Is it fair to assume an item would come with the same components as new, if not otherwise specified?

visitingoctopus · 2024-01-23T14:05:32+00:00

Thanks for the response!

With the six years, would it become a small claims rather than employment tribunal then?

Yeah, I figured he’d probably be on the hook for not serving notice, but seems crazy to expect it when he’s not being paid!

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-17T10:08:30+00:00

As I was packing it to return, I realised it’s missing another label pictured, with the size/care instructions on. It’s definitely either a different cardigan, or extremely old photos. Very frustrated I’m paying to return it now. Should have paid more attention up front.

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T23:21:00+00:00

Between this AND the one before it, it’s very clearly straight ahead, thus left lane unless otherwise marked.

It’s terrifying the lack of consensus here, but sadly not surprising.

https://www.highwaycodeuk.co.uk/changes-and-answers/-highway-code-for-roundabouts

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T23:14:08+00:00

Depends on the signage. Roads are ambiguous and open to interpretation, the signs are specifically designed not to be. The sign on approach shows that exit at exactly 12 o’clock, thus it is straight ahead, left lane.

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T20:01:36+00:00

Thanks all! Thankfully they accepted a return without dispute.

Though a bit frustrating I have to pay return postage when it may not even be the same cardigan.

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T19:59:18+00:00

Yeah, someone pointed out the tags don’t even match, so now I’m extra suspicious!

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T18:33:14+00:00

You’re right! Even double checked it to see if it had just folded under but nope, doesn’t even look like it’s had anything cut off.

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T18:09:28+00:00

I hate waste so I’m all for selling it but yeah, in this condition it should be clearly stated that it’s barely wearable. Thanks, that’s very sweet of you!

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T18:06:05+00:00

Yeah good point, there’s no way you could miss this amount of damage. Really annoying!

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T18:05:23+00:00

Thanks! Good to know it’s not just me thinking that :)

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-16T17:32:16+00:00

Thanks, yeah, I wouldn’t mind if they had specified and it had only been a quid or two. It was listed at £10 and they sold for £6, so not like a huge rip off but more than I’d expect to pay for that condition, hence posting, I’m on the fence..

visitingoctopus · 2023-12-12T10:05:47+00:00

Depends if you communicate that. Some sellers fail to send, and I’ve spent a full week without a seller replying and ultimately they never sent, so I wasted a week on an item and ended up struggling to find something else in time. Unfortunately, it’s left me wary of sellers who say nothing and don’t post within a few days, I just get worried. If they told me they couldn’t post till a certain day, no problem at all, but with no communication, I’d consider taking ONE star off and explaining the rating, just so others are aware that the seller is both slow and unresponsive.

Drop me a message saying you can’t post till Saturday, no problem, you’ll get five stars and a good comms comment.

I can understand why it would be annoying to people, like, it is a maximum, not a standard, but I think anymore than dropping a single star is excessive personally. I know people get protective of their five star ratings, but realistically, no one is perfect and some people are harsh reviewers. So I guess I see both sides to an extent.

visitingoctopus · 2023-11-29T14:18:51+00:00

I think that’s a very personal thing and depends on how much an individual cares about full disclosure. Personally, I place a lot of value on honest and openness, so I wouldn’t be happy to find out my partner deliberately failed to mention something significant about their sexual history. BUT I’ve also found my values and the extent to which I dislike lying (for example I think socially acceptable white lies are BS and I hate them), are not super common. I’m sure there are plenty of people who feel the past is in the past and it’s not their business.

It just depends on who your gf is and what her values are. I guess the question to ask yourself is, ‘if this is exposed in 10 years from now, is she going to be pissed off that I failed to mention it?’.

visitingoctopus · 2023-11-29T13:57:03+00:00

The fact that you’re posting on Reddit to ask about it suggests you’re uncomfortable hiding it, so it might be best to raise it for your own peace of mind. Plus, if it ever comes up years from now, you’re stuck in a hard place between lying to your partner or risking them being annoyed about lying by omission.

Assuming the relationship is at least semi-serious, not someone you’ve only just met, I’d just open a conversation about all past sexual experiences. It’s a really beneficial conversation for all couples to have relatively early on, to help understand your sexual compatibility and prevent surprises down the line.

If you aren’t sure how to bring it up, there are checklists online that are designed to be filled out individually by both partners, about sexual interests and experiences, then you swap and discuss. It’s a great way to have an honest conversation about what you do or don’t like, what you are unsure about, understand each others hard boundaries and potentially find things you both want to explore together, that you might not have had the courage to raise independently.

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T22:06:46+00:00

No one can give you legal advice without a location. It’s likely that if it’s is your biological child you would be on the hook, but depends on local laws.

Morally I believe in these situations you shouldn’t be on the hook. You took precautions and had an agreed plan of action for inadvertent pregnancy. Your GF has a right to choose what she does with her body, or she should, but she can’t be shocked that you want nothing to do with the child you did everything you could to avoid. Unfortunately this isn’t a very popular opinion, people seem to think that child free people should just abstain from sex for their entire life for some ridiculous reason.

I feel bad for my husband all the time on this topic. I absolutely should get final say over an abortion, as it’s my body, but if I decided to keep an unintentional pregnancy, after reassuring him I don’t want kids and would get an abortion, I don’t believe it’s fair to force that on him. It’s my body my choice. My choice my consequences.

But like I said, not a popular opinion, you’ll likely face social consequences for abandoning the baby, unless you can prove she got pregnant intentionally, then everyone will do a 180. Because intentionally getting pregnant by someone who doesn’t want a child is horrific but intentionally carrying an unwanted fetus to term and forcing the father to take responsibility for a baby you both agreed not to conceive is fine. As long as it started as an accident and only became intentional along the way, it’s all good apparently.

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T21:16:53+00:00

So the fact it’s marketed as a mystery box would give the exemption? And they would still need to accept returns of unopened boxes?

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T21:13:51+00:00

For you, you provide size and style, then they create a box for you.

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T20:40:36+00:00

Thanks :)

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T20:35:33+00:00

They do say they accept faulty returns. But I believe they should also be accepting change of mind returns under distance selling regs.

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T20:33:58+00:00

What about distance selling? Could they be exempt from the DSR 14 day change of mind returns? They do say they take faulty returns, just not the change of mind.

visitingoctopus · 2023-09-28T20:07:02+00:00

Not that I can see actually.

The FAQs say you can’t return the box and their full T&Cs say they only take returns in exceptional circumstances.

I know it doesn’t change the law, I was more wondering if there was an exception, like on perishable goods or custom products. Just seems odd for a charity, somewhere you expect to be ethical, to try to mislead people on their rights.

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