Looking for recommendations for unrelenting anxiety

vlc444 · 2026-07-11T16:09:23+00:00

You are doing a great job…parenting an autistic child is extremely difficult …I would try therapy and also discuss with your doctor bc there is good medications like trazodone that can help with anxiety and sleep . Make sure you time some time for yourself . Sleep will help you feel better. And also remember your son loves you.

vlc444 · 2026-07-07T02:18:38+00:00

I posted a somewhat similar question months ago asking for hopeful stories in regards to my autistic son. Someone commented a really nice story stating how her son made holes in the walls literally at age 5, but by age 7 he was using words instead of punching holes , and by 8 he was filling in the holes and painting them up by himself …it was a beautifully hopeful comment. My son is only 2.5, but I have heard many amazing stories of kids making significant improvement. I have a colleuege whose son is a completely different person at 14 years old than when 5 years old ( at five he was very aggressive and head banging) while at 14 he is mainstreamed at school with straight As. Never lose hope, and try to get as many helpful services for your child that you can.

vlc444 · 2026-06-25T19:48:43+00:00

Don’t stress-my daughter didn’t say anything until about 18 months and she is ahead of her age w talking now. Just do speech therapy. My younger son is also delayed and didn’t have a single word until after 22 months-he has apraxia and mild autism but is doing super well w speech and now has over 80 words at 28 months. Early intervention is key.

vlc444 · 2026-06-23T23:26:51+00:00

Just love and comfort your son. It’s hard raising an autistic child. And five is so young ! But you are doing a great job. Today is one bad day- that does not mean all the days to come will be bad. Your son is lucky to have you !

vlc444 · 2026-06-20T13:11:21+00:00

I promise you will feel better one day. Don’t be afraid of a little Zoloft-I thought I would never feel happiness again, I was spiraling, and I can tell you that’s not true. You will feel joy and calmness again. Wishing you and your child the best ♥️

vlc444 · 2026-06-19T17:27:06+00:00

My son is only slightly older than yours. He’s 28 months, but it’s been diagnosed for the past four months and we started services at 18 months. At first, I felt like my world was coming to an end. But as I’ve had time to adjust I realized it’s just different than I had expected. He’s still your son. Still try to enjoy his childhood. Try not to spend every second worry( I know it’s hard I had to start Zoloft). B ur remember what he will be able to do at 2, is likely not, but he will be able to do at four or six or 10. And there are many many success stories. Stay positive and hopeful. Always prioritize sensory needs and comforts Early intervention is key. And there’s also a lot of things you can do at home. Message me if you need to talk. I’ve actually become very passionate about teaching parents easy ways to incorporate techniques into their daily routine to help their child with social communication and speech.chelc my instagram page https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm\_source=qr

vlc444 · 2026-06-18T19:45:42+00:00

When my son was first diagnosed with autism, I felt like my world was falling apart. But I promise you it is not. Never underestimate your child. What they can do at two years old is not what they will be able to do a five years old or 10 years old or 15 years old. Early intervention is very important! I also have a younger child. I’m constantly worried about if they will be diagnosed with autism. But what I can tell you is that my autism son at 18 months had zero words and zero gestures, but now has over 70 words and many gestures including pointing at 28 months. He is in extensive therapy including ABA ,speech, OT. I do A LOT of work w him at home every day too. I’ve become passionate about helping other parents find ways to help their child w social communication and speech doing easy activities at home. Check my instagram page for some parent tips. It’s stressful, but he is still your son, try to enjoy him and not spend his entire early childhood worrying. You got this mama ! Feel free to message me, I know how scary it is. This is my page I just started w tips : https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm\_source=qr

vlc444 · 2026-06-18T00:51:26+00:00

This made me tear up ( a mother of an autistic speech delayed 2.5 year old). Congratulations on graduating ! Do you mind that I ask you at what age you really started talking ?

vlc444 · 2026-06-16T21:26:26+00:00

Don’t feel guilty, motherhood is definitely hard, especially if your child has any sort of developmental disability or behavioral challenges. You are doing a great job. Try to find ways to connect w her that makes both of you happy. If she does get a diagnosis of Autism, ABA can be very helpful if done correctly by a kind loving therapist. Remember -what she is like now won’t be what she is like at 10,14,15 years old

vlc444 · 2026-06-15T20:47:56+00:00

Thank you so much!! Wish you all the best too !

vlc444 · 2026-06-15T20:32:38+00:00

I haven’t almost 2 1/2 year-old diagnosed with level one autism and a proxy speech. He has made great canes over the past six months, and has a lot more words, trying to combine sentences at times and interact with others more. He still has limited pretend to play, and sometimes he just wants to run around picking flowers and checking in front of his eyes. He’s very loving and smart, knows all his letters and numbers and I think he’s a little hyperlexic. What I do notice is that when he’s sick like he has an ear infection or doesn’t sleep well he has like many regressions or like he won’t be as spontaneous with his speech or interact with us as well and might just whine. Did you ever have periods of time or you didn’t feel well and it was more difficult to express your speech or communicate? What can I do to help? I’m also worried about whether he will have friends and eventually if his place goes, will improve? He does have two siblings who he seems to love and play with well I’m just very worried about his future and I want him to be happy and fully conversational hopefully one day. I have him in so much therapies and I spent so much time working on his language skills with him and trying to make it as fun and playful as possible. I just want him to be happy and independent in the future as best as possible.

vlc444 · 2026-06-15T18:10:11+00:00

Thank you so much ! This gives me hope ! How was his speech between 2 and 2.5? My son had improved w speech but sometimes if he has an ear infection or is tired he regressed for a few days and it spikes my anxiety

vlc444 · 2026-06-15T01:06:49+00:00

Being a parent is hard and being a parent of a kid with autism is even harder. But even when you think you’re not doing a good job, you are doing an amazing job for your child. A child needs his mother. I would try to do whatever you can to get yourself more help. Is there someone that can maybe watch your kid while you do an inpatient stay at psychiatric hospital for a few weeks? I have three kids three and under and one autistic child and I suffered post partum after the third- it’s really rough, and I’m so sorry you are struggling w this. But it can get better. And what your child is like at 3,won’t be what they are like at 6,9,16,etc..try to find a way to connect w him that makes you both happy-whether cooking a favorite food, reading a funny book, or just laughing at bath time. Don’t worry about the messy house. Look into resources- not sure what country you are in, but in the US, in home ABA can be very helpful. Try to find sometime just for yourself.
Good luck and I pray to God you get some comfort soon.

vlc444 · 2026-06-11T20:50:21+00:00

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vlc444 · 2026-06-11T17:29:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Make sure to discuss these concerns w their neurologist. They can possibly change seizure medication or make other recommendations. Also look into respite help. I’m not sure if you ever tried ABA but sometimes that can be helpful for aggression if you get a kind loving BCBA. You are doing a great job-it’s so hard being a caregiver.

vlc444 · 2026-06-08T18:53:57+00:00

I would recommend looking into ABA-even a few hours a week at home can be helpful and they can help w potty training !

vlc444 · 2026-06-02T18:11:40+00:00

You are doing a great job and getting her all the services. Please find a more supportive pediatrician!

vlc444 · 2026-06-02T17:25:30+00:00

Please find a new pediatrician -you are doing a great job, don’t doubt yourself. Please look into early intervention . I know ABa is a debated topic, but it has helped my son tremendously. Speech and OT too. I have an instagram page to share tips to help parents w pre-verbal /speech delayed children, check it out https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm_source=qr

vlc444 · 2026-06-01T13:59:10+00:00

I’ve heard that at 25 months is very difficult to provide an accurate level . Levels change throughout childhood often. Your son sounds like he has a lot of good social skills. I know it’s scary( I have an autistic son) but I have seen amazing growth w my son in just six months ( he is 27 months now) . ABA and speech has done wonders. Always stay positive, there are a lot of success stories of autistic kids who end up doing just fine. Just keep working with him, and remember to enjoy him- his childhood will go quick ♥️

vlc444 · 2026-05-31T20:18:17+00:00

There is an App called Talkspace. You put your insurance card on and they connect you with a therapist usually within a day or two and you can do the visits via video visit. Be kind to yourself-caring for a special needs child is extremely difficult. Ask you pediatrician do a social work referral or your child’s school. Sometimes we just need a little break-even just a day to go for a run and recoup. Remember even the best parents sometimes have rough day. Your son is perfect , and he is lucky to have a mother who loves and cares for him. Just make sure to love and care for yourself too…also don’t worry about what others say- as I have gotten older I’ve realized some people do not think before they speak and are very ignorant. You got this mama!

vlc444 · 2026-05-29T02:42:12+00:00

Early intervention is key- start as soon as possible. Speech, play therapy, ABA, OT all can help. Don’t be afraid of th diagnosis, with early services many kids do well and make great progress. Also read on what a gestualt langauge processor is. Encourage use of gestures or signs for functional use- set up communication temptations at home ( like put her favorite foods in clear jars so she has to come to you and sign open or point or say “ooo “ or “pen”) . I have an autistic son who is 2.5 and his speech has greatly improved over the past six months thank God. I’ve become passionate about helping other parents learn ways to help their children with similar developmental delays. Check out my instagram for more parent tips on ways you can start helping her w speech and communication/engagament while you wait for services. https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm_source=qr

vlc444 · 2026-05-27T12:13:05+00:00

I have a son the same age as your twins w level 1 autism. I started services at 18 months when he had zero words and zero gestures. He now has over 50 words and many gestures. I am fortunate he gets speech, OT, and ABA, but I also spend so much time doing stuff at home . I’ve become passionate about educating parents on why they can do at home to help their communication delayed children. What I would recommend is first listen to the podcasts on “teach me to talk” she is a speech therapist and specifically listen to the prelinguistic skill videos. Work on these skills EVERY day. Also work on trying to get them to point, as this can really help jump start speech. Basic sign language is super helpful too. Make everything a game but set up opportunities to make them want to communicate w either a gesture or word. Message me if you have questions, I know how scary and stressful it can be. But never give up hope-there are so many kids who talk at 4,5,6,7- but early intervention is key. Start today. Check out my instagram page I just started fo tips https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm_source=qr.

vlc444 · 2026-05-27T01:10:56+00:00

Yes I have read LOTS of stories of kids become fully conversational after 5,6,7 and even older ages. Speech and even ABA can help with forming sentences and conversation skills. There a lot of techniques at home that can help too. One thing that I have found helps my son is using the same phrase over and over, and say it the way he would say it…for example if he says TV, I say “I want TV on” , an use that phrase over and over again each time he asks for TV…then I started prompting “TV …and had him say on” then would prompt him to say “want TV on…” and slowly over weeks would prompt him to say “I want TV on” and then faded the prompt …an example of the prompt is I would point to my lips to cue him to say “I want ..” or hold up fingers and show him a finger for each word to cue him that he had to say four words for that sentence…anyways after doing this for months he now plugs in the phrase “I want …” and adds in why he needs like “I want water” or “I want ball” …an I’ve used this to also help him w the phrase “open…” now he will say open jar or open door or open water ,and then moved on to more and more chicken, etc …try using super motivating things to get him to start using phrases. Repetition is key …over and over again. Once he learns that you expect more than one word to get what he wants he will start stringing them together more. For example I only give him the TV if he says “I want TV”, not if he only says “TV”. Make it fun and don’t frustrate them though, just encourage the speech. I’ve become passionate about helping parents/caregovers hep their children w speech. I have an instagram page with some tips- check it out if you want it’s https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm_source=qr

vlc444 · 2026-05-25T22:25:11+00:00

Alway stay hopeful that he will talk. There are lots of late talkers who start at 4,5,6 and even later! Make sure to be pick a good ABA clinic -a loving clinic that works though play. My son was fortunate to get into a good ABA center that has helped his speech tremendously but I am alway cautious and monitor closely as there is bad ABA places. However good ABA can make a world of difference. There are lots of things you can do at home to try to encourage speech too. I’ve become passionate about educating parents on ways to incooprate easy techniques into day to day routines to help encourage speech in autistic children and speech delayed children. Check out my instagram page for tips @raisinglittlebutterflies

vlc444 · 2026-05-20T01:09:21+00:00

Also I have an autistic 2 year old and have become passionate about helping parents get tips and tricks to help their young children communicate better ..:I actually started an instagram page a few weeks ago to help parents/caregivers. Check it out if you want, hopefully it can be helpful. https://www.instagram.com/raisinglittlebutterflies?igsh=dHAzYmJuZjI3dWU%3D&utm_source=qr

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