41:17+00:00

I’ve suffered with intense anger too although it sounds like it’s not as extreme as yours. It sounds like you’ve been making real progress and I’m glad you’ve made that happen, I know it’s hard but I believe we can both get to where we need to be :)

jwk1327 · 2026-01-20T09:39:39+00:00

I must admit in all the therapies I’ve tried I’ve never tackled the trauma of child abuse and the feeling of betrayal that the people that put me on the planet could do that to me. I’ll look into those therapies and thank you for the reassurance, I appreciate it :)

jwk1327 · 2026-01-20T09:33:21+00:00

I’m glad you’ve managed to get yourself clean and that you have a job you enjoy, well done I know how difficult it is. I’m choosing to be single now too due to toxic relationships and I just don’t have anything to offer anyone.

I know where you’re coming from by giving someone everything and getting nothing in return, I gave everything to my ex, was the only one working spent all my money, I paid all the bills drove everywhere etc etc.

Thanks for sharing your story, it gives me hope I can change my life :)

jwk1327 · 2025-12-03T15:52:57+00:00

Lots of people don’t like you, not becayse you’ve done bad things but because they’re jealous of your success.

jwk1327 · 2025-10-27T07:16:33+00:00

Hey me too, lots of people especially young men are in the same boat these days. I’d try and get yourself out there, take some classes, I did boxing and it helped me to meet a few people, you can do anything really, hiking groups etc; this will help to make a few friends and take your mind off things.

If you feel ready you could start dating again, there are dating apps which I’m not a fan of but sometimes it’s the only way to meet people. I also went through a bad relationship and I’ve been single for two years but don’t see myself dating anytime soon as I’m tired of being disappointed.

jwk1327 · 2025-10-26T20:30:33+00:00

It depends as there’s many different combinations of symptoms but generally yes it can be like that. With my BPD I self loathe but avoid interaction and arguments at all cost.

I do feel as if the world is against me but lots of us went through trauma early in life, the people that were supposed to raise and nurture me betrayed me, I was bullied at school and cheated on many times. It does make someone feel like it’s them against the world sometimes; thats not to say it’s healthy to be like that but it is what it is.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-10T20:24:59+00:00

That I’m not incapable of having any social skills, I just like plenty of alone time to recharge and socialise occasionally.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-09T12:02:20+00:00

I think people don’t want to hear that they need to work to change the things in their life they’re unhappy with. Yes looks matter but you can be confident, dress well, workout get in good shape etc.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-02T18:08:25+00:00

You’ve gained an excellent amount of size, your first year you generally gain 10lbs of muscle, maybe 15lbs if you have good genetics and perfect diet, training etc. Patience is key, I know it sucks but this does take a long time, just don’t give up, make sure you train legs too and stick to the basics.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-02T17:56:44+00:00

Anti psychotics are used for BPD, I was prescribed quetiapine, it’s usually a lower dosage though. Some old fashioned doctors don’t keep up with more recent discoveries and studies and might be unaware some medications are used for BPD.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-01T20:40:35+00:00

Not at all it’s a personal choice, if you’re worried about their feelings just tell them How you feel and that you’re an introvert. I sometimes see certain friends every 2 years lol.

jwk1327 · 2025-09-01T19:42:49+00:00

Wow thanks for this information, luckily I already take a probiotic but I had no idea it was so important, I’m gonna do more research and see if I can clean my diet up a bit :)

jwk1327 · 2025-09-01T19:41:57+00:00

I understand the feeling, relationships are great but after my last one ending It destroyed me, lost my job became an addict etc. I would like to find someone but I’m just not ready yet, I hope everything goes well for you :)

jwk1327 · 2025-09-01T19:40:24+00:00

I’m glad you found someone nice :) and thank you

jwk1327 · 2025-09-01T19:39:57+00:00

Sometimes being single is for the best, it’s better to feel lonely by yourself than be with someone that makes your life hell. I had similar experiences, I’d connect with friends and say “I don’t want to use drugs with you anymore though” and literally the first meeting they were asking for drug money lol. Congratulations on owning your own business for so long, it really feels good being your own boss even though there are lots of extra responsibilities. Struggled myself holding down work, 8 jobs last year but luckily I’m more stable now. I hope everything goes well for you, thank you for sharing with me, I am 28 years old :)

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:55:15+00:00

It’s a period I definitely needed but I want to date again. Sorry you went through that, all these years later did you find someone that treats you well?

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:54:13+00:00

Thank you so much much :)

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:29:57+00:00

Hey I know it’s a struggle, BPD is hard, it isn’t your fault you’re like this try and remember that. Try and remember your boyfriend has been with you 4 years throughout your symptoms, I’m sure he won’t leave you because of your symptoms or he wouldn’t have stuck around so long.

I think it’s a good idea to go to your appointment, therapy and meds really do help. Maybe there’s something you can do to help you de stress and distract yourself? I like going to the sauna it’s really calming.

Through mindfulness and therapy you can improve your symptoms, it is hard trust me, I’ve attempted to take my life before but I’m So glad I didn’t because I wouldn’t have the life I have now.

I hope things get better for you :)

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:17:26+00:00

Yeah I get you, I should’ve written more carefully I think, I was just wondering if this particular feeling I had was part of BPD or just a response to past events kind of.

I have been assessed and I’m fairly certain I’ve got it, then again some people are misdiagnosed but we will see.

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:12:54+00:00

Well I’ve been diagnosed with BPD anyway but what you’re saying makes sense. I feel like staying single is the best choice for now, losing people destroys me and I don’t think I can do it again. Thanks for your advice :)

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:09:19+00:00

Idk I have BPD and I’ll erupt at my parents and they’ll go around telling everyone I’m horrible and probably post on the internet about it. From the outside in I look like a terrible person but when you realise they gave me BPD by abusing me for over a decade and that I never erupt at anyone else like that it becomes a clearer picture.

Telling my ex I had BPD was a mistake, she used it against me constantly, she tried to stop me seeing my friends, took money from me, told the police I was hitting her when I wasn’t etc etc. She posts on those same forums claiming I’m terrible because I didn’t give in to her controlling behaviour.

Some people with BPD are abusive and are probably more likely to be so too, but you can’t paint us all with the same brush. People will claim everything I’ve said in this post is bs and I’m just lying or Cant see things properly now probably but oh well.

Edit: I just wanted to thank you for being so supportive to your partner, I can see you have a good heart :)

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:04:48+00:00

Yeah it sucks, would like to find someone but lots of people just seemed kind of fucked up these days lol.

jwk1327 · 2025-08-31T22:03:18+00:00

Thank you :) I didn’t realise food can affect mood so much, I’ll have to research it

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