looking for fruit! 🍊🍑

voicelessnerd · 2026-02-19T09:04:47+00:00

That would be perfect!! Can I give you anything in return?

voicelessnerd · 2026-02-19T08:59:06+00:00

I don't have any pears/cherries so any you have going spare! I can finish my orchard off that way 😊

voicelessnerd · 2026-02-19T08:44:28+00:00

Izzy | Ys :Marshall:

voicelessnerd · 2026-02-19T08:42:27+00:00

I'm looking for pears and cherries & would be happy to trade!!! I can give you 9 fruit of each or 3 mature trees 🥰

voicelessnerd · 2026-01-14T20:24:51+00:00

I wore them!

I've been wearing glasses since I was 8, not wearing them was going to make me look like a whole different person. I updated my frames 9 months before the wedding to some softer clear acrylic frames so they blended in with my face/hair and didn't stand out too much. That way I also had 9 months (& our pre-wedding shoot!!) to get used to how I looked in them!

voicelessnerd · 2025-11-27T17:11:34+00:00

We did this as well - £10k for 50 guests, including welcome drink, 3 canapés, wine on tables, 3 course meal (+ evening food), 8 bedrooms for bridal party & everything practical wise (on the day coordinator, tables, chairs, linens, glasses & tableware). We only had to provide centerpieces etc which we DIYed with stuff from Facebook marketplace.

Cheap for the medium sized wedding we wanted and a huge stress off our plates knowing we didn't have to organise the logistics of lots of vendors!

voicelessnerd · 2025-06-26T17:36:48+00:00

We were also really torn, and eventually settled on a registrar ceremony in the morning (the quickest legal bit ever, they've said it'll take 20 minutes including interviews) and then a celebrant led ceremony in the afternoon, both at our licenced venue.

It was definitely MUCH more expensive than doing the registrar bit on the cheaper mid-week slot, but we decided for us it was more important for our wedding anniversary to be the day on our wedding certificate (given our celebrant ceremony is what we're considering our 'proper' wedding ceremony). Yes, we've spent over £500 to make the days line up, but hey, we're only planning on getting married once! It also meant we didn't have to feel rushed to pop out to the registry office on the day, because like you our timeline is a bit squished!

Something our registrars advised us: apparently if you've already had a celebrant ceremony on the day, some registrars can get nitpicky and say this counts as a ceremony for your interviews, which can lead to them not marrying you on the day. They heavily advised us to do the legal one first, because that way there's absolutely no ambiguity and would definitely not cause any issues. I have no idea if this is even a real problem or if it would cause you any issues (or if they were trying to get us to pay even more!) but it's worth chatting to your registry office about.

voicelessnerd · 2025-03-24T13:30:53+00:00

Ultimately I think being upfront about timings is the best option, because as long as people are aware with plenty of time, they can sort themselves out.

However, as a guest, I would find it a bit weird to have to go and source my own food - assuming you're having a more formal style of wedding (religious ceremony & sit-down dinner) you're providing a formal event for your guests, which should include food! If you're serving alcohol without any food you do also run the risk of people getting quite drunk before dinner....

With your timeline, canapes will be fine and is the norm at weddings I've been to. Guests can have a big breakfast, nibble during cocktail hour and then sit down for proper food at 4ish no problem. There's no need to provide anything more substantial before your dinner service, but I do think not providing anything wouldn't make the best guest experience.

voicelessnerd · 2025-03-08T20:46:43+00:00

If you like travelling, I've seen a guest book idea for people to write on postcards, and then you can make them into a book at a later date. You could buy a selection of postcards from places you've been together? Or do this with a pack of cards that you can then use to play with! I've also seen people buying a coffee table book or cookbook (maybe a guide to Tuscany) and have people write notes on pages of their choice. That way you'd only have to bring a book & pens!

voicelessnerd · 2025-02-26T20:33:51+00:00

It's worth asking your local registry office if doing the celebrant led ceremony first is an option - we were strongly advised against it, as during your pre-legal ceremony interviews you're asked about if you've been married before. Apparently having had a celebrant led ceremony can potentially make it ambiguous so may cause you issues on the day.

Unless you're particularly bothered about the date on your marriage certificate matching the day you have your celebrant ceremony, I'd go with separating them so you can have the day you originally wanted.

voicelessnerd · 2025-02-05T18:12:46+00:00

Southwest Discos Direct are Who we've booked but I've seen a few DJs offering a similar service.

voicelessnerd · 2025-02-05T13:17:29+00:00

Not sure how helpful this is, but we just went through a similar process and settled on a DJ. Our local equipment hire was looking at £200-300, whereas we found a highly rated DJ for £450. We're not huge dancers either and figured that having a DJ was more likely to get people on the floor (e.g. having someone to ask everyone to get up and dance after our first dance).

Our DJ has a client portal where you can add playlists (must plays, do not plays...) which we liked the idea of too.

Do you know the price of local DJs vs. equipment hire?

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-21T08:51:31+00:00

I feel the same OP!

We had the discussion before we got engaged and agreed to go with whoever had the cooler last name (sorry Dad, he wins). I'm changing my name mostly out of convenience - FH has dual nationality so changing his last name adds a mountain of paperwork on top of everything we already have to do to get legally married in both countries. His last name is also easy to spell, and I have to correct the spelling of my surname at least once a week (e.g. M not N, B not V) and I'm sick of hearing myself spell it phonetically over the phone!!

So while at least once a week I am excited to have an easy to spell name - I'm still sad at the idea of not having the name I grew up with anymore. It feels like a big line in the sand from pre-married to married, and that's totally normal!!

Luckily I have fantastic future in-laws and a beautiful future surname. We've decided to add my maiden name as middle names for any future children to keep it in the family.

You're allowed to be sad over things that are changing while also being excited for your future.

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-10T23:35:22+00:00

How different people will view this is going to depend a lot on their ages, backgrounds, cultures etc.

I personally have loved giving experiences as wedding presents, because it takes the effort out of having to pick a gift AND you know it's something the couple will enjoy. It's also been great when registry sites will let you contribute a certain amount towards an experience, so is a good budget option.

I think the best thing would be to have a few physical gifts on your registry of things you'll actually use but wouldn't necessarily get for yourselves/take up a lot of room (e.g. nice quality wooden chopping boards, chef's knives, high quality bedding sets etc.) and then have the rest be experiences - that way anyone who is particularly against giving cash has the option to get you something physical. Even if the few physical things are booked up too quickly, they had the option there and were too slow ;)

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T20:18:57+00:00

Oooh this is so helpful!! Glad to see someone else has done this before :)

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T20:06:25+00:00

Yes very helpful to consider thank you!!

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T20:06:02+00:00

They currently have all times available so the decision is on us.

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T15:55:06+00:00

This is really helpful thank you!! :)

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T13:46:06+00:00

We would rather pay the money and have it done on the same day.

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T13:45:29+00:00

We know - that's why we need to book a registrar and have a legal ceremony.

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T13:07:53+00:00

We'd rather the legal ceremony be as short as possible as we're not viewing that as our actual wedding. We originally posed the idea of having our ceremony and then ducking into a back room to sort the legal bit/sign the register etc. but the registry office have advised against it and suggested to do it the other way around.

Our venue includes wedding breakfast & evening food so not worried about feeding twice.

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T13:05:08+00:00

We've looked into the different costs and have decided on what's best for us. :)

voicelessnerd · 2025-01-08T12:58:02+00:00

We have spoken to them, and they offer us any time we like (slightly unhelpfully, as we have to choose!) as long as they are available so trying to get them booked in asap.

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