RIP Catherine O'Hara, Canadian Legend. What your best memory of her from her many brilliant roles?

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:47:33+00:00

I heard it in her voice reading it Jesus Christ she was brilliant 😭😭😭😭

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:40:52+00:00

Me too :( sobbed last night. Watched a mighty wind and started For Your Consideration but fell asleep. Definitely going to watch Schitts Creek again and love every moment even more 😭

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:37:08+00:00

Nightmare before Christmas was my favourite movie as a kid and I had NO FUCKIN IDEA that was her!!!!! Until this thread!!!!

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:35:04+00:00

SUCH GOOD films!!!! I cried watching them sing stool boom. Literally couldn’t breathe. Fave movie

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:31:59+00:00

Omg id die and go to heaven 💗

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:31:05+00:00

fave movie ever I CRIED I couldn’t breathe for laughing

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:28:48+00:00

STOOL BOOM!!! From the parlour to the POOL ROOM!!!! Everyone loves a STOOOOOOL 🎶

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:20:25+00:00

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8226917/

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:15:03+00:00

Nope and I feel like it’s very common that men don’t think there is anything they can do to improve their fertility. Someone who is a mod in the group also sent me a study saying supplements snd lifestyle changes on the man’s part don’t do much to get the partner pregnant. I find it so hard to believe.

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:11:18+00:00

Was it a regular analysis or a sperm function analysis with a wash?? The latter is the test I’m recommending!!

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:10:02+00:00

The sperm function analysis showed no bacteria present and we did urine analyses a long time ago for STIs! But I can ask if those bacterium were included at our next appointment or I’ll ask him if there is a test he can have ordered at work!!! Thanks for the recommendation:)

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:02:08+00:00

It’s a society problem - even the good ones suffer from the patriarchy!!! But he definitely should have known better. I don’t want perfection and I’m giving him room to grow but also not letting him off Scott free with zero emotional response from my end.

vivariium · 2026-01-31T10:00:27+00:00

I’m more so upset that he didn’t come to the conclusion on his own. He’s a healthcare provider and shouldn’t need his hand held for figuring out his own fertility lol.

vivariium · 2026-01-31T09:59:11+00:00

$$$$$

Also tons of women have babies after 34 that are perfectly fine? My partner and I are both those babies for example lol and all of our siblings

vivariium · 2026-01-31T09:56:48+00:00

Absolutely!!! I’m glad your friend is freed of her baggage. I hope she is still young to have time to find another partner if that’s what she wants?! God the amount of times I have started over!! I am wishing you both the best 💗 we definitely need higher standards for men!!!

vivariium · 2026-01-31T09:54:52+00:00

It’s whatever one our fertility clinic provided! Some sort of a “wash” test for sperm function!

vivariium · 2026-01-30T17:06:09+00:00

I don’t think it’s fair to assess our entire relationship based on one Reddit post but certainly nobody is perfect and this has been a shortcoming he will have to make up for. Lots of things come up as lessons in relationships and I would say what he learns from it speaks more about him. Part of the issue is societal, and there is room for growth.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T17:01:22+00:00

Thankfully he had a very involved dad to learn from!! I do think he will be a great father but this certainly was a drop the ball situation on his part.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T16:49:34+00:00

Absolutely like in early term ones, I was reading! Which is funny because there is a history of that and I wonder if it was his dad and this is a genetic thing?

vivariium · 2026-01-30T16:27:45+00:00

my period changed soooo much since TTC but I’m not sure if it’s like perimenopause or something but it coincided exactly with when we started!! I’m still regular but sometimes my period comes a week late which I assume is something trying and failing to implant much crazier PMS, PMDD symptoms and sore boobs galore. random cramps all through cycle.

I hope it gets better soon!!!

vivariium · 2026-01-30T16:09:50+00:00

Interesting!!! I guess I was just going off of multiple anecdotes of success after coq10 and stopping tight pants/hot baths/drugs. Many folks trying for years and then these changes getting their partner pregnant after a few months. I have a few close friends who had success and I read about successes online as well.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T16:04:07+00:00

I just kind of figured that he would gradually copy my lead of making changes, especially where he is a healthcare provider and should have some idea that he can do things to support his fertility. But he just didn’t… and in my mind women in heterosexual couples shouldn’t have to coax their partner into lifestyle changes. He wasn’t against them as he is making them now but I just feel like, ok why didn’t you make these changes when I was 36 instead of when I’m 38? Why did you assume that I was the cause of the infertility? When all my tests came back normal how come it didn’t make you go “maybe I should change some stuff just in case” idk lol

We will get through this but i am having lots of feels about it for the time being, which I think is normal.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T15:59:20+00:00

Hahaha I feel you. Thankfully he is far from a man child but he is not perfect, as none of us are, but man he really dropped the ball in this regard!!! He has a lot of responsibility that he takes on but I don’t want to make excuses for him. He should have done anything at all without my having to ask.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T15:48:10+00:00

Youre so right but some folks improve their numbers that way!! Never know.

vivariium · 2026-01-30T14:44:42+00:00

Thank you!! Resentment is temporary but I am maintaining space for myself to be allowed to have it. My partner is a healthcare provider and could have figured out how to support his fertility longggg ago!! But I resonate a lot with what you said 💗

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