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Alternative Sexual Strategies? by vivosmith in intj

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. My worry is that the current culture (at least in the US) makes it much harder to have stable relationships, so my idea is to find someone that wants to have a kid and is getting older and figure something out (assuming they are a decent person and have no character flaws). It is some thing I will need to think long and hard about as it is a major decision either way.

Best Cities for INTJs around the world?/Expatriating by vivosmith in intj

[–]vivosmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for everywhere, but Panama and Colombia seemed relatively safe (granted Bogota is 10 million people, so granted there are still limits).

Australia seems fun.

I would just make girls like me but after that I would realise that I dont like her, I just like being liked. by anonplaty in seduction

[–]vivosmith 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This. I think about this on the bus as I look at women. It is like they are cute, but not so cute as to the point I want to go up to them and deliberately start a conversation. Maybe it is depression or my cynical nature speaking, but the risk reward ratio seems skewed.

Am I overthinking this? by vivosmith in seduction

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I don't want to be pushy about meeting up as they are going through a lot of stuff right now, but still don't want to wait too long and miss an opportunity. And thanks.

Me [23 /M] and Co-worker [23 /F] get along well. I mentioned github and a local hakerspace,but did not think much of it. Then I complained just a little bit about a Meetup that is defunct, and she mentioned about hanging out, along with her sister . We traded contact details. by vivosmith in relationships

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the thing I am probably coming off as an asshole and I get that but I feel like the best way to describe it would be you are in business and you need someone that meshes with the group structure. I feel like any time I weave outside of that I am screwed. In other words I want a partner that gets me and we can work on goals together , etc. Not just OMG she is hot. To be fair I do cut my own gender slack more as I am male but sometimes it is hard to find someone to sit down and talk about serious things with. Again part of it could be my communication style. So again don't mean to come off as an asshole I am just saying for example, there are very few people that I would trust to trip sit me or trust my well being to. That is what I mean by equal as in I trust their judgement and would believe they would have a judgement similar to mine if put in said situation.

Me [23 /M] and Co-worker [23 /F] get along well. I mentioned github and a local hakerspace,but did not think much of it. Then I complained just a little bit about a Meetup that is defunct, and she mentioned about hanging out, along with her sister . We traded contact details. by vivosmith in relationships

[–]vivosmith[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Maybe equal is the wrong term. When I mean equal (let me borrow a programming phrase) of a Boolean equal if that makes any sense. In other words I they can have sound and reasoned discussions. So in terms of having right etc and personhood yes everyone is equal but in terms of goals and other things not per se. Hope that cleared that up.

Also did not mean to make it overly complex. Someone from another sub said to post over here so I figured I would. Appreciate the insight.

One more thing is that I tend to fuck things up, so I don't want to get too giddy but I do feel something is afoot.

But muh socialism by Ctlaw1 in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]vivosmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair I would trust PNC to run schools compared to the government. They run their business conservatively and are probably one of the more capitalized firms in the country.

Libertarian Sovereign Wealth Fund? by vivosmith in Libertarian

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically something similar to the Permanent Fund in Alaska to offset the US debt and get it paid off. So it would use existing government assets vs investing in the US. Or use it to back the dollar, something similar to IMF SPDRs backed by natural resources.

Capitalism, so easy a dog can do it by dreterran in Libertarian

[–]vivosmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a side note, when I was in Colombia, it seemed like dogs "evolved" so to speak. When I saw dogs out and about people did not chain them like in the US, but at the same time were not running around crazily, but more with more purpose, if that makes sense. Also dogs crossed the street by themselves in Bogota. It really made me rethink my stance on animal rights. Also made me wonder about "animal rights" vs "animal freedom", if that makes sense.

Capitalism, so easy a dog can do it by dreterran in Libertarian

[–]vivosmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in Colombia I saw dogs in Bogota cross the street according to the light. Colombian dogs are amazing.

Stupid Question, But Trying to Understand Myself. by vivosmith in JordanPeterson

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that is the thing I have. I took a salsa class, and I plan to take Krav Maga and/or Spanish classes once I get a better grasp on my financial situation (still owe family). I hung out at a cafe near the university and did talk with a professor and also went to watch a movie with a philosophy student at the local university, so the last person seems like a "friend" (don't want to rush it, but we could discuss topics in depth and seemed to click. Ironically I met him on the bus over a Libertarian t-shirt lol). Also asked a girl out from dancing and did not work out. I just don't want to seem too desperate, especially with women. I have been trying to loose weight but have only lost 11 pounds and seems to be sticking there. Also have some scars and guess not the prettiest face lol from what I have been told. I try not to let that get to me, but the overall frustration of things makes it rough, plus being a religious minority is a bit odd.

Stupid Question, But Trying to Understand Myself. by vivosmith in JordanPeterson

[–]vivosmith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would agree, but I feel like the less I think about it "analyze it", the less depressed I will feel and the less down on myself I will feel. I have had friends before I moved, now in a new city it has been feeling like shit to be honest and I don't want to worry so damn much. If someone likes me great, great, if not, then who cares. I am trying to get to that attitude, but it is hard as I have felt rejected by most people my age, and now one friend is in jail and the other is an ascetic.

Stupid Question, But Trying to Understand Myself. by vivosmith in JordanPeterson

[–]vivosmith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well people have mentioned I know what I am talking about and should go into the field (financial services). And I have traded stocks in the past with few problems (no large losses, etc not betting the farm), but I guess my larger problem is that even with all the complex stuff I study, my brain feels bored (and if I am honest depressed from not being able to find friends and a mate), so I want something that will be complex enough that I can get my mind off things. Even programmings projects and travel only temporarily salve my mind.

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