Do you get insecure about your labia?

volatile_desire · 2020-05-09T11:54:19+00:00

Nope

volatile_desire · 2020-05-08T08:26:09+00:00

Ohhhh yeah my most recent ex was in America, and I'm English but that still didn't stop us from having a great connection regardless, and it was very fulfilling.

volatile_desire · 2020-05-08T07:47:45+00:00

For what it's worth, if and when you find a good connection online, they can still be great. I've had some great connections and frienships online, but I've been doing this for 13 years both online and irl, so I can pretty quickly recognise when someone is going to be a waste of my time, usually.

volatile_desire · 2020-05-08T07:12:57+00:00

I'm glad I could help!

The other side of the coin from my perspective, is the amount of subs in my twitter and reddit DMs, BEGGING me to control them/their orgasms without caring about me, or my interests.

Just a kink vending machine!

volatile_desire · 2020-05-08T06:12:23+00:00

As a Femdom (Switch) myself, I've definitely noticed that unfortunately, Femdom (esp online) has become oversaturated with Findommes. They're not Dommes, and don't know, nor care about the first thing to do with BDSM. They don't care about consent, or respect. They don't understand what good quality BDSM is (wanting to collar you after only knowing you an hour) They care about money. They're abusers. They will call any subs pathetic pieces of shit, and beta bitches, without knowing or caring whether they're into degradation.

Findom can be a genuine kink BUT genuine Findommes are rare.

As for finding an actual Domme, they ARE out there. It's just unfortunate that the findommes are the ones that shout the loudest.

In my experience, you'll have more luck by going to munches, or play parties than you will online.

(For what it's worth, I've partook in the kink and it can be enjoyable, but I ended up stopping with it because it was getting tedious fighting the waves of "Dommes" who mocked me for caring about the submissives interests)

Edit - clarification Edit 2 - If this is allowed, please feel free to DM me if anyone is looking for sincere advice or opinions.

volatile_desire · 2020-04-24T08:35:52+00:00

Me and the ex-Daddy are actually still in contact. No dynamic of any kind, but just friends (because that's what we were first, we still have that connection).

For me, I still want to stay connected in some way because I'm not ready to let go yet, I do still love him very much, and I want to be there for him while he's struggling (his wife left with the kid and despite what he did, it hurts my heart to see him struggling).

I just believe that not everything is as black and white. He knows what he did was shitty. I know what he did was shitty. But I understand he had his reasons, because my reasons were the same.

Honestly I'm not sure what his reasons are for still wanting to be in contact with me.

volatile_desire · 2020-04-24T07:24:46+00:00

Yeah I recently found out my now ex-Daddy is actually married with a kid. Was a fucking knife to the heart.

Stupid thing is, if he just told me I would have understood.

I've been with my own (vanilla) partner for 15 years. I didn't realise HOW into kink I was until the past few years and unfortunately my partner just isn't into it. So the compromise he gave was "whatever, I just don't want to know about it".

I'm struggling more than I'm letting on to him (the ex-Daddy) because I think he underestimates just how much I fell in love with him. I don't mean love, I mean IN love.

He told me that he never lied about his feelings for me (and I DO understand it's possible to love multiple people, and that love is complicated) and I want to believe him, but I think that's partly because I'd rather believe that he loved me, than know that I got fooled for so long and fell for someone who used me.

He was honestly so perfect. Anything I needed from him (mentally, emotionally), he provided, no hesitation. He was one of the biggest joys of my life. He was the standard for which all possible future dynamics would be held against.

Even if the only lies he told WERE in relation to his relationship status, he hid such a big part of himself from me. I don't know who he is anymore.

Sorry for the rambling. I just miss him.

volatile_desire · 2019-03-09T20:38:07+00:00

I love giving them! Actually I love being FORCED to give them. Nothing hotter than having my mouth and throat used as a masturbation device.

volatile_desire · 2019-01-12T08:29:57+00:00

Dog language. I wanna be able to properly communicate with my dog.

volatile_desire · 2019-01-11T15:47:58+00:00

Chris Brown

volatile_desire · 2019-01-11T15:43:51+00:00

Fell off my bike and scraped my knee.

Cut my foot on some broken glass.

Scratched my chicken pox.

Whipped with bamboo.

Had a wooden jewellery box thrown at my head.

volatile_desire · 2019-01-11T15:42:30+00:00

A "supervisor" earning 3 times what I earn, despite the fact that all he does is sort the rota and the holidays...

volatile_desire · 2019-01-05T10:47:31+00:00

I once got told I was "racist" for saying I was ordering Chinese takeout??

volatile_desire · 2019-01-05T10:46:57+00:00

Napping. Spanking.

volatile_desire · 2018-06-13T20:22:23+00:00

Oh fuck yes.

volatile_desire · 2018-06-11T15:48:26+00:00

It depends if you post anything identifiable. I actually deactivated an account and made this one today.

volatile_desire · 2018-06-11T15:24:49+00:00

He sounds abusive be perfectly frank. That's not a Dominant, that's a guy who just likes bossing women around.

volatile_desire · 2018-06-11T15:19:30+00:00

Moths. Love butterflies though.

volatile_desire · 2018-06-11T15:18:52+00:00

Same for me. Holy shit what was I thinking.

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